tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post4338515472275752777..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: Male View: Why Be ShyShelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-276824321412153192009-10-02T05:16:55.175-06:002009-10-02T05:16:55.175-06:00Im the social one.... its hard sometimes because I...Im the social one.... its hard sometimes because I often have to turn down nights out with friends because my husband wont go (im talking about couples going out not girls nights).. yet anything work related or his friends invite us I always go. My husband often times has Manditory fun..dinners. Sometimes church events seem like the same thing... and find ourselevs in situations that we are friends by circumstance.(which can turn out to be ok) Finding couples to socialize with that we both enjoy their company??... I am nice to everyone and can have conversations with everyone. The question was.. how do i handle it.. I dont know I just do and I have to let it go at times.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08741252535558883985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-34629065626165430842009-10-01T20:01:34.841-06:002009-10-01T20:01:34.841-06:00This was a good post! Fortunately both my husband...This was a good post! Fortunately both my husband and I are very social, but it didn't start out that way. I was the shy one and my husband was Mr. Social. I had a job which required me to interact with people, so in time it brought me out of my shell and now I love to entertain.H.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10555156176113515138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-53977128486326705122009-10-01T15:43:02.307-06:002009-10-01T15:43:02.307-06:00@Shelle-BlokThoughts: I love the idea of food, per...@Shelle-BlokThoughts: I love the idea of food, perhaps I can come up with some suggestions for topics that revolve around food for you.<br /><br />@ZenMom: I believe I am also like you. I am typically shy around strangers. Someone said to me one time: "You're so quiet" to which I replied "Just you wait".<br /><br />@Missty: I think that everybody ebbs and flows when it comes to being social. Looks like you are both on an even keel.<br /><br />@thecheekofgod: I tend to agree that as we get older the reasons for socializing change. I believe I just want to be accepted as a couple and not have people turned off because of one or the other.Cajohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17705931109877069830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-52336178175199546852009-10-01T13:46:51.533-06:002009-10-01T13:46:51.533-06:00Interesting topic . . .
As we've gotten olde...Interesting topic . . . <br /><br />As we've gotten older, I think the dynamic of getting together socially with other couples has changed. When we were younger, it was about having a good time, getting to know new people, and just socializing. Then there was the kid stage, where it seemed every get-together revolved around a PlayLand. Now, since we are able to get out more without the kids, it's about us. Maybe once a year, around a birthday perhaps, we'll do something with another couple. But more enjoyable is just being alone together . . .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-84861495092873228252009-10-01T10:33:24.674-06:002009-10-01T10:33:24.674-06:00I am the social one, and my dh is the more quiet a...I am the social one, and my dh is the more quiet and reserved one. First married it was very hard for me. I wanted a social circle/life, he didn't.<br /><br />Now he has stepped up to being more social and I am not as much. So we are more even now.Misstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677390785575744116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-27198987908264627962009-10-01T10:10:04.611-06:002009-10-01T10:10:04.611-06:00Oh gosh, I can relate to this!
In our case, my hu...Oh gosh, I can relate to this!<br /><br />In our case, my husband is the outgoing one and I am the introvert - until I get to know you, then it's hard to shut me up. ;)<br /><br />The irony is that my job requires me to be outgoing and even to do quite a bit of public speaking. But, in my personal life, I am the proverbial wall-flower. Happier with my nose in a book than making small talk. <br /><br />I'm still generally uncomfortable in new social situations and when meeting new people.<br /><br />But I think my husband and I have managed to balance each other out in this area just a bit. He takes the lead in most new social situations, giving me the chance to get more comfortable and kind of ease into things. :)OneZenMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00764231117789511983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-57639478507236624712009-10-01T09:50:10.779-06:002009-10-01T09:50:10.779-06:00I love the idea of doing like a class together, th...I love the idea of doing like a class together, the cooking one would be great going off of DGB's post last week we all would have fun with anything to do with food!<br /><br />It's hard for me to understand shyness because I've never been that way, but it's cool that you have come up with ways to try and work through it for you guys :)<br /><br />Thanks for the post!Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-49439450144244577972009-10-01T09:36:51.251-06:002009-10-01T09:36:51.251-06:00Glad to have been able to post about Real World si...Glad to have been able to post about Real World situations. Here's a related post about couples that helps explain how I view my relationship:<br /><a href="http://cajoh.blogspot.com/2009/10/couples-and-train-couplings.html" rel="nofollow">http://cajoh.blogspot.com/2009/10/couples-and-train-couplings.html</a><br /><br />Enjoy,Cajohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17705931109877069830noreply@blogger.com