tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post1144205774058100902..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: What NOT to say to SINGLE people.Shelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-85988480743953578782010-06-14T01:12:07.876-06:002010-06-14T01:12:07.876-06:00What helpful and cleverly articulated insights. I...What helpful and cleverly articulated insights. I will remember.LisAwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03299284773832500834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-33742626458216393842010-06-13T09:10:05.238-06:002010-06-13T09:10:05.238-06:00such a good post! my best mate is single and has b...such a good post! my best mate is single and has been for 4 years, she is beautiful but a bit too fiesty. She has set her standards so high now she will never get a man. She goes man hunting with her single older brother and they both wonder why they dont find anyone!!?heelsnstockinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15181825688180635545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-82556108896552033152010-06-12T19:55:08.633-06:002010-06-12T19:55:08.633-06:00Ohhh, did your help meet die in the war in heaven....Ohhh, did your help meet die in the war in heaven. My condolences;) Great Post! My sister was divorced, but single for a while. I was schooled on many of these very same thoughts....The hard way.Maleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11576123927559383158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-91214027515828992932010-06-12T02:42:02.794-06:002010-06-12T02:42:02.794-06:00Barb, good post.
I didn't get married until ...Barb, good post.<br /><br />I didn't get married until I was 35. I got some of those comments that you talked about. I also have seen marriage's fall apart partly because the couple married too soon, sometimes because they felt they had to be married. <br /><br />My wife told me that it was diffcult to be a member of our church (LDS) as a single adult. Since we believe in eternal marriages I would think that members could be more patient with our single members, after all eternity is a long time to spend with someone you are not fully commited to.rocslingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02994789444228546949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-59243829788448207852010-06-12T00:16:14.046-06:002010-06-12T00:16:14.046-06:00Oh Barb, you rocked this post! And might I add tha...Oh Barb, you rocked this post! And might I add that some of these words have spilled from my mouth a time or two. Live and learn! Love ya girl!Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05307046011093010582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-3887331520267140212010-06-11T22:50:20.447-06:002010-06-11T22:50:20.447-06:00I have two very SINGLE friends and I gotta tell yo...I have two very SINGLE friends and I gotta tell you, I love them both to death. I'm the kind of person who don't like to ask personal questions, I usually just wait til they feel like telling me or bringing up the subject. <br /><br />For whatever reason these two friends are still is simply none of my business at all...<br /><br />I thoroughly enjoyed this post.Anjenyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11746822979694584318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-13558604035312125232010-06-11T18:30:43.877-06:002010-06-11T18:30:43.877-06:00Luv it! Went straight to your blog and followed......Luv it! Went straight to your blog and followed... plus anyone that hangs out with Shelle is one smart cookie!Adoption of Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13714698687682760800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-28480466283588370302010-06-11T17:25:16.136-06:002010-06-11T17:25:16.136-06:00UGH! I HATE when people say that 'when you sto...UGH! I HATE when people say that 'when you stop looking, it will happen.' Really? So I can just sit at home and prince charming will find me, in my sweat pants, watching food network? I never have to leave the house again! YES! <br /><br />Hmmmm. I don't really think so. I think, if you want to find someone, you have to at least partially be looking. But until the others who say that realize it, I'll keep watching Food Network and blogging from my bed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-38722255624780371822010-06-11T14:57:59.831-06:002010-06-11T14:57:59.831-06:00Unfortunately I have the same problem just the opp...Unfortunately I have the same problem just the opposite. I got married a few years ago and it is over, but few know this. So hearing how's married life? or How are the newlyweds? Those questions make my skin crawl!!! So think twice when asking those questions because you just never know the situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-5834287035259719482010-06-11T14:35:27.034-06:002010-06-11T14:35:27.034-06:00How bout, "Sucks to be you!" or "To...How bout, "Sucks to be you!" or "Too bad you aren't skinnier..." or "Maybe if you didn't talk so much?" <br />Those are my top single friend commentaries. Whatdoya think?annie valentinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09259818466629913925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-63829816535396808032010-06-11T14:30:33.862-06:002010-06-11T14:30:33.862-06:00Is it ok to make "fish in the sea" comme...Is it ok to make "fish in the sea" comments? Or does that strictly apply to when you want to sound obnoxious during a recent break up discussion?<br /><br />My older sister (who is only like 14 months older than me, but has always deemed herself mature enough to be my mother) is always telling me, "When I'm married, my husband will NEVER do that." Sometimes I laugh, but sometimes I say, "And that's why you're NOT MARRIED!!!!" Which probably doesn't help anything...melissabastowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07707231121450160335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-23770704760288715882010-06-11T13:48:06.660-06:002010-06-11T13:48:06.660-06:00When I was single I hated the fact that I was not ...When I was single I hated the fact that I was not married and even told myself that it looks like I'll NEVER find anyone EVER. It was at this point that I decided not to worry about it and concentrate on myself. I strove to become a better person and be able to communicate with people and understand how relationships work. It was through this self reflection that I was able to overcome my self loathing and be ready for the person I wound up marrying.<br /><br />I'm not saying do what I do, just that this is what I did.Cajohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17705931109877069830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-16433697745833024822010-06-11T13:11:55.449-06:002010-06-11T13:11:55.449-06:00This was a great post. And so true. Not that I&#...This was a great post. And so true. Not that I've ever said them. ;o) My sister got married a little later in life and she was actually asked (more than once)is she was a lesbian. Just because she wasn't married yet. So, yah, people say some pretty dumb things. Even when they're not looking.Lady of Perpetual Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01434516025772250275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-74484344608696918772010-06-11T11:10:45.450-06:002010-06-11T11:10:45.450-06:00This was awesome. I learned so much and have sadl...This was awesome. I learned so much and have sadly said many of things. It is my natural tendancy to try and help someone in pain, but you are so right, so often there is no fix and so just the empathy is the best. I will for sure try to remember this post.Nutty Hamster Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03140942348874900744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-75008988083320002652010-06-11T10:58:17.386-06:002010-06-11T10:58:17.386-06:00what an awesome post! I love your outlook on it al...what an awesome post! I love your outlook on it all! You are so correct, like "you can't find the great men out there" awesome!Sara @ Domestically Challengedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10245599062507705190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-46295794469454257522010-06-11T10:35:07.618-06:002010-06-11T10:35:07.618-06:00Barb,
I really don't know single people. Is th...Barb,<br />I really don't know single people. Is that sad or what? Well actually I do...but she's sort of a drug addict so we really are hoping she doesn't meet anyone at this time :(.Camillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10942173220844564813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-26472057531275504092010-06-11T10:28:50.372-06:002010-06-11T10:28:50.372-06:00My sister is single, loves soccer, can't stand...My sister is single, loves soccer, can't stand being diagnosed about her LDS social disease. I've often thought you two should get to know each other. <br /><br />How's that for a set-up?<br /><br />Hug!<br /><br />Love your post.Boy Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05988991342641590147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-22128797684209833542010-06-11T09:19:04.098-06:002010-06-11T09:19:04.098-06:00LOL
great post.
I always say "You're sti...LOL<br />great post.<br /><br />I always say "You're still single??????????????"<br /><br />then if the reply in the affirmative I go with one or two replies "Boy you sure are smarter than the rest of us"<br />or<br />"Damn I wish it was me"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-43449270392267656782010-06-11T09:08:20.427-06:002010-06-11T09:08:20.427-06:00Lara-I almost put that in the post, too. If we'...Lara-I almost put that in the post, too. If we're going to spend the rest of our lives with someone (and beyond) I think being picky is probly a good thing :)Barbaloothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01541675474218507411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-58492471034618993062010-06-11T09:06:44.749-06:002010-06-11T09:06:44.749-06:00I realize this post makes it seem like you shouldn...I realize this post makes it seem like you shouldn't speak to single people in general---life may be safer that way:) Mostly we just want you to empathize. Feel free to tell us that it sucks we're single, that you're sorry we're not dating etc. I often hear wives complain that they're husbands are trying to fix their problems, when the wife just really wants to discuss them. It's like that. We just want to talk about it...you don't have to try and fix it, just listen to us.Barbaloothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01541675474218507411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-28943674871904850932010-06-11T09:05:45.085-06:002010-06-11T09:05:45.085-06:00Great post, Barb. My brother didn't get marri...Great post, Barb. My brother didn't get married until his 30's and he endured so much of this crap. I thought the worst was that people told him he should stop being so picky. Okay. So they want him to just marry any old girl, forget that this is the rest of his life and eternity we're talking about? He wasn't a guy that would dump a girl for having a big nose or something, either. :)<br /><br />Anyway, wise advice here. I hope lots of people read it.Lara Neveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08351324888724799014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-34274334092808251712010-06-11T08:45:46.179-06:002010-06-11T08:45:46.179-06:00Your post made me grin. I have that problem...in ...Your post made me grin. I have that problem...in a weird inverse sort of way. I have single friends asking me to help fix them up. Uhh...I had a HARD time finding someone and after finding one, you want my help? LOLDCHYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18357136744364697580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-75407180396395638702010-06-11T08:30:32.772-06:002010-06-11T08:30:32.772-06:00Barb, I just want you to know that he his out ther...Barb, I just want you to know that he his out there for you. You just haven't found him yet and he just hasn't found you yet. It'll happen when it happens because there are so many great guys out there. <br /><br />I hope I've never said those things to you *racking my brain*. Can we still be friends????e.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17401846790124395822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-90790564988175508592010-06-11T08:18:51.426-06:002010-06-11T08:18:51.426-06:00I love it!
My best friend is a widow and some o...I love it! <br /><br /> My best friend is a widow and some of the things people say to her because she is still single. On V-day she was a bit down and this lady who didnt know her told her to hug herself and imagine her husband hugging her and that if he could he would have sent her flowers from heaven, needless to say it wasnt the best thing to say to her. But what do you say when your friend is down and she is worried she is going to be alone forever? I have used the line " it will happen when it happens" now i feel like an ass LOL. I really dont know what it is like to be single I got married in high school so if you got any advice let me hear it!! Thanks!Mrs.Duranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06076219532411697907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-70486267481884534272010-06-11T08:14:55.412-06:002010-06-11T08:14:55.412-06:00ummm, that was supposed to be WOULDN'T swap fo...ummm, that was supposed to be WOULDN'T swap for my marriage... crud - gotta self edit a little faster!TisforTonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16666161027683872670noreply@blogger.com