tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post6947809687978193955..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: How do you show, "I love you"?Shelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-88614671854189779772011-02-16T10:48:05.055-07:002011-02-16T10:48:05.055-07:00Sorry, I was so so so sick yesterday and the day b...Sorry, I was so so so sick yesterday and the day before really... and still kinda today, but I wanted to say that I think you are right on.<br /><br />We love differently and we show love how WE would want to see it or feel it or hear it... totally forgetting that we should learn how THEY (our spouse or significant other) love.<br /><br />If we do that... love only gets better.Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04348925911858411809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-15168517371384260402011-02-16T07:40:12.321-07:002011-02-16T07:40:12.321-07:00My wife would complain to me that I never show lov...My wife would complain to me that I never show love through touching. I try to touch her whenever I can. Me? Either way works. I'm a simple creature. ;)DCHYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18357136744364697580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-27561720638984837512011-02-16T01:45:50.561-07:002011-02-16T01:45:50.561-07:00I know that all of us, both men and women, view lo...I know that all of us, both men and women, view love completely different. Duh! you say! But the truth of the matter is, unless we ASK our partner what love looks like for them, we will endlessly try to hit the target in a dark room.<br /><br />I have learned that to communicate what I need is a HUGE part of my relationship, with ANYONE. Male or female. In a love relationship, I really must state my needs, not only by the spoken word, but sometimes the best communication is written. Yup. We all hear things differently and I have learned most men don't like women's high pitched voice (especially when we are mad) and they tune us out. (how dare them) So when I communicate by a written letter, he has time to savor every word, and not go into his cave when I am ranting and raving.<br /><br />Okay, kick me off my soap box...enough out of me!<br /><br />LisaNot So Simply Singlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00461951741538969230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-34227805379990871262011-02-15T16:40:16.140-07:002011-02-15T16:40:16.140-07:00"Do, or do not. There is no try." Yoda!
..."Do, or do not. There is no try." Yoda!<br /><br />UPUPhttp://www.rednecklatte.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-67061287108403976422011-02-15T11:54:49.565-07:002011-02-15T11:54:49.565-07:00I'm totally with April. Both are important, bu...I'm totally with April. Both are important, but it's different for everyone.<br /><br />I do feel that if you start out in a relationship as friends AND lovers, you just naturally fall into the patterns of a loving relationship with all the little things.<br /><br />If you start out in a relationship that doesn't have both components, then you've got farther to go & might never really reach your relationship goals. If some small details drive you crazy about someone, that's not going to change. It only gets worse & can often drive that person away. If someone doesn't love in the way you do before marriage, it's not going to improve after tying the knot.<br /><br />Just be sure you have the same *style* of loving before getting married. We all know most people won't change just because we want them to, so be sure the one you love only needs a little tweaking.<br /><br />Back when the hubby & I married, he seriously thought once we said "I do." he didn't need to say it again. Once I set him straight & told him I needed more, he jumped right on board & never looked back. But, I think most of us (being the insecure humans that we are) need constant reassurance. We need to hear those words as long as they aren't empty words...Snooty Primadonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10023417839687501752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-7859579492573390552011-02-15T08:12:52.639-07:002011-02-15T08:12:52.639-07:00Both words and actions are equally important to me...Both words and actions are equally important to me. However, both the words and the actions have to be done or said like the person means it. Without meaning, the words and actions are empty. <br /><br />I really love when out of nowhere, my fiance will say, "I love you." We could be in 2 separate rooms of the house and I'll hear him say, "Babe!" I say, "Yeah?" He'll say, "I love you." I reply with, "I love you, too." as I have a big smile on my face. <br /><br />I feel that an action of love is when he stops at the wine store on his way home just to pick me up my favorite wine, without me asking him to do it. It's the little sticky notes I'll find in my clothes drawers with sweet words written on them. It's how the first thing he has to do when he gets home from work is give me a big kiss. It's clearing the ice from my windshield when I haven't asked him to. It's the random text message saying how lucky he is to have me. It's rubbing my tummy when I'm having horrible cramps. <br /><br />I know that my first response was that actions are more important, but I don't know how I'd feel if I didn't hear the words as well.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13361464759647140359noreply@blogger.com