tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post8059142475587066027..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: He Said, She Said - RomanceShelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-91872255038466254892010-04-18T08:53:00.840-06:002010-04-18T08:53:00.840-06:00I disagree completely with the "She Said"...I disagree completely with the "She Said" portion of this post. <br /><br />I agree, actually, with one of the comments here; "I honestly believe that romance is different for each person experiences it" (said by hellesbelles86)<br /><br />What one person says is Romantic, another will say it's required and another person will just shrug it off as being silly or pointless.<br /><br />When my husband walks past me and lightly touches my shoulder or my arm or he leans in for a quick kiss on my temple, to me that is romantic. To someone else they believe this is expected of him. He doesn't HAVE to do this. He CHOOSES to do this because he (a) enjoys it, (b) enjoys my reaction and (c) knows that I appreciate it and feel special when he does it.<br /><br />I think that Romance, even if it's something small and unbelievably simple, is needed. It's a way to show you care and/or love the other person. Yes, you can easily tell another person that you care or love them. But with the amount of lies that are out there in our society, it's not always easy to believe when someone tells you something kind. It's like the saying "I'll believe it when I see it".<br /><br />PS. I love the book The 5 Love Languages and suggest other people read it. It's a brilliant book. I learned quite a lot from it, as did my husband.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-90208673874402361362010-04-17T10:10:40.145-06:002010-04-17T10:10:40.145-06:00And to add: Romance is not about sex. End of story...And to add: Romance is not about sex. End of story . . . (Brian)<br /><br /><br />Spoken words of the modern man. :(<br /><br />Not sure if I would agree, considering for many people physical touch(which includes sex) is very romantic. But hey, whatever floats your boat.Swing for the Fence.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11389648939893420328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-61411743631754904692010-04-15T11:17:16.824-06:002010-04-15T11:17:16.824-06:00I actually pondered this. I think that like beauty...I actually pondered this. I think that like beauty, romance is in the eye of the beholder. And it’s seriously biased by the “who” and the “what” involved. For some of us, it’s the complete mind/body/soul-titillating experience. (Even as jaded as I am, and that’s quite jaded to be sure, I still hold that as the principle for romance.) While for many other women, I’m sure that doing the laundry may qualify as the most romantic thing their husband/partner has ever done.NVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05833093597689579655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-46182338695308937932010-04-15T10:58:08.253-06:002010-04-15T10:58:08.253-06:00I use to think Romance was all TysDaddy has descri...I use to think Romance was all TysDaddy has described it so eloquently (glad you do the research also, very impressive)...but I'm with Donna on this...now I realize it's not romantic as much as it is expected and just part of the relationship...those things described as romantic should just be. Ya know?<br /><br />But I'm not a skeptic...I want for Romance the once in a while big gesture...but laughter to me is more joy and being then fantastical or wimsy...yes I made up those words!Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-40506952285866439422010-04-15T10:01:29.848-06:002010-04-15T10:01:29.848-06:00I can see this one from both sides. I think it is...I can see this one from both sides. I think it is a somewhat intangible feeling that can be the driving force behind actions. The gestures that show that your partner is thinking about you and cares enough to brighten your day or lighten your load go a long way. (Love the example of the double double). <br /><br />Yes, there are certain things that may be expected, but just imagine the difference in the relationship if such things weren't done for the other person. Actions show care and concern where inaction can show apathy.<br /><br />For us too, humor and laughter is a big deal. My husband can always elicit a genuine laugh from me in most any circumstance. Shared laughter can fuel romance. <br /><br />For me, there is also romance in appreciating and building shared history. There is also romance in looking how far we've come together, and seeing the possibilities of what we can become because of the other.<br />~JTAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-29799711642194953632010-04-15T09:59:21.136-06:002010-04-15T09:59:21.136-06:00I honestly believe that romance is different for e...I honestly believe that romance is different for each person experiences it. For me it's making breakfast together on a Saturday morning or going for a run to Sonic at 9 pm because we want ice cream. A quiet dinner watching the sun go down on our front patio or working together to get the house clean before his entire family invades. Fishing when I haven't been since last summer or driving me out in our field so I can take pictures of the sunset. For others its flowers and candy or expensive dates but I'm just a simple country girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-89671646191971540432010-04-15T08:04:57.300-06:002010-04-15T08:04:57.300-06:00I still make my wife laugh and she is always amaze...I still make my wife laugh and she is always amazed by my constant stream of surprises. She will never know what comes out of my mind at any given day and looks forward to that every day.DCHYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18357136744364697580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-17634932713257887392010-04-15T06:06:43.889-06:002010-04-15T06:06:43.889-06:00For my wife and I, romance isn't about the gra...For my wife and I, romance isn't about the grand gestures so much as the little ones: bringing home flowers "just because" isn't as romantic as bringing home a large double-double because when you called on your way home from the office you could hear that she'd had a long day. It's about knowing who you're with, and acknowledging that you know them with actions that only you two fully understand.SciFi Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10479890087443823197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-54610474037729971432010-04-15T02:50:44.603-06:002010-04-15T02:50:44.603-06:00Romance is so intangable, unquantifyable, you shou...Romance is so intangable, unquantifyable, you shouldnt be able to measure it or prepare a checklist for. It's the glue that holds the other stuff together though. It's like an ingreient you can add to the everyday to make it amazing. Its like the fairy dust of love! (oops almost sick then im being so sweet)heelsnstockinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15181825688180635545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-84531278306627392352010-04-15T02:35:04.009-06:002010-04-15T02:35:04.009-06:00Morning all. Well, it's morning for me anyway...Morning all. Well, it's morning for me anyway. VERY morning. Heading to work today, so I'm commenting to subscribe to the comments. <br /><br />And to add: Romance is not about sex. End of story . . . <br /><br />Btysdaddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11506671471720527734noreply@blogger.com