tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post5636414147928383369..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: Shelle's Love Definition-which is WAY better than Sage's!Shelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-1825870499265832802010-03-04T10:06:48.114-07:002010-03-04T10:06:48.114-07:00Also, love for me is the person I don't ever w...<em>Also, love for me is the person I don't ever want out of my life even during those times I'm mad or angry at them</em><br /><br />That's when I knew it was time to leave. When I didnt have that 'anxious' upset feeling in my chest about not having him in my life any more. And when I stopped thinking 'I must tell ** that' if something interesting happened during my day.Joanna Cakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15944673677004607976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-42472723270805030672010-03-04T07:30:15.911-07:002010-03-04T07:30:15.911-07:00I told you I'd write something and link to you...I told you I'd write something and link to you and I did :) I hope it's ok!<br /><br />http://2010-year-of-miracles.blogspot.comKathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01764195832760041063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-8580528619991688052010-03-03T08:22:45.908-07:002010-03-03T08:22:45.908-07:00"Love is an action more than an emotion."..."Love is an action more than an emotion."<br /><br />OK, Shelle. You got me with that one, oh Queen of Google Buzz.Kevin McKeeverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10673014424525900380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-73675199597760377722010-03-02T22:03:53.510-07:002010-03-02T22:03:53.510-07:00I agree with Shelle
and no, not just because she ...I agree with Shelle<br /><br />and no, not just because she told me to come over and say exactly that.<br /><br />I love my husband - and while I appreciate ALL of the ways he shows his love, I think those little gestures like dishes and filling my care up with gas make me smile the most... because he didn't have to - he wanted to.<br /><br />And when I'm not being a crabby meanie-head I reciprocate well and show HIM the love in his favorite ways. (he doesn't care if I do the dishes for him... weird.)TisforTonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16666161027683872670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-75779606703463624672010-03-02T16:03:02.710-07:002010-03-02T16:03:02.710-07:00Alex- lol...okay very true! It is harder if you LO...Alex- lol...okay very true! It is harder if you LOVE them :)Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-7628686209329115012010-03-02T16:01:31.288-07:002010-03-02T16:01:31.288-07:00Cajoh- that is perfect! Realization that you love...Cajoh- that is perfect! Realization that you love them. Realization when you fight you still love them. Realization because they are gone they are still fresh in your mind...<br /><br />That was good.Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-37657372213415388552010-03-02T15:59:37.321-07:002010-03-02T15:59:37.321-07:00Jules-- oh for sure that is why I posted today :)....Jules-- oh for sure that is why I posted today :). You weren't suppose to point it out! Hehehehe<br /><br />Most Men and Women think a like. But if a man is emotional then he is judges and called, "gay" and if a woman is unemotional she is called "hard" "cold" like "stone" I wonder why that is?<br /><br />Hmmmmmm<br /><br />Great comment thoughShelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-40103364295962209262010-03-02T15:56:06.045-07:002010-03-02T15:56:06.045-07:00NV- thanks. I think we have all been on both sides...NV- thanks. I think we have all been on both sides huh?Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-23108428393820087252010-03-02T15:14:47.664-07:002010-03-02T15:14:47.664-07:00Oh blah blah Shelle :P Yes, I know, if you like so...Oh blah blah Shelle :P Yes, I know, if you like someone you can do the same thing but we're talking about LOVE. Also, it's consideribly more hard to do this when you LOVE the person.<br /><br />So there :PAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-43275639741850895482010-03-02T14:53:09.619-07:002010-03-02T14:53:09.619-07:00OK… Love for me is a realization. I realize that I...OK… Love for me is a realization. I realize that I am in love with someone and that is when I tell them. It is my way of discerning the difference between the Lust and the Social definitions that you mentioned.<br /><br />And for me Relationships Relate. That means that we relate to someone and that is what a relationship is to me— how we relate to the other person. Being in a relationship does not necessarily require Love (I relate to my co-workers but don't need to Love them), but Love does bind a relationship in a way that makes relating with someone a lot easier when the challenges in life come your way. <br /><br />I best stop before I write a post (and I can if you want to hear more).Cajohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17705931109877069830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-46566512441937532902010-03-02T14:12:01.132-07:002010-03-02T14:12:01.132-07:00Is it a coincidence you post this on the day Sage ...Is it a coincidence you post this on the day Sage was on the road ????? ;) hahaha! j/k - totally.<br /><br />I think love is caring deeply for someone. I can lust after, like, and desire someone but do I actually LOVE them- no because my care for them or their life of what makes them - them.. isn't there. I just like their bod or eyes or they are fun etc. <br /><br />I have been thinking about this a lot since Sage's post. It is hard for men and woman to agree on this because our brains truly and physically do fire on opposite sides - so it IS different for men and women. thank god or we would all kill our husbands in their sleep and bury them in the garden I believe at one point or another in our relationships.Just Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09842126422147340390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-67954350149041322802010-03-02T13:48:03.743-07:002010-03-02T13:48:03.743-07:00My fave sentence in your post? "He forgives ...My fave sentence in your post? "He forgives me when I do things that I'm sorry for." Why? I've done on both sides. Very good post. :)Nolens Volenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15036305398084993224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-10142496921613946032010-03-02T13:32:47.017-07:002010-03-02T13:32:47.017-07:00ANj-Girl I know you got my back! hehehehe
"L...ANj-Girl I know you got my back! hehehehe<br /><br />"Love is also knowing when to back down or walk away during an argument. Even more, to learn to say "sorry" even if you feel you're not at fault."<br /><br />Also totally agree! There are many times I say "I'm Sorry" because I just don't want to argue about it and it's menial to me but I can tell it's a big deal for him. Same with arguing... sometimes, the fight just isn't worth the big picture!Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-90206629534779588612010-03-02T13:25:18.044-07:002010-03-02T13:25:18.044-07:00ANON 1 "Usually when real love is involved, t...ANON 1 "Usually when real love is involved, there is also understanding and forgiveness if needed to mend those relationships that are of utmost importance."<br /><br />So true. I think you do look past things because you want to. You make a choice everyday to stay in love with them. You Forgive them for driving you crazy... they forgive you. <br /><br />Real love that is.<br /><br />Fickle and not real love means you won't forgive and you give up.<br /><br />To me anyway. Great comment!Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-47345827143985315722010-03-02T13:22:12.036-07:002010-03-02T13:22:12.036-07:00Meagan- "Does Sage think those people love ea...Meagan- "Does Sage think those people love each other more or less than people who don't cry?" I don't know for sure? I think he just doesn't tie emotion into Love at all. Or anything for that matter.<br /><br />I do agree that he shows he cares and loves you a lot when he will even LISTEN that some guy made you nervous so he suggests locking the door.<br /><br />I remember bawling to my hubs while he was at work that my kid POO'D all over his bedroom and "WHY o WHY" did I have to clean it up! Crying, dry heaving... bleh. But he listened and didn't laugh in my face... Love I tell ya! :)Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-6342300351031042532010-03-02T13:19:28.855-07:002010-03-02T13:19:28.855-07:00Barb--It's completely how I feel in one senten...Barb--It's completely how I feel in one sentence about it.Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-78589045278269883602010-03-02T13:19:06.584-07:002010-03-02T13:19:06.584-07:00Alex-
"I also wanted to add that I believe Lo...Alex-<br />"I also wanted to add that I believe Love is also when you can let someone go because they want to go."<br /><br />Sure... but I can also just LIKE someone enough to do that.<br /><br />But I get your meaning.<br /><br />I think societies definition is unrealistic... more of a fantasy.<br /><br />LOVE is hard... ya know?Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-85969140424627300482010-03-02T13:17:52.537-07:002010-03-02T13:17:52.537-07:00Kat! That would be awesome! Thanks so much. It&...Kat! That would be awesome! Thanks so much. It's funny how when we read something it just makes sense... unlike reading Sage's version on Love ;)Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-4535685156719168102010-03-02T11:47:37.185-07:002010-03-02T11:47:37.185-07:00You're right..your version is WAAAAY better th...You're right..your version is WAAAAY better than Sage's..take that Sage! :p<br /><br />Seriously, I love it the first time I read it and even more the second time around. Love that you have an added photo on here.<br /><br />Love is also knowing when to back down or walk away during an argument. Even more, to learn to say "sorry" even if you feel you're not at fault.Anjenyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11746822979694584318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-40165060962981883792010-03-02T11:45:40.914-07:002010-03-02T11:45:40.914-07:00Sure, there are emotions involved with Love. Howe...Sure, there are emotions involved with Love. However, I also see it as a conscious choice/decision that has a direct correlation with actions. It is often the driving force behind the things that we do for others. It can also give one the greatest sense of joy and well-being. Sure, there is the flip side of the coin where those we love may also cause pain and vice versa. For me, the rewards are worth the risks ten times over. Usually when real love is involved, there is also understanding and forgiveness if needed to mend those relationships that are of utmost importance.<br /><br />I also agree with Alex in some cases that may mean that you love someone enough to let them go, if that is the right thing to do.<br /><br />I choose to love, because to me, it is a rich part of the human experience that I don't want to miss out on. Not everyone is going to express or feel things in the same way. However, to me, living life without love seems to be contrary to the fundamental point of human existence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-34492189191498218152010-03-02T09:28:32.940-07:002010-03-02T09:28:32.940-07:00"Love for me is the things he does to SHOW me..."Love for me is the things he does to SHOW me he wants me in his life by taking care of me. He protects me." Right there with ya sista! When I tell my Hubby a crazy story about how I thought a creepy guy was following me from the library and he gets that worried look in his eye and says you can keep the door locked until I get here. I just melt. I know he loves me because he doesn't tell me I'm crazy or want me to leave the door unlocked because it is annoying to stand outside your home and wait for your wife to unlock the door when you want to go in. He wants me safe because he wants me in his life forever because he loves me. You quoted that part from Sage's post about the crying. I forgot that I disagreed with that! Yes I cry sometimes because I'm happy or because Hubby and I hurt each other's feelings, but that is rare! I even see people crying and emotional at their weddings. Does Sage think those people love each other more or less than people who don't cry?Meaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01166675839896294650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-32219745622542312082010-03-02T08:23:24.790-07:002010-03-02T08:23:24.790-07:00I totally agree with what you said at the end: &qu...I totally agree with what you said at the end: "It is what you do daily in your life for the people you don't want out of your life." That seems so perfect.Barbaloothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01541675474218507411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-48791676068312895292010-03-02T07:41:03.446-07:002010-03-02T07:41:03.446-07:00Fantastic post Shelle :) I love your definition of...Fantastic post Shelle :) I love your definition of Love, both Society's definition and your definition. <br /><br />I also wanted to add that I believe Love is also when you can let someone go because they want to go. You don't fight or argue over it. If he (or she) doesn't want to be IN anymore or doesn't share your feelings, you can let them walk away without it changing how you feel about them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-29871515086643560842010-03-02T07:36:47.700-07:002010-03-02T07:36:47.700-07:00OH Shelle! You are married to my Dear Hubby! Ser...OH Shelle! You are married to my Dear Hubby! Seriously, I love your description of love, and I think I'm going to follow you now and sometime this week talk about love and send people this way to read your description...Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01764195832760041063noreply@blogger.com