tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post4290662479510179322..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: I Have A Favorite Child....ok, not really, well sorta...Shelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-64208632216087031212010-02-01T20:38:56.365-07:002010-02-01T20:38:56.365-07:00Very great post jule. You refelect the right way !...Very great post jule. You refelect the right way !!;) Rock onATV WEB SOLUTIONhttp://atv-web-solutions.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-81144583806243724752010-01-30T06:33:44.617-07:002010-01-30T06:33:44.617-07:00just jules, just a great post.just jules, just a great post.leah - moxiethrift on etsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02537109684901948746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-19552161096983618282010-01-28T16:23:59.316-07:002010-01-28T16:23:59.316-07:00give me an AMEN! so it is! thanks everyone this ...give me an AMEN! so it is! thanks everyone this has been fun. I even got a great phone call from someone who read this and we further discussed it on the phone. Can't wait for the guy's view tomorrow .....stay tuned.Just Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09842126422147340390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-29729218462516943722010-01-28T15:07:27.518-07:002010-01-28T15:07:27.518-07:00Exactly! That sums it up better than I did. :-)Exactly! That sums it up better than I did. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-72595345847947802322010-01-28T14:49:10.430-07:002010-01-28T14:49:10.430-07:00Mountain Gal - thanks for the comment. I guess it...Mountain Gal - thanks for the comment. I guess it is true - the old story:<br /><br /> He asked her, “Which one of them is your favourite?”<br /><br />She said simply, “The one who needs me most.”<br />“Which one?” he asked in surprise.<br /><br />She said, “The one who is sick; the one who is sad; the one who is lonely…. the one who needs me most … That is my favourite child!”Just Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09842126422147340390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-70502174703987166722010-01-28T12:16:32.056-07:002010-01-28T12:16:32.056-07:00You make great points in terms of "clicking&q...You make great points in terms of "clicking" with certain personalities. ... I have sometimes observed parents develop strong bonds with a "difficult" child, maybe because they have had to invest so much time and energy, and love them "in spite" of their flaws.<br /><br />For reasons beyond my control, there is a big age gap between our 2 children. I have taken them both on individual trips, which were vastly entertaining in their own ways. If am honest, the things that annoy me most are usually related to qualities that I least like in myself. LOL<br /><br />I am really enjoying the teenager stage with our oldest daughter. We enjoy similar tastes in books, music, activities, movies, etc. It is fun to discuss/debate different topics as she truly has a sharp mind and strong opinions. I could do without seeing my clothes left on her floor though....<br /><br />Our son has several interests that he shares with me and my spouse, so we each "bond" in different ways with him. He is extremely observant and tends to be the more sensitive to other's feelings at this stage.<br /><br />Coming from a large family of 7 kids, I don't think any of us felt/feel more or less loved by our parents than the others. This has remained true, even when one or the other may receive more of something according to their needs for a time.<br /> <br />The fact of the matter is, each child is unique, and all have varying needs at different stages during their life. The trick is in filling those needs without making the other child(ren) feel like they are loved any less. Hope we can pull that off....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-24616786770648143492010-01-28T11:13:18.681-07:002010-01-28T11:13:18.681-07:00VL- isn't it a blessing that different kids fi...VL- isn't it a blessing that different kids fit with each parent differently. Imagine if the same kid drove both of us crazy! ahhh<br /><br />tysdaddy-Picnics are a for sure. We can eat at the feet of Paul and Babe<br /><br />3men&lady- the easy going child does have the advantage don't they. however in life the stubborn ones might be better suited for the harder situations<br /><br />BBH- you raised independent strong children that are busy trying to raise their own strong amazing children. It is a compliment to you.<br /><br />cfoxes- relationships certainly change don't they? it will be interesting to see how mine change with my children<br /><br />Queen- you rock. that is all i have to say. angel with her wings hiding<br /><br />Deb- something went right somewhere you are an amazing lady.<br /><br />Anjeny- my kids have YET to say I love one more then the other or I have a favorite *crossing fingers* that I can avoid that for awhile longer. I think I would just say - yeah, you're right. because they know what a smart *ss I am, and they would just laugh.Just Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09842126422147340390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-72727857993501292072010-01-28T10:25:53.098-07:002010-01-28T10:25:53.098-07:00Great post, Jules.
With seven children and differ...Great post, Jules.<br /><br />With seven children and different ranges, I can totally relate to this post. <br /><br />I hate to say this but I find that two of my kids, I really connect well with, my oldest daughter and my second son. I connect with my oldest daughter since she's my first and I had her while I was younger, I feel like we kinda grew up together. And because most of her personalities are similar to mine, I can relate and understand what goes on in her mind most of the time.<br /><br />My second son, since he was a baby, I've always had this close bondness with him...I don't know why that is. He's also my emotional one, he takes things literally and seriously yet without his awareness, he can be a clown.<br /><br />If I have to go on a trip anywhere...these two would be the ones I pick to go with. My oldest because like I said, being similar in so many ways, we'd really enjoy each other's company and she's one of most mature teenager I've ever met. I often joke to my husband that my daughter understand enough that sometimes that all I have to do is look at her and she knows what I want her to do. My son, because of the way he is, I know I would constantly get entertained if I take him with me on any trip.<br /><br />Of course my youngest girl goes anywhere with me because well...she's my baby..LOL. It's funny because all of my kids when they're upset with me, they'd point out that I love so and so kid better than them and they always ask me who's my favorite and whoever ask me I would tell him or her that she or he is my favorite. <br /><br />Of course, they all don't mind coming in second place in the favorite scale as long as the youngest daughter is number one favorite..she is after all their favorite anyways. LOLAnjenyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11746822979694584318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-25280749986598886832010-01-28T09:45:05.196-07:002010-01-28T09:45:05.196-07:00Fascinating subject...I can see it touched a lot o...Fascinating subject...I can see it touched a lot of people! It certainly made me think..loved your language about 'clicking' with some people. Also the image of being able to 'read' your children across the room. As an intuitive feeler, you are a genius at this...not just good at it. Well I'm off to visit with my mom and ask her why she didn't love me as much as my sister....ha! Just kidding! :-)Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14911064672272472232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-17906446309698837422010-01-28T09:28:50.354-07:002010-01-28T09:28:50.354-07:00Great post Jules! Can we pock none of the above? L...Great post Jules! Can we pock none of the above? LOL I too have a hard time with the "pleaser" in the family, but they all annoy me equally. As for the weekend...can I go alone?Homer and Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05989743578669625792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-33619173475949332802010-01-28T09:09:50.507-07:002010-01-28T09:09:50.507-07:00Okay, I have two children, a 15.5 yo girl and a 13...Okay, I have two children, a 15.5 yo girl and a 13 yo boy. I can totally relate to this. <br /><br />In her younger years, the girl was a crier. Every.day. I was patient with her and let her just get it out of her system. In the past 3 years or so, she has grown into this beautiful, passionate, I-am-my-own-person person and her and I really relate.<br /><br />My son, is more like my dad and me. But now that he is starting to get older, I can see that he is not mine as much as he was. We seem to but heads a lot and disagree more.<br /><br />But I love both of them with all my heart!cfoxes33https://www.blogger.com/profile/07238250794267999179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-60085258116673530702010-01-28T08:49:40.541-07:002010-01-28T08:49:40.541-07:00I have 3 children, 2 boys and a girl. When they w...I have 3 children, 2 boys and a girl. When they were younger, I had one that fought me his whole childhood and late into his teens. I felt I didn't bond with him but kept trying. I couldn't reason with him or connect with him. The oldest and youngest were 'no problem, well behaved children' easy to bond with....So if I had to pick one to go on a trip with, I wouldn't have wanted to pick him but he would have been the one I would have chosen because I feel he was acting out for attention. He got negative attention most of the time. He was the middle child. (I would have done things differently if I could have a do over). <br /><br />This however, would not be fair to my other two children who probably wouldn't understand why he misbehaved and got rewarded by going alone with mom. Looking back on it now, I wished I would have done just that when they were younger, gone somewhere special with just one of my children at a time but I was so intense on being 'fair' to all of them that it would have seemed mean to me at the time. If one went, they all went.<br /><br />However, to wrap it up, I absolutely DID NOT have a stronger bond, or loved one more over the other. Now that they are older, I feel my bond with each of them getting thinner and thinner. It makes me sad and unhappy. They have their own 'very busy' lives. <br /><br />The middle child lives here in the same town and I feel I finally did bond with him. I love my children and now grandchildren more than anything else.(except hubby) I guess that is part of getting older and if it is, I don't like it. <br /><br />You all have heard this before but bears repeating, enjoy each minute with each of them. Embrace their likes and differences and hope when they get older, with families of their own, they look back on their life with you as a good life, with good memories. After all, when you get older, memories are all you have left.Big Blue Househttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03059974546817566998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-60871039092407741902010-01-28T08:32:02.625-07:002010-01-28T08:32:02.625-07:00It's too early to tell about having a closer c...It's too early to tell about having a closer connection between my 2 since our youngest is 7 months, but my oldest (age 7) and I are very close. He and my husband don't have the same connection that he and I do. In my family, there are 5 of us. It's a running joke that my baby brother is mom's favorite. But no one cares b/c he's so easy to get along with and has always been such a good kid (compared to the rest of us troublemakers!) that we all agree. He never has had to have a spanking, while the rest of us had MANY, lol.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-795248891031854452010-01-28T07:29:56.570-07:002010-01-28T07:29:56.570-07:00I'll be posting on this topic tomorrow, so I&#...I'll be posting on this topic tomorrow, so I'll spare any details at this point. But with four kids as well, all very unique and varied in personality quirks, I definitely would say that there is one in particular that I'm drawn to . . . for reasons I'll explain later. <br /><br />You have a lovely bunch of kids, Jules. Next time we're close to your neck of the North, we HAVE to do a picnic or something . . . <br /><br />Great post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-38717536150253638592010-01-28T06:56:58.705-07:002010-01-28T06:56:58.705-07:00I have two girls one looks and is more like my hus...I have two girls one looks and is more like my husband the other looks and behaves more like me. yikes..<br /><br />As you said neither is a favorite but there are things I would rather do with one than the other and i "like" both for different reasons.<br /><br />It also seems that the triggers for my husband and myself are different for both too.. good thingVodka Logichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870805969416858519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-53708021715428892742010-01-28T06:53:38.701-07:002010-01-28T06:53:38.701-07:00thanks ladies, especially the part where you agree...thanks ladies, especially the part where you agreed with me ;)Just Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09842126422147340390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-29828873153037520912010-01-28T06:44:07.130-07:002010-01-28T06:44:07.130-07:00I feel the same way. My kids are SO different - bu...I feel the same way. My kids are SO different - but I love them for those differences. <br /><br />And I do find it funny that the child that is most like you drives your husband nutty! :)MommyLovesStilettoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09743876173745605269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-48785739618148153722010-01-28T06:41:08.819-07:002010-01-28T06:41:08.819-07:00Great post Jules!!!
I agree with you on the not h...Great post Jules!!!<br /><br />I agree with you on the not having a favorite child, but I do have a stronger connection? Is that right word? With one then the other.<br /><br />And I love them both dearly but differently.<br /><br />Their worries concerns troubles are still mine.<br /><br />But yeah if I went on a trip and could only pick one... Sure there is one I'd have a blast with and one I'd worry more over...but that might have a lot to do with age and stages of life?Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-63264908472926090832010-01-28T06:09:44.352-07:002010-01-28T06:09:44.352-07:00Phew... this is finally up. I had quite the time ...Phew... this is finally up. I had quite the time posting this thing today. The auto post didn't work (I forgot about the time zone change) and then I posted twice and then the font posted wrong. oh my goodness, you would think it was a Monday. Sorry for all the flubbers - here ya go....I hope you enjoyed. Comment away, I will be back at lunch time to answer :)Just Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09842126422147340390noreply@blogger.com