Captured in a Relationship: It makes me happy...

"The life of the dead is placed in the memory of the living." Marcus Tullius Cicero

Photo sent in by: NO BOTOX ALLOWED

This is a photo of me and Matthew, my son who died.

IT IS SPECIAL to me, cause it is the last photo I have of us together before he died.  It makes me happy.....it makes me sad.
He was a goof ball and I miss him terribly.

***If you would like to send in a picture for our Captured in a Relationship series... read HERE for info!

Captured in a Relationship

"Some people enter our lives and leave almost instantly. Others stay, can forge such an impression on our heart and soul, we are changed forever." - Author Unknown

I've taken a lot of time off.  I've been busy.  I almost shut this blog down completely, but for some reason I have just sat on it.   I love that most of you just stuck with me, continuing to keep me as a friend and keep me on your Google Readers.

I absolutely love and have loved reading about different relationships and you sharing your stories helping those of us open our minds and also. for some of us, getting through our own similar situations.  The good stories have been so good and something to shoot for in our relationships.  The bad and ugly... have been just that... bad and ugly--something to learn from and be a support for those that have needed it.

But I also have this photography obsession and my business has been keeping really busy... so I had to remember my priorities... but I have missed my friends here.

I came across this quote.  And for me it hit home for personal reasons... but it also gave me a fabulous idea to mix my love of photography and relationships.

So here is the scoop.  For at least the rest of the summer I would like to introduce "Captured in a Relationship".  

What I would like is for you, my friends, to send in pictures with only two people in them, and then a short excerpt of why that picture and/or relationship is important to you.  This picture can be a professional one or one you took with your cell phone--the trick is when you send it in to me you are pledging that the picture and those in it, are okay with it being posted.  So it was either taken by you or you are promising that you are approved to send it in.


Here is my own example... 

This picture is of my son and I.  I love that I can still be goofy with him so I cherish pictures like this because I know someday he might not be okay with this... someday he will be... a man.  I hope it never happens, but I know it might--so I cherish time with him and try to take a picture like this any time I can!

So what I need from you guys!

1. Start sending in pictures to blokthoughts@gmail.com, following the rules, and then let me know if you want me to link you up to your blog or website, or not--as always, it can be anonymous.  (Depending on how many I get... I will start posting AT LEAST one a day, hopefully, starting next week)

2. Let people know about it if you will :)

Also-- you are still welcome to send in "DEAR YOU" letters and any post you want to write about dealing with relationships.

Thanks!

Shelle

Down for now.

THIS SITE IS TEMPORARILY DOWN FOR CONSTRUCTION>>>

THanks for everyone who keeps with it and reading... I hope to come back better organized, more material, cool site and more fun.

You all are the best!

Shelle

So I am asking via Vlog...

I need help. So I'm going to ask.

Phone/No Phone Interviewer


Someones to help come up with topics.


He/Said She Said coordinator

Someone business savvy who can help me with offers coming in and to find a way to market the blog to help with giveaways...

Together we can be a team and take this to the next level!

Or I can shut it down... whichever :)

Thanks and let me know by email blokthoughts@gmail.com or comment

Relationships, infidelity, and The Secret Box

The Secret Box was such a success and I hope it helped some of you out there!

I had an experience this weekend that made me remember how fragile feelings are... how fickle relationships can be and how easily we can change our thoughts about people or how easily we can go from one thing to another by words exchanged.  It's crazy.

I wrote something about infidelity and one of my good friends wrote his opinion about what was said in the Secret Box... I have linked up to them if you are interested.  Happy Monday Everyone!

Saturday Scavenger Shots - Emotion and an opinion....
I wandered over to Mars vs Venus and read the anonymous comments in the Secret Box.

I tell ya, the comments about infidelity, swinging, and marriage regret really hit me. I'm not an expert, but this is what I think:

I'll be the first to admit that I don't know everything, but personal experience with infidelity has taught me a lot. Being the spouse that was cheated on gives me a different perspective than all but one of the commenters, it seems.

I'm seriously considering it...

You guys, I am so sorry... but I found something out about myself this weekend.

You may never read me again.

But I got an email and was approached about having a love affair... and the email was so eloquent and so convincing that I'm seriously considering it.

Please don't tell my husband if you know him or his email.


Shelle

Secret Box Round 1

I've realized something, of myself, and while talking to a friend. So in a few days or maybe tomorrow, I am going to post about how I need help. Sometimes when I ask for help, I feel like a failure--but again, talking to my friend, helped me realize that it's not about that, or me, even.

But for today...

We are going to have our first ever SECRET BOX!!!

I do this on my personal blog but have never done it on Real World. And since Real World is suppose to be a place where one should feel free to say what they really feel, I thought this would be the perfect place to HOST the Secret Box.

Here is what you do if you have never participated in one of these.

You tell a secret you have in comments. Most do it anonymously, but you can do or say it as yourself also. Those that have advice can come back and comment on your secret or their secret or what have you.

See I realize about myself that if I get the secret out of me that it no longer burdens me as much or at all. It makes it slightly easier to keep it or work through it or overcome it. You get what I mean?

So go at it friends. Tell your secret, get it off your chest. If you have a way to help someone else or can understand where they are coming from... stop back and let them know in comments.

Again, it can be anonymous our not.

E-Book Club--He Said She Said-do you agree with the experts?

Okay... here is another excerpt from the e-book that was published "He Said She Said "

The professionals who wrote this section are: David Yarian www.DavidYarian.com and www.SpiritedLoving.com ~And~ Shanna Katz, M.Ed Resident Sexuality Educator and Online Media Specialist www.FunLove.com and www.ShannaKatz.com

The ONE thing women want (which is a bit like deciding right now which ONE food you will happily consume for therest of your natural life) just happens to be the same ONE thing men want!

I believe women—and men—simply want to be wanted. We want to be desired, and not only sexually. We want our opinions, our wishes, our needs and our yearnings to be solicited and taken to heart. We don’t need slaves or servants, but we do relish the thrill that comes when our Beloved looks at us in that certain way that communicates his/her genuine interest, their fundamental acceptance and that tad of loving skepticism that keeps us honest.

The stereotype is, of course, that men only want Sex and women only want Love, and that is why there has been trouble for millennia, probably since before Aristophanes penned Lysistrata. Therapists add their twist to this myth by opining that men want to have sex in order to feel loved, and women want to feel loved in order to have sex. I submit that these are but two sides of the same coin—that what we all really want is to be really wanted—for who we truly are.

Okay so that is what the experts say... what do you have to add or say about that?

Let us know in comments! Hope ya'll had a good week! :)

Shelle