tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post7591396852939799890..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: He Said She Said: Children and MediaShelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-3718117258766415592010-09-01T06:46:20.508-06:002010-09-01T06:46:20.508-06:00Tracie - I *totally* used to watch Spongebob befor...Tracie - I *totally* used to watch Spongebob before I had kids!! lolMomma Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771665079660617047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-87906728749860121712010-08-31T22:59:25.583-06:002010-08-31T22:59:25.583-06:00My kids are all grown now and have kids of their o...My kids are all grown now and have kids of their own.<br />My daughter has found that some shows can make HER daughter who is 6 be a little bratty and sassy.'<br />She doesn't let her watch those anymore.<br /><br />I think, like most of the comments above, you need to be aware of what your children are watching and how much they are watching.<br /><br />and my little humble opinion, is I do hold the MEDIA SOMEWHAT RESPONSIBLE AND ACCOUNTABLE for what is out there.<br />as the saying goes "It takes a Village......"<br /><br />If we want a corrupt, bratty, sassy, immoral, brutal society......keep showing the tools and behaviors to become so.wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13619293936418976914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-66843753638997264422010-08-31T18:48:05.136-06:002010-08-31T18:48:05.136-06:00T - I have to say that my biggest complaint would ...T - I have to say that my biggest complaint would be the unending commercials. My oldest one is pretty good and will say "Bet that will break the first time you play with it!". The younger one still wants everything that he says (although considering he doesn't get it you would think he would notice the pattern and stop asking)!<br /><br />Shelle - I will totally fess up that I was looking forward to the new iCarly episode (her room burnt down). And on more than one occasion someone has stopped by and asked "Are you watching Spongebob?" LOLTraciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01088998312915119665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-78436071007117317142010-08-31T17:33:52.679-06:002010-08-31T17:33:52.679-06:00JT-- Believe me, I will praise the day they are do...JT-- Believe me, I will praise the day they are done with those shows... not that they are growing up... just that I don't need to watch another episode Suite Life ON deck...<br /><br />But I'm not afraid to admit that I will watch Wizards of Waverly Place all by myself sometimes... but ONLY if it's a new episode ;)Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-74035852160788857202010-08-31T12:58:42.397-06:002010-08-31T12:58:42.397-06:00Tracie - as for letting your kids watch the weathe...Tracie - as for letting your kids watch the weather... someone's teacher needs to lighten up a tad I think :)<br /><br />also, I should mention that one of the primary reasons we turned off cable was the advertising... even if I sat my son down to watch Blues Clues (hey, he was 5... and it was better than Barney) I had to worry about what the commercials would be... after seeing American Beauty (the movie with the girl covered only in rose petals) advertised on Nickelodeon on a Blues Clues commercial break I'd had it and we pulled the plug.TisforTonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16666161027683872670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-62730072267744071332010-08-31T12:55:08.291-06:002010-08-31T12:55:08.291-06:00My kids are between the ages of 6 and 15... and w...My kids are between the ages of 6 and 15... and we turned off the cable 8 years ago - shockingly because of SpongeBob and that ilk... I was just tired of the nastiness, brattiness, etc... that those shows modeled. It was MY job, MY decision to not allow it in our house - and luckily ManOfTheHouse backed me up on that one.<br /><br />Media (television, movies, video games,even books) is what it is... and perhaps years and years of whining and picketing will change things - but what ultimately needs to change is parents accepting that they are the ones responsible for the education of their children.<br /><br />Of course... I don't have complete control over my kids - they do have friends whose house rules are not so anal. We've had some wonderful discussion with our children over the years about our policies - and the eldest actually told me recently that he was glad our television is not a focal point in our home - it took 8 years to get some decent feedback - but yes, totally worth it.<br /><br />ugh, sorry - I should just write my own post if I'm going to hijack the comment box!TisforTonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16666161027683872670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-61459996822499327102010-08-31T11:51:23.192-06:002010-08-31T11:51:23.192-06:00I am probably in the minority here but my kids are...I am probably in the minority here but my kids are also teenagers and i feel tv has really evolved since my kiddos were younger-not sure how i would be if I had youngin's now...<br />I am not strict at all when it comes to TV/movies...when they were younger they watched disney/nick I just have never really censored them as they got older-plus they 'played' a lot they weren;t really obsessed with tv... of course i didnt let them watch horror shows/movies things with violence etc when younger but if the main tv happen to be on a soap i didn't turn the channel...but now that they are older I let them make their own choices even if sometimes the choice may have been a bad oneAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13755834803574964576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-25070230467058998822010-08-31T11:45:48.072-06:002010-08-31T11:45:48.072-06:00Shelle, for the record, I couldn't have been h...Shelle, for the record, I couldn't have been happier than when my daughter grew out of her Disney channel phase. LOL<br /><br />I like most of the movies (especially Mulan), but I found that many of the TV programs patterned certain behaviors (i.e. bratty, sassy, etc) that I didn't care for in my own child...<br /><br />~JTAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-77170599700925780362010-08-31T11:33:53.581-06:002010-08-31T11:33:53.581-06:00Fair warning: I have strong opinions on this topi...Fair warning: I have strong opinions on this topic, so apologies if this turns into an essay. I can agree with some things that both writers commented on. Good post.<br /><br />I do think it matters what we surround ourselves with in terms of what we watch, read, listen to, etc. It does have an impact on us (not just kids either). As a whole, I think it influences who we are becoming and the things we spend our time thinking about (and doing). For us, a large part of this issue has more to do with helping our kids learn to make healthy lifestyle choices on their own.<br /><br />When our kids were younger, we did limit the options as to what they could watch. However, they did get to pick what they wanted to watch within those options. Yes, we also limited time spent in front of the TV, but we tried to do it in ways that didn't give too much importance to TV or what was on it and when. Basically, we used other activities and options to help us limit TV time, rather than treating it like a reward. We didn't want to turn it into something the kids wanted more than anything else, simply because it was denied to them.<br /><br />As our kids have gotten older, we discuss what kinds of things are appropriate for them to watch and what things are not. There is an age gap between the two, so there are still things more suited for our teen to see that aren't appropriate for age 9. They have a wider range to choose from, but they know to turn the TV off or change the channel if it is outside those guidelines. They do pretty well policing themselves, but we still monitor it. There are times when we step in and make a recommendation, which is usually taken.<br /><br />During the school year, the TV is on far less at our house. We pretty much take a hiatus from the TV during the week, but it may get turned on a little over the weekend.<br /><br />As for the news, I do feel it is important for the kids to be informed about the world around them, and to form an opinion. However, the source generally isn't the news on TV. (Reading is a big deal at our house)<br /><br />We do like the programming and DVR options on cable. However, if we had to reduce expenses, that is one of the first things that could go. If I thought about it on a "per use" basis, it is probably fairly expensive considering. ; )<br /><br />~JTAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-6827047225461394962010-08-31T10:58:33.410-06:002010-08-31T10:58:33.410-06:00YOu know. I just never have thought that much abo...YOu know. I just never have thought that much about it.<br /><br />I was never introduced to Soaps when I was young, my mom wasn't into those shows. But I wonder if I would have been if she was? <br /><br />She read... a.lot.<br /><br />So I read, a lot.<br /><br />And as far as movies go... if it was pg-13 and under we were good to watch whatever we wanted. I'm not sure they rated TV back when I was growing up... but we weren't monitored when we watched television.<br /><br />My kids aren't interested in adult television. They want to watch their Disney and Nickelodeon.<br /><br />Movies... we watch them first if we question whether they should be allowed to watch them or not...but I'd say we are way more lenient then a lot of parents... and probably way more relaxed than either of you.<br /><br />Thanks again guys for posting this!Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-37702229469151731192010-08-31T08:11:39.490-06:002010-08-31T08:11:39.490-06:00I do think that it's the parents (and not the ...I do think that it's the parents (and not the media and filmmakers) that need to take responsiblity for what their children are watching. <br /><br />I believe in my kids being informed when it comes to world events, but hearing about murder, war, and disaster every single day just creates unnecessary worry in my opinion. Let's let kids be kids! :)Momma Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771665079660617047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-80465429530923784692010-08-31T07:55:31.557-06:002010-08-31T07:55:31.557-06:00Probably not going to be a popular view but we are...Probably not going to be a popular view but we are not terribly strict with the TV. My boys are 6 & 9. Even when left to make their own choices: they stick with Kids programming and the Discovery type stations (we LOVE River Monsters, Dirty Jobs, Ice Road Truckers). They love anything sci-fi (like both their dad and I). But they also like Spongebob, Phineas & Ferb, iCarly, etc....<br />I think it is something to base on your particular child. My older one is really 40 years old. He -even at a young age - realized that things were pretend. My younger one needs to more sheltering.<br />As for the news - it is on A LOT. I did get grief from a teacher. Seems that my 6 year old was asking all sorts of questions about tornados and such. I was told it was inappropriate for him to watch the news (REALLY the weather????).<br />My older one thou impressed his teacher during the Presidential election. As she told me - they take a straw poll in class. She told me that every child in the class said well that is what mommy and daddy said. My son explained why his candidate was better for the country. She said she was fascinated as he explained his points. I was EXTREMELY PROUD of him!!!!Traciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01088998312915119665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-91963435766662208882010-08-31T07:38:22.129-06:002010-08-31T07:38:22.129-06:00I am very strict with the TV, and fortunately my h...I am very strict with the TV, and fortunately my husband is in agreement so it makes things easier. I have a 1 year old and an almost-3 year old. The latest recommendations from the AAP say that children should not really watch <i>any</i> TV until they're 2, so we try to limit the TV time at home to no more than an hour or two during the daytime, and it's usually during the baby's naptime. For the most part, we only watch PBS, because if they're going to watch TV, I want them to learn something.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-73929893853714918582010-08-31T07:18:53.592-06:002010-08-31T07:18:53.592-06:00We try to stay on top of what our kids watch. The ...We try to stay on top of what our kids watch. The little ones usually stick to Nick Jr. and Pixar movies. But our oldest can usually be found trying to sneak in an episode of something that's probably not 100% appropriate for a 10 year old. Most of the time though, he's watching Mythbusters or something on Discovery. <br /><br />I have to agree with Canadian Bald Guy. I always appreciate the discussions that some of these shows spark between the two of us (or, even better, his father). It's given us a huge amount of insight into the person he is, and the person he'll be. <br /><br />I don't shelter him from the news. It wasn't kept from me as a child and now, with the world that we're living in, I'm grateful that I'm informed. I want the same for my boys. I want them to know the facts, to form their own opinions based on them, to know that there ARE bad things that happen in this world but that a lot of times there can be a lot of good that come from them.Big Fat Ginihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03462503578188104745noreply@blogger.com