tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post7829832903809107610..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: Weight does affect my relationship. What do you think?Shelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-84024794633862237202013-12-31T05:16:51.423-07:002013-12-31T05:16:51.423-07:00Hey Shelle, long time.
I could have written tha...Hey Shelle, long time. <br /><br />I could have written that post. I would love to love my body but I can't. I do however love myself.... most of the timeVodka Logichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13870805969416858519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-21251742421118887412013-03-03T06:27:30.740-07:002013-03-03T06:27:30.740-07:00You do what you feel you need to do, to give you t...You do what you feel you need to do, to give you that peace of mind and confidence you desire. But . . . I've learned this the hard way over the years . . . don't cheapen how your husband feels by not believing what he says to be true. He clearly loves you and sees nothing wrong with you. If he did, you'd sense a distance. If that's not there . . . if he's jumping at every chance to jump your bones, so to speak . . . then take him at his word. Otherwise, you risk distancing him. He'll feel that you don't trust his love, his feelings, his actions. Accept the kind of unconditional love he's offering, even as you strive to improve yourself. <br /><br />Be well, my friend . . . Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-70780023602481485882013-02-21T16:43:12.185-07:002013-02-21T16:43:12.185-07:00I can't tell you how very odd it is to pop ove...I can't tell you how very odd it is to pop over here after making my own first post since 2010. To see you've not been blogging either, kind of validates me a little.<br /><br />Now, Listen to me woman. You are stunning. I've not seen you naked, granted, but you are a hot little number. <br /><br />Truth is, we all see our flaws. I have lost so much weight that I have excess skin at my belly. It's gross. And I'm so stressed out that my face looks like a teenager. Does it matter? No, not really. Only to me. I have adopted a "if you don't like the way I look, don't look at me!" moto.<br /><br />My advice... Stop stepping on the scale. Stop taking measurements. Do a little extra work and eat a little healthier but don't look at the numbers! It's depressing and nothing curves change faster than that. <br /><br />I stepped on a scale and it read 170. That meant I was 50 lbs overweight. I had no idea I'd gotten that big. But I didn't stress about the number. I changed my habits. It wasn't until all my pants started falling off that I stepped on a scale again. And I am now in a size 6 or 8. Big difference from the 14 I was in.<br /><br />You can do this. But don't make your entire life about getting skinny. And believe your husband when he says you're beautiful.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10648325812333011430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-75038808182172450832013-01-29T22:53:05.610-07:002013-01-29T22:53:05.610-07:00You're HARDLY alone!!! Don't look at this ...You're HARDLY alone!!! Don't look at this as a "diet", which always fail. Look at this as a LIFE CHANGE!!!! You are living...not dying! Each small positive choice you make, makes a difference. Go for it!!Queenie Jeanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13372885558434883470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-45363364005920645092013-01-17T20:05:35.580-07:002013-01-17T20:05:35.580-07:00If you lived closer I would totally be your workou...If you lived closer I would totally be your workout buddy b/c I need some help in this area as well. When you reach your 40's = your body simply DOES not bounce back like it used it. Those 5 pounds turn in to 10 pounds and then into 15 pounds and so on. {you are luck your hubs is nice to you - mine simply tells me I am now fat and won't come near me}! Good to hear from you chicka!tiarastantrumshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17081471547238465133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-27941534732804638632013-01-13T03:31:53.214-07:002013-01-13T03:31:53.214-07:00I thіnk this іs among the most signifіcant informa...I thіnk this іs among the most signifіcant information for me.<br />And i'm glad reading your article. But should remark on few general things, The web site style is great, the articles is really excellent : D. Good job, cheers<br /><br />Here is my webpage :: <a href="http://www.buildahealthybrain.com/understanding-nootropics/" rel="nofollow">nootropics</a><br /><i>Also visit my web site</i> : <b><a href="http://www.buildahealthybrain.com" rel="nofollow"> improve focus</a></b>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-9158558280638192232013-01-11T16:42:28.732-07:002013-01-11T16:42:28.732-07:00Great to see your update! I am not coming from a ...Great to see your update! I am not coming from a place of always doing it for sure! but I know when I feel loving to myself I take care of myself and what I put into my body in such a kinder way than if I am restricting - does that make sense? Your husband means it, for sure! You are beautiful - look forward to reading about your journey! Becky Andrewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10053287942631827068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-40690910782943409132013-01-11T13:57:41.066-07:002013-01-11T13:57:41.066-07:00Anjeny--
very inspiring and exactly the right thin...Anjeny--<br />very inspiring and exactly the right thing to say as well as everyone. I know it must seem like I've gone this round before, or that I'm actually looking for compliments... but I'm not. I honestly need to change and I'm reaching out for help and thoughts.<br /><br />So thank you so much you guys for your comments because they have each helped and I have taken them in! Thanks :)<br /><br />It is for my health also... most definitely.Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04348925911858411809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-28488380360929144832013-01-11T12:50:47.713-07:002013-01-11T12:50:47.713-07:00Hi Shelle,
Long time no read. Miss all you beauti...Hi Shelle,<br />Long time no read. Miss all you beautiful & fun blogging buddies.<br /><br />I feel you girl. You are beautiful, both inside and out. And you should take your husband's word for it. I know sometimes we can't help how we think of ourselves and I know this is probably your biggest demon that you have to fight everyday. <br /><br />If you want to lose weight because you think you're fat and therefore makes you look ugly, I'd say hogwash. I think if a woman feels they are ugly whether skinny or fat, gaining or losing weight to fulfill either will not change how you see yourself. Who knows if you lose all that weight, you might come back and say you're too skinny therefore you feel ugly.<br /><br />I think the underline issue here is you are just not comfortable with yourself...this makes it hard because that something you'll have to overcome.<br /><br />You said weight affects relationships...I say it affects relationship only if you let it. Your husband sees you as a beautiful person and when he tells you that, he's not just saying because it's something you want to hear. He's telling you the truth. And he loves you.<br /><br />If you do want to lose weight for health reason, I'd say go for it. Just know you will always have friends, near or far, who will be here cheering you on in your endeavors. Anjenyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11746822979694584318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-69850681569265419032013-01-11T12:10:16.990-07:002013-01-11T12:10:16.990-07:00Andrea- Hey! It is the same thing... just a bit di...Andrea- Hey! It is the same thing... just a bit different. I think ultimately it's finding beauty in my body the way it is, and then it is just icing on the cake after that if anything changes for the better... right? Thin or curvy... I want to change my mind! I will get back on and talk about my progress... both with my weight, and with my mind!<br /><br />Heidi... I agree... there can be a too skinny, and men do love curves. I just need to find a happiness and I do need to stay healthy within myself... I think that is my biggest challenge. Is finding a way to see myself or my body, as beautiful and valuable! BTW... how are you watching Downtown Abbey! I wanna start watching Season 3!Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04348925911858411809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-63710728335969915552013-01-11T12:02:59.924-07:002013-01-11T12:02:59.924-07:00I'm sure your husband isn't lying when he ...I'm sure your husband isn't lying when he says you are beautiful and that is how things are with us, too. BUT My husband does react differently to me when I am on the thinner side than the not so thin side so I know it makes a difference. However, I think the major culprit is simply the images we see every day on TV, billboards, magazines, etc. There is a message going out that the only way to be beautiful is to be thin--and it's a lie. The problem is, we are all being told the same lie and it is so easy to buy into it. It's a really tough one. Do you watch Downton Abbey? We just watched episode one of season three and my husband was almost nauseated at how thin Mary has gotten. Too thin does not look good no matter how much it's thrown in our faces. Men do like curves, and they like them better than we do. Something to think about.<br />Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660156433881882098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-65975737522915364632013-01-11T11:39:12.051-07:002013-01-11T11:39:12.051-07:00This is a GREAT post Shelle. And I think it applie...This is a GREAT post Shelle. And I think it applies to a lot of women, fat, thin, average. I'm 'skinny' a word I absolutely hate, but there it is. I don't feel good about my body and especially what I look like when I'm alone with my husband. He thinks I'm sexy, and I just don't feel that way at all. I really wish I could feel that way. That's my issue to work on. Seeing my body as beautiful.<br /><br />It's not the same issue maybe that you're dealing with, but I think you can do this. You can eat good food and healthy food, and no matter what type of body you have, you are beautiful (I always thought so!)<br /><br />So work on this program, make good choices, and come back and tell us when You feel just as sexy as he sees you :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04550949978651312496noreply@blogger.com