tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post816374071537090571..comments2023-12-25T11:56:28.042-07:00Comments on In The Real World Venus vs. Mars: Love and FriendshipShelle-BlokThoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-1936283150560961802009-04-16T09:43:00.000-06:002009-04-16T09:43:00.000-06:00While I do have a couple of beautiful girlfriends,...While I do have a couple of beautiful girlfriends, in addition to my sister who is my best "female" friend, my husband, like you, wins the prize.<br /><br />It's about being true to yourself in the selection of who you spend time with. And I think to find even one special female friend you can truly appreciate is priceless.<br /><br />Great story. And hey, such beautiful pics! Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04974251468371326729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-31316101444607312812009-04-15T08:56:00.000-06:002009-04-15T08:56:00.000-06:00Glad to know that I am not the only one who has fr...Glad to know that I am not the only one who has friend trouble. I do have a few friends, but none that I even talk to weekly. Some of my long time friends aren't married or don't have kids and our lives are in different places to its hard to relate to one another. Other of my good friend live hours away. I think friendship is a hard thing and when you find a great friend then it really is a blessing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-84968667446233335252009-04-14T19:42:00.000-06:002009-04-14T19:42:00.000-06:00Oh Duckie, I could of wrote parts of this! I alway...Oh Duckie, I could of wrote parts of this! I always had more guy friends than girl friends, and the girlfriends I had all liked to complain and talk behind each other's backs. I hated it. Life's too short and there's fun to be had. I thought when I got older it would change but my last best friend was so jealous if I even talked to another girl that it ended badly... there was lots of yelling... at me...I'm glad you found some girlfriends! I did, too, but their all on-line, and that's O.K. with me for now!Reenihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745904952447335925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-23223196134695673752009-04-14T19:33:00.000-06:002009-04-14T19:33:00.000-06:00Hey Ya, BD! I followed you over - I so understand...Hey Ya, BD! I followed you over - I so understand your thoughts on this. I moved to another state to follow my husband and I have run in to the same problem with single and married women. I don't like to complain about my hubby so I don't fit in with that group, one group I met up with only wanted to show their expensive jewelry and put down the husbands who didn't buy their wives expensive jewelry - one of them even said that she always took her jewelry back and traded it up for the more expensive one that she wanted, another group loved to get drunk when they got together - not my thing, I could go on and on. <br /><br />So, I get you and good for you for your thinking. You know I love your stories.kathyhttp://www.kathalog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-10059858421837236352009-04-14T17:55:00.001-06:002009-04-14T17:55:00.001-06:00Oh p.s. I really enjoyed your post, GREAT subject!...Oh p.s. I really enjoyed your post, GREAT subject! :DMelindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11738664615930618450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-62661109666381183032009-04-14T17:55:00.000-06:002009-04-14T17:55:00.000-06:00In general I like guys better than girls too, I th...In general I like guys better than girls too, I think it's more about me though. I can get very self-conscious, doing something stupid in front of a guy is laughed at and then forgotten. Doing something stupid in front of a girl feels like its judged and held on to forever. <br />I still love my girlfriends, and part of having good girl relationships has come just with maturity. Not caring what they think, deciding it was okay if I wasn't friends with everybody around me, just not caring SO MUCH anymore, etc. Hope that makes sense! <br />Friends are important though, I'm just so glad my husband really is my best friend, whew life would be a lot harder if he weren't! :)Melindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11738664615930618450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-28835364789026309212009-04-14T16:13:00.000-06:002009-04-14T16:13:00.000-06:00Goldielocks...you make sense to me...but that isn'...Goldielocks...you make sense to me...but that isn't saying much!!! Sorry!<br /><br />Hey everyone...are girls REALLY that bad??? I must have lucked out with the girls I hung out with...because anybody that was mean to me just wasn't a friend...<br /><br />But guys are more chill regardless when it comes to emotions and stuff.<br /><br />Daddy Geek Boy...the dynamics are different cause guys are not quite so emotional...<br /><br />Girls however are...<br /><br />but you already knew that! :)Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-21895602910669688612009-04-14T16:06:00.000-06:002009-04-14T16:06:00.000-06:00oh, and P.S. - i think i may have this conversati...oh, and P.S. - i think i may have this conversation so many times with my close girls- i have MANY guy friends, i would rather hang with the guys. they wont pick you apart, claw your eyes out and make you feel insecure. They joke about the little stuff - yay for guy friends, but as for when you're married, dang that puts a crimp in things and makes it more complicated. Lord bless our husbands, what would we do without them? ( good lord, do i make ANY sense?!)Goldielockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02278798638327994517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-77195174596032306862009-04-14T16:03:00.000-06:002009-04-14T16:03:00.000-06:00Girl! thanks for visiting... feel free to visit AN...Girl! thanks for visiting... feel free to visit ANY time, add me to your blog roll, whatever. <br /> I swear you have a TWIN at the gym i work out at in Augusta!! (however she is like 18)<br /> Have a great week and thanks for leaving a sweet comment!Goldielockshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02278798638327994517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-30572330715863815472009-04-14T14:09:00.000-06:002009-04-14T14:09:00.000-06:00I totally get what you are saying. My husband and...I totally get what you are saying. My husband and I have very little social life. Even after 10 years, we still prefer each other's company to anyone elses. I have developed 2 good friendships with women over the years but family always comes first and they know that and really understand if I don't phone them once a week etc. <br /><br />But it was hard work finding those friends and many other friends have fallen by the wayside over the years. <br /><br />I completely agree though. I don't want my husband hanging out with women so I purposely don't make friends with guys because of that. In school I used to make friends with guys easier than women for some reason. I too was the tomboy in pink dress kinda girl.Patriciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17943532025439642674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-62409419864640401652009-04-14T13:14:00.000-06:002009-04-14T13:14:00.000-06:00Sounds to me like you have your priorities in orde...Sounds to me like you have your priorities in order. I have a best girlfriend - same one for 23 years - we've raisied out kids together, and done FUN girl things, but we find it harder now to get together with grown kids, grandkids, THE HUBBY --and just generally TIRED. I find guys easier to hang out with as they aren't in the "comparing-judging mode". They just ARE. and ya know what --I've had a couple of gay guy friends --AND THEY ARE LIKE THE BEST GIRL/GUY FRIEND ever. (kinda funny)wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13619293936418976914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-85191234938873484232009-04-14T12:24:00.000-06:002009-04-14T12:24:00.000-06:00I don't understand the compulsion that we feel we ...I don't understand the compulsion that we feel we need to be friends with the same sex. I know that jealousy can play into it, but why should you limit your friendships because you get along better with guys than with girls?<br /><br />I dunno...I have a lot of women friends and truthfully, I'm not interested in dating them (or I wasn't when I was single). Perhaps that's how we've remained good friends.<br /><br />I'm also struck by something you said, that you'll never have friends like the gang in SATC because you'll always put your family first.<br /><br />Bravo! We should put our families first. But shouldn't your friends understand that? It was a birthday party and it sucks that you had to miss it, but should that cause anger from your friend? If that friend had a real crisis, you'd be there right?<br /><br />I don't know, is the dynamic between guys and their friends different from girls and their friends?DGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01302995272029761401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-23783885577997270712009-04-14T11:09:00.000-06:002009-04-14T11:09:00.000-06:00I'm so thrilld, ladies! I don't feel like such a ...I'm so thrilld, ladies! I don't feel like such a freak anymore! If only we all lived close to each other...<br /><br />And Christina, I had already attended a few events for the friend's birthday before my husband got sick and given her a gift already. That was why I made the choice to stay with Ben. I had thought I had done enough to show her I cared, but her feelings were hurt.The Blonde Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00085499120024055465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-40528705910199299682009-04-14T10:35:00.000-06:002009-04-14T10:35:00.000-06:00You are the most adorable duck in the flock. (gro...You are the most adorable duck in the flock. (group, gaggle, herd, pod?)<br /><br />Great to see you here!Swirl Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18241915723936809627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-18215250390483142162009-04-14T10:09:00.000-06:002009-04-14T10:09:00.000-06:00I always had my best girl friends - known them sin...I always had my best girl friends - known them since we were pre-K and we're still tight as can be... do I ever see them? no. Do we chat much? not really. When we DO get together it's like nothing has changed though!<br /><br />Conversely - even though they're my best friends - I've always hung out with the guys... less hormonal outbursts are a relief :) I find myself on the Guy Side of the room at parties even now... don't want to discuss the latest recipe for chicken or who was seen out without her makeup.<br /><br />and pedicures... once I gave them a try I was a happier person, with prettier feet!TisforTonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16666161027683872670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-65527160255669758432009-04-14T09:55:00.000-06:002009-04-14T09:55:00.000-06:00Oh, girl -- you're so right on with this one. I'l...Oh, girl -- you're so right on with this one. I'll never be caught with a group of gals bitching over life... after all, I've got LIVING to do! <br /><br />And gals who don't understand that I married my best friend in the world? Well, they just won't do.<br /><br />As I've gotten older, I've come around to the fact that female friends are really important. But, like you, I've found it challenging sometimes to make the right connections. Fortunately, when I do make a connection it's very strong.<br /><br />Here's to all the friendships gone RIGHT in our lives!Lohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02627131190832189839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-86513675916719979662009-04-14T09:06:00.000-06:002009-04-14T09:06:00.000-06:00I'm not trying to be all that or anything...but I ...I'm not trying to be all that or anything...but I had the best of both worlds I guess. <br /><br />I loved tanning all day and listening to the latest gossip...but I also had a group of guys I hung out with quite often. <br /><br />Guys are definitely less drama, but that is sometimes what is fun about being a chick...for me anyway. I LOVE being female, because I have the excuse of getting pedicures and talking about boys all hours of the night.<br /><br />But I loved hanging out with my guy friends for the pure fact that we DID stuff...I did stuff with them that were crazy and funny and scared me half to death...<br /><br />But like Andrea said...after I met THE guy for me, those guy friends didn't feel so comfortable letting me hang out and play MADDEN with them (I kicked butt btw).<br /><br />So now my girlfriends and couple friends mean SOOOOO much to me.<br /><br />But part of my personality is that I am a complete people person...in fact, in can be kinda bad because I'm always wanting to hang out with others for the pure entertainment...my husband like down time,<br /><br />but he still loves me...that's good!<br /><br />Mr. Anonymous...Just saying!Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-49357580234824950242009-04-14T09:00:00.000-06:002009-04-14T09:00:00.000-06:00Blonde Duck, I think your my twin. I always had ...Blonde Duck, I think your my twin. I always had guy friends, and now my best friend is my DH we do EVERYTHING together. lol Seriously. Off to Lowes, or the mall - he shops with me. From Friday night when he walks in the door till Monday morning, we are together.Misstyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677390785575744116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-5460232091782270342009-04-14T08:51:00.000-06:002009-04-14T08:51:00.000-06:00Mrs. Anonymous wont let me have a girlfriend....
...Mrs. Anonymous wont let me have a girlfriend....<br /><br /><br />I am just saying<br /><br /><br />Mr. AnonymousMr. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06378700245838712048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-27276315377807719142009-04-14T08:21:00.000-06:002009-04-14T08:21:00.000-06:00ahhh! i love your posts so much!
i find it hard t...ahhh! i love your posts so much!<br /><br />i find it hard to find girlfriends, too, even when i'm in college. and it's not because i prefer to have guys as my friends, either, because honestly, who wouldn't love a close, small group of girls to whom you dish everything out to and gain advice from? i think the reason i have yet to find that group of great girls is because i already have a person like that in my life, too; this person is different in that i love her unconditionally, just as i know she loves me.<br /><br />my mother!Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18237154972327220231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-10033545587052707812009-04-14T07:39:00.000-06:002009-04-14T07:39:00.000-06:00I think I have the same problem— but I'm a guy...I think I have the same problem— but I'm a guy. I tend to get along with women better than men. Sure, I can talk about power tools and the latest baseball scores, but it just ends there. I tend to forget that my keeping in touch with other women makes my wife think I'm sneaking around, so I have to have be more open about who I talk to so that she is aware of who I know and not wind up being in the dog house.Cajohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17705931109877069830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-84889774934502453902009-04-14T06:58:00.000-06:002009-04-14T06:58:00.000-06:00I'm in the same boat as far as having girlfriends....I'm in the same boat as far as having girlfriends. I always played sports growing up so those girls were my friends. During college....playing a sport took up LOTS of time between traveling, practice and playing and then of course studying. There was a few teamates I clicked with so there you go. Now...I'm a wife and a mom. A wife to a cop which is a lifestyle in itself.<br /><br />I work for the family business in construction....so I'm the only girl!! (Which I have to say I life because no snarkiness!) But...not many ways to "meet" new people.<br /><br />My one saving grace has been our neighborhood. We live in a subdivision that is pretty close knit. We've met several families than we click with. We now have Ladies' Night. LOVE IT!<br /><br />It's nice knowing that I'm not the only girl out there who doesn't have tons of girlfriends!"Cookie"https://www.blogger.com/profile/07584685355390220515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-38494775091113957112009-04-14T05:46:00.000-06:002009-04-14T05:46:00.000-06:00Hmm.. interesting food for thought. I guess I woul...Hmm.. interesting food for thought. I guess I would have asked myself -how sick is my hubby and will he be ok if I leave for 2 hours? b/c I think there is a delicate balance there-things like special ocassions are important when it coems to maintaining friendhsips with relatives and non-relatives.... <br />I have great girlfriends and a great hubby-all together it is a very small group and not much room for anyone else that doesn't figure in (except my son of course).<br />am I even making anyy sense? need.more.coffee....Christina Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01799776834213400246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-26457290692180935082009-04-14T05:37:00.000-06:002009-04-14T05:37:00.000-06:00I always found guys friends easier to deal with. ...I always found guys friends easier to deal with. But when you start getting serious with a more-than-guy friend, the just friend guys seem to disappear.<br />I usually have one or two good girlfriends and then its all just couples friends.<br />If I ever get to Blonde Duck territory I know who I want to hang out with ;)Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08342109839956458589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3251212850644469714.post-20474322744110858402009-04-14T04:44:00.000-06:002009-04-14T04:44:00.000-06:00Being Me and Kimberly--I'm so glad I'm not the onl...Being Me and Kimberly--I'm so glad I'm not the only one! You've given me hope!The Blonde Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00085499120024055465noreply@blogger.com