Gucci Mama Said.....
I don't like to call myself "pro-life". I think most people are pro-life. Pro-life is a misnomer. Even people who have convinced themselves that abortion on demand is some kind of "right" are probably, for the most part, "pro-life". Instead I am a fierce, passionate advocate of the right to life. I believe that everyone has the basic right to life regardless of age, size, place of residence, future potential, socioeconomic status, or existence of handicap.
I could spend all day enumerating the thousands of reasons abortion is legally, ethically, and morally bankrupt, but you've heard those before. You either recognize them or you choose to turn a blind eye to them. We don't need to talk about how the Fourteenth Amendment doesn't include a broad and interpretive right to privacy as it has been manipulated in order to justify this horrifying practice. We don't need to talk about medical realities like how the heart of a fetus begins to beat at 18 days gestation and it has a distinctive and quantifiable genetic map from the moment of conception. And if we don't need to talk about that, we certainly don't need to mention the mainstream medical consensus that life begins at conception. We certainly don't need to discuss how abortion isn't really some kind of pillar of the feminist movement, because everyone knows that the first feminists like Mary Wollstonecroft, Susan B. Anthony, and Eliza Bisbee Duffey (just to name a few) were diametrically opposed to abortion not only because of the undeniable harm it does to women, but because of the power it gives men over a woman's sexuality.
Since we don't need to talk about those things because they're just basic, common knowledge, let's talk about the tough stuff. Whenever this issue is debated, it is inevitable that someone will bring two things to the table as if the minute possibility of these circumstances somehow justifies virtually unrestricted access to abortion at virtually any time during pregnancy for virtually any reason.
These two things are, of course, rape/incest and the vague, largely undefined "life of the mother" hysteria.
You mean you would force a woman to carry her rapist's baby? What we first need to do is hear the words behind the question which are, Don't you care about this woman? Don't you want to take away her pain, fix her problem? Have you no compassion? For me, advocating the right to life is not about the baby, at least not exclusively. It is about supporting and empowering women. And so looking at it from a compassionate angle, the question we have to ask is Would an abortion help a rape victim or harm her? What many people, pro-life and pro-abortion alike, don't realize is that abortion is not a solution or a treatment for the trauma of rape. Since when is replacing one trauma with another sound medical or psychological advice? Studies have absolutely shown that many women relive their rape experiences during their abortions. Many pregnant rape victims decide to terminate not based on anything other than the thoughts, opinions, sometimes even the coercion of others which seem to collectively say, You are pregnant by rape and this is not acceptable; you have no choice but to abort. It only makes sense.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
The thing that gets me about this challenge is that it is implied that I as a pro-life activist am somehow forcing a pregnant rape victim to carry her rapist's child. That blame does not belong at my door. It does not belong at the victim's door and it does not belong at the baby's door (or the "fetus" if you prefer, though "fetus" is merely Latin for "baby"). The only one who forced a pregnancy on a woman who experienced unimaginable horror is the rapist himself. He is the one who should be crucified, not the right-to-lifer, not the mother, and not the fetus. The reality is that there is so much pressure to abort after a rape that many women feel they have no choice. Women are notorious for doing what people expect of them; we are people pleasers by nature. Furthermore, the immediate aftermath of being brutalized is not the time to be making life altering decisions, especially when the consequences are unknown or even concealed as is sometimes the case.
So what I propose responding when someone poses this question is, if their concern is truly compassion (and in the case of the powerful abortion business machine, it most certainly is not) why can't we love them both? Why can't we extend the same compassion to the baby that everyone agrees should go to the mother? You cannot help the mother without helping the child and you cannot hurt the child without hurting the mother.
But what if the mother's life is in danger? Are you okay with abortion then? This one is a favorite of people trying desperately to find justification for killing an unborn baby. It certainly provides a really cute knee jerk reaction, but unfortunately, it just doesn't hold any water. There is not a single documented case in recorded history of a medical condition that occurs in a mother past the stage of fetal viability that can only be cured by an abortion. There are excessively rare issues that occur in early pregnancy that are truly life threatening in some cases - these are ectopic pregnancy and molar pregnancy - and in these cases abortion is sometimes or even often medically indicated. While there have been several cases of successful full term ectopic pregnancies, I will certainly concede that in these cases, there is a careful decision to be made between woman and doctor regarding whether to terminate.
But this "life of the mother" talking point is almost always introduced when referring to late term abortions and with fetal viability beginning as early as between 22 and 24 weeks, there is simply no justification to terminate the life of a child who could be delivered prematurely in order to ease a high risk maternal health issue. Further, with the amazing medical advances that are made every day, doctors are able to keep high risk women pregnant longer, and they are also able to keep earlier and tinier preemies healthier than ever before.
It really is that simple.
Sage said.......
Well GM and I were asked if there was a political issue we did not agree on because we regularly and easily eviscerate the sissified loser class that has come to be known as liberals or Democrats. There are two issues; abortion is one of them.
While nobody can give any moral reason for this "Man Law" that makes any sense there are a couple of situations, as seldom as they occur, I can't find any reason for ANYONE to be against abortion. Let me also clarify my stance on abortion.
All that being said I do not have an "absolute" moral stance against abortion. There are a few situations that I would be for it.
If for any reason the life of the mother is at great risk due to pregnancy or the birthing process then I would find that not only acceptable but even recommended in certain situations. It would wrong IMO morally for a bred woman with say 3 small kids that had 2-3 doctors tell her she could not birth that child without a huge risk that she would die. She would be dong a DISSERVICE to the kids she has. I realize and understand that this is a minute percentage of pregnancies, but those 4 every year I will march in the street for.
There ya go. My inner libertarian doesn't care if you pull the cute lil' baby out and play fetus football with him for whatever reason, you have to live with that not me (provided it doesn't cost me anything), but those 3 issues I listed I can't imagine someone being against aborting those lil' crumb crunchers.
Atrocity?
Party time?
Somewhere in between?
Do tell.
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 390 of 390JoJo the only certain thing is you won't answer the simple yes or no question.
GM said that we don't have informed consent at all. Would you, GM, inform your child if they found themselves in that horrible situation? Would you Sage? Would any of you? I am sure the answer is yes, you would inform your child of all the options and what could happen with each option. Soooo, you can't say that we do not have informed consent at all.
Just my opinion.
JoJo it isn't hypocritical at all. It is one person forcing their own morals on a brutalized woman. She has already been destroyed emotionally and now JoJo has decided she has no rule over the consequences that happened without her consent.
Oh and though the child can be adopted, the mother suffers knowing that the product of her brutal rape simply exists and haunts her every night.
So her suffering linger eternally.
Heather thanks for the back up.
Tit for tat - at what point in the neonates life can it survive on its own?
The difference is consent.
If someone gets tore down drunk and crashes into a tree and is paralyzed is that the same if the same drunk hits a family and paralyzes them?
No it isn't the same. One made a choice, the other was brutalized by someone else.
Sage- the point I was making with the "might" suffer comment was when Shelle said something about the children suffering because they were a result of rape. Not based on the mother at that point. I was responding to Shelle's comment.
Jojo
I dont know, do you?
Tat - False. Children are dependent on their parents long after they're born. And, if you read up a few comments, I demonstrated a few of the numerous ways that fetuses are biologically separate beings from their mothers, regardless of the fact that they happen to grow inside the body of their mothers for a short time. Read it; you'll learn something.
Furthermore, most of the laws of our land are based in a concept of morality. I stated in a previous comment that the Supreme Court in Bowers v. Hardwick gives states the right to legislate based on morality.
We do so when we outlaw theft, rape, murder, drug use, prostitution, etc. Abortion is no different.
I have no idea if JoJo is on it or not, she wont answer the simple yes or no question.
See when you break it down to the simplest form it is easy. Thats why I did the yes no. Someone might see it the other way, they will be the first of the 200+ comments but they might.
Yes or no rules, it always brings down easy arguments.
April, the fact is that in cases of rape, society as a whole expects women to abort. Furthermore, her doctor/husband/boyfriend/parents/peers expect her to abort. Obviously I'm generalizing and not picking apart specific cases, but an abortion decision is overwhelmingly the assumption after a woman becomes pregnant by rape - which again, almost never happens. Most post abortive rape victims site the expectations of others rather than their own feelings as the number one reason they chose abortion. That is not informed consent. That is coercion.
Women are told from the time sex ed starts in public school that a pregnancy is not a baby, it's a clump of cells. They're told that abortion is their sacred "right" as a woman. They're told that rape babies are unacceptable. They're told that abortion has no lasting consequences. They're told that it's not dangerous.
These are all lies. Each and every one of them.
That is not informed consent. That is coercion.
Tat - Fetuses are viable outside the womb between 22 and 24 weeks, generally. There are, of course, exceptions. But that's the general rule. However, that doesn't mean it's not alive before that. And a baby born at 24 weeks is just as dependent on machines to be nourished and oxygenated and kept alive as it was on its mother. Can we smother it in the incubator? A fetus is a baby is a life no matter where it happens to be living or how big it is or what it can or cannot do.
GM-blogger ate my frickin comment.
Okay. Show me the study you are getting the 93% from. Like I said, statistics don't mean a whole lot to me. But if the study was done by a place that doesn't oppose abortion but is neutral between both sides of the issue and had a large rape/incest victim involvement. Then I will take that number into consideration.
Other than that... the number is a mute point to me. Especially if those doing the study are swayed one way on the issue before the study was done.
"The aftermath of being brutalized is a.) not a time to be making life altering decisions and b.) certainly not a time when women are going to hop on the internet and research a term they've either not heard of (post abortion trauma) or that's been laughed off as irrelevant by the left who uses the excessively rare instance of rape pregnancy as justification for abortion on demand."
I agree! It ISN'T a time to be making life altering decisions!!! But they must right? Isn't keeping the baby a life altering decision? I would think it was.
continued...
See the whole difference is that some of you believe that Obama should be allowed to tell people what to do with their body when the situation they face is NOT THEIR DOING OR THEIR FAULT.
I wonder how far you will extend Barrico that same power...
Sounds like big bro to me.
Now don't get it crossed up, we are talking about non-consensual. Not a choice someone made.
So that we are clear we are good with letting Obama decide?
See the whole difference is that some of you believe that Obama should be allowed to tell people what to do with their body when the situation they face is NOT THEIR DOING OR THEIR FAULT.
I wonder how far you will extend Barrico that same power...
Sounds like big bro to me.
Now don't get it crossed up, we are talking about non-consensual. Not a choice someone made.
So that we are clear we are good with letting Obama decide?
I love me.
Of course they have to, but they're not going to research it from the hospital bed! They're going to depend on their doctors and families to counsel them and they're getting inappropriate counsel! ESPECIALLY when that counsel comes from a lackey of Planned Parenthood. I will say again, it's NOT informed consent when expectations are overwhelmingly in the "abortion is the only acceptable solution to rape pregnancy" camp.
I'll find you the study - I'm pulling this from memory of research I did a couple years ago. In the meantime, I highly recommend the book "Forbidden Grief" by Dr. Theresa Burke, which delves into post abortion trauma objectively and eloquently.
Sage - "I love me" is without a doubt the most accurate thing you've ever said. Hehe.
Sage, doll will you answer my question as I am genuinly interested. When does it stop being a right of a rape victim and a right of the fetus? As I have said, with informed consent, rape victims should be able to do what they feel will help them heal. But what about victims who are so traumatized they cannot make a decision in the first trimester? What about the ones who don't find out until after the first trimester? What about the ones who don't find out until the 3rd trimester? When do we take away the right for them to make the choice?
I would guarantee that any woman with a brain would look on the internet for an informed decision. Why wouldn't they? Even traumatized... finding out they are pregnant they have to make a decision... they would want to inform themselves. Especially those rape/incest victims who are embarrassed by what they have gone through... they can look up and educate themselves behind closed doors.
Also, most religions are pro-life. I would bet that those who are rape/incest are torn between keeping and aborting the baby because it has been ingrained into them that abortion is wrong.
They may not know the term Post Abortion Trauma, but I just typed in Rape, Abortion and the second one informs them that abortion may not be the option. In Fact, here is a statistic for you, "I'm sure they can find information.
I will also put my money on there being a forum that involves discussions from women who have been through keeping the baby and aborting it after being raped/incest. "But in the only major study of pregnant rape victims ever done, Dr. Sandra Mahkorn found that 75 to 85 percent chose against abortion.1 This evidence alone should cause people to pause and reflect on the" http://www.afterabortion.org/rape.html-this article agrees wholly with you and makes the exact same arguments.
But rape/incest victims aren't completely blind sided and feel that they don't have a choice--obviously if we use statistics 75-85% of them choose to not abort.
I just say that we should give them (rape/incest victims and the health of the mother) that choice, is all.
Well there would have to be a time limit from the time of them knowing. So say 14 days from when they find out. Can you be in the 3rd trimester and not know?
So they find out on the 10th then they have x amount of days to decide if they want to abort.
Oh and you can't call me doll unless you mean it!
Sage: The answer is no she can not have an abortion if she is not allowed to kill her newborn baby either.
If you permit the murder of neonates to relieve emotional suffering then I would say you had an argument. Not an ethical one, but at least you're supporting your own points.
If you believe that life starts after conception except in the case of rape then you are devaluing life itself.
Life starts after conception ALWAYS. You can't change that just because it may have started through a terrible experience. It's still a life and should be treated accordingly.
Tit for tat - I believe GM already took care of this, but no a neonate can not survive independently on its own.
Also, I hate the right to deciding what to do with your body opinion.
This does not justify murder. The government has a right to enforce compliance of the basic code of ethics in which we conduct our lives. Protecting ones right to live is one of them.
If we make loopholes because a woman has a right to decide what to do with her body, we will soon find loopholes for everything.
Before you know it somehow there will be a loophole making rape and pedophilia legal.
The pedophile was psychologically suffering emotionally and needed to fulfill his needs. He was raised in an abusive home, so surely we wouldn't want to neglect his suffering either.
Here's my take and it's all from experience. I was date raped when I was 16 and ended up pregnant. My parents forced an abortion, I had no rights then. The trauma I've lived with for 32 years has been crushing.
My daughter was stalked, manipulated and forced to do what she was told because she was told that her family would be murdered if she didn't. She got pregnant with my grandson Jakob. Yes, it was horrible, yes it was wrong. We were blessed by a wonderful child and the monster went to prison.
My daughter also had two emergency c-sections at 26 and 27 weeks to save her life and hopefully the lives of the babies. All survived.
While I'll never tell another woman what choice to make, that's between her and her creator, I believe that the only thing that comes from abortion is more trauma. 2 wrongs don't make a right and the pain of living through an abortion is more than many can handle.
I look at my grand-kids and my daughter and I'm so thankful that we chose the right to life over what I feel is the "easy" way out on the surface.
GM nobody ever doubted I loved me though, I just threw that in there to be sure everyone had it right.
JoJo-okay that it doesn't sit well with you. It was an example of what can happen when the child is kept to term... I hate the fact that it happens--my point being that BOTH choices there is incomprehensible TRAUMA!!!
That is all.
For all of you. That was what my example was for.
Just because they keep the baby doesn't mean that there won't be post trauma from it.
I was showing the gray in the black and white stance of it.
It happens every day. Women find out they are pregnant when the kid pops out. Pregnancy tests don't show positive weeks after the first missed period sometimes. Remember that those tests are based on HCG hormone levels and some women don't have high enough levels like others. So she takes a pg test after her missed period and every one she takes says neg. Or maybe she gets a light period and thinks she's home free. Maybe she had irregular or light periods before the rape. Some women don't have periods at all. Even skinny minnies can go their whole pregnancy and not know they are pregnant until they pop a kid out in a toilet bowl somewhere. It happens way more often than you would think.
JoJo wow, that is one today! Obama has a supporter in you! Big Govt all the way!!!!!!!
I'm glad you answered ty.
And of course I mean it. I will call you doll even if we don't agree because you wear a cowboy hat and think every woman deserves to be treated awesome every day. For that, you will remain doll.
BPD: amen. Exactly how I see it!
The thing is I agree that there can be post abortion trauma. I don't doubt that at all.
Not in the least.
I just don't feel that they rape/incest victim doesn't have a choice
and I doubt the choice is made in a hospital bed.
Sure they will get counsel from leaders/family/ and what not. But whose to say for most victims that they are being told to abort.
In BiPolar Diva's case... it was forced on her to get an abortion. It wasn't her choice. That's horrible.
Which is WHY I believe they should have a choice in the matter.
Well on the rape thing and aborting I dunno about the 3rd tri thing. I had no idea. Surely if she were raped she would be on top of that. Still it would be a decide within x days.
Hell no I am no Obama supporter!
Murder should be illegal regardless of who is running the government.
The post abortion trauma isn't for me to decide though. No matter the evidence. If she was bred because she was raped then she should get to decide. All that other is fluff in the basic argument.
I hope nobody ever has to make that decision. Ever, but if a woman is raped she has a friend in me. I'll champion her cause, nobody should be dually brutalized without logic coming to the rescue.
See, I disagree there Sage. At the start of your 3rd trimester, you are 28 weeks gestation. A baby born at that point has a 90% chance of survival outside the womb. That would be a no no in my book.
JoJo: you just said the government was going to force a raped woman to birth. That is the epitome of big gov't just toeing the democrat line.
Raped em once, screw em twice.... that will fit on a bumper sticker.
The statistics are very helpful.
If I read it correctly, In America, We ABORT very RARELY due to RAPE which is a favorite argument and let's face it you can use a sob story to get around many moral dilemmas, yet we usually consider those the EXCEPTION to the rule but the STATISTIC I found interesting was 93% of women who have an abortion then report have emotional issues. Wow, so we promote a procedure that we know will lead to emotional issues, gotta love the U.S.!!
Oh, and Sage, I am so sorry to hear you are burdened with such a large load and wish for a reduction (LOL)
GM: I was just saying that you can't say that they don't have informed concent at all and base making it completely illegal to have an abortion in cases of rape on that thought of thinking. Maybe if the ONLY people they talk to is Planned Parenthood but I think most people would talk with their family, friends....and I'm willing to bet that every single person I associate with would not say, just get an abortion and it will be all better. If you believe it is murder, just say that. If you are against a rape victom having an abortion, just say that. Don't say make it completely illegal because some are misinformed.
I agree with it in the 3 cases that Sage stated. Problem there though is that any woman can say she was raped to have an abortion. As long as it is legal in any form, people will work it to their benefit. So, the question is do we keep it legal to allow the 1% (someone elses numbers, not mine) of rape victims to have abortions or do we make it illegal and that 1% just has to suffer? THAT right there is where the problem lies with this debate it seems. Sage says keep it legal for that 1% (which in turn keeps it legal for all) and GM says make it illegal and that 1% suffers.
Sage: It does confuse me though to read you say "Yet and still I could not care less if someone has an abortion, provided it doesn't cost me money". Either you care or you don't and if you are against it for reasons other than the 3 you listed then you do care. Just sayin....
Heather, see I knew you'd say that. Of course there would be a plan. That woman coul choose to carry to term, birth it no or birth thru c-section.
There ya go. Options. The victims should have options.
;-)
Lucy: ;-)
The point on the stats though is that isn't pertinent to the argument, if it is 1 woman a year she still needs to have options.
Yes hun. She could be induced at 30 weeks with a 95% survival rate or be given a cesarian at 30 weeks, both options would give her 2 weeks to decide to keep it or adopt it out, and then the baby would not suffer and neither would the victim. Getting an abortion requires a more painful procedure than a csection. I wouldn't be okay with a late term abortion in this case.
April: well I don't really care what someone does. I do not think it is right but I don't think it is my place to impose my morals on someone else. Elective abortion is the greatest human rights violation in the history of the planet. But if it doesnt cost me then it doesnt effect me.
Heather: See there common sense and logic will always find the best solution.
Well guys and gals, I get to go home now so I shall follow up on this tomorrow. This made my day fly by!
Sage: You could say the same thing about murder. As long as it doesn't effect you, then you don't care? Come on now...
But murder is some different, that COULD happen to me!
Tat - False. Children are dependent on their parents long after they're born(Mama)
No they are not. They are dependant on a mature individual to help them with their needs, but it does not need to be the host. The fetus is TOTALLY dependant on its host at a certain stage. NO outside influence(science) at this point in time can change that fact. It is at this stage I think PRO LIFE people should mind their own fucking business(oops did I say that). At that stage it is in the hands of the mother/father.
SAGE,...
Why can you not Fathom a woman wanting a child after she was raped?
And if a woman was so brutally beaten,...she might not even be able to carry a child,...
Sage, abortion can affect you too. You have a daughter.
Sage: So could have an abortion...Then where would we be without all your wisdom.... ;)
Lucy-
Numbers ARE important, if they are specific to what we are talking about.
Which is rape/incest victims.
If it is 93% of rape/incest victims then that is a WOWZER number. If it is 93% of those that have abortions then that is all together different for me, because how many of those were actually rape/incest victims and how many of those were forced or a choice.
See what I mean about statistics?
April: Lol I'm passed the abortion stage I think!
Sage:
Then why should we allow the government to maintain any control over ethical issues in the first place?
The right to murder anybody should therefore, not be determined by governmental standards. If I want to kill someone because they're psychologically ruining my life or for any other reason that should be my right without having the fear of prosecution.
Furthermore, if you're not going to have the government involved in any of these issues then the act of rape would no longer be considered a crime either.
After all, who is the government to decide what is ethical or not?
Well, if rape isn't even considered a crime then we wouldn't be sitting here debating this in the first place and I could have been studying for my boards instead.
So yea, maybe the government shouldn't get involved with this stuff. I'd be way more productive that way.
Tat - The fact that they are dependent on their mothers while in utero in no way means that their life is less valuable. A fetus is NOT just an extension of its mother's body as is an arm or a leg just as I am not a fucking window pane because I happen to live inside a house. A fetus is a baby is a life. If not the weakest and most vulnerable among us, then whom should the law protect?
Sweet Lips sass-a-frass: y take is she should get the opportunity to choose. Im not forcing or even advising she have an abortion. I hope she dosn't but that shouldn't be up to me.
Shelle - Maybe you missed it in the bazillion comments - I clarified that the 93% number is indicative of all post abortive women, not just post abortive rape victims.
JoJo you want Obama to decide on ethics? So be it then. I am not trying to alter your opinion I just wanted to know that you would choose to force a raped and brutalized woman to birth a baby as a result.
Seems hate filled and barbaric to me. But that is my opinion. I would never be able to doubly abuse any person, but a woman especially I am too much of a humanitarian and a logical kind of guy.
I am a conservative by definition I dislike any government control.
No GM I didn't-- Lucy did. I just couldn't remember so I didn't state it for sure, but I figured that was the case.
But I also wanted to make sure it was understood why that number, in this argument doesn't stand as something overly shocking for me.
It IS a shocking number as far as post abortion is concerned.
Which is why I'm against abortion other than those three things stated.
But thanks for making sure for me.
GM my daughter will have a choice though. A well informed one but she will get to decide no matter who wants to impose barbarism on her.
Mama
No it means that you dont have a say in the matter. If you take the fetus out of the mother at that stage it dies. You cannot force someone to do what you want them to do. That sweetie would mean you are taking away their freedom. The fetus at certain stages cannot have that freedom. It is not physically possible. At other stages it may be but not at the early stages. So whether you like it or not, whether you find it ethical or not means nada. It is a slippery slope if someone else gets to decide what you can do with your body. Remember the fetus does not have a viable body at certain stages that anyone can help other than the mother.
Tat - I've been pregnant with nine fetuses. NONE of them were parts of my body. The seven of them that left my body dead at various stages of gestation were not just parts of my body. They were my babies. They were tiny, helpless, and my body failed them. They were not of my body. I know that for several reasons but the number one reason I know that? They are dead and I am not. A body cannot be dead and alive at the same time, Tat.
That is your way of looking at it. It is right for YOU. It isnt right for ALL people. To try and make it right for all people means you will have to take away their rights. Are you prepared to do that? If you are then you sure arent an American that I am familiar with.
No one has the right to take a life Tat, no one. Terminating the life of a child at any age is NOT a right. It simply does not exist any more than does my right to murder you because though I quite like you, there are times I find you excessively insensitive and annoying.
Sage: I see where you're coming from and I know it's from a good place.
I think we both made some valid points {of course mine were better ;-)} and used logic to help substantiate our opinions.
It's never a black and white situation and I am not trying to devalue what the woman may be going through either.
My intentions are not to increase the woman's suffering, but to respect the life of her unborn fetus as well.
If that respect for life consequently causes more suffering on the woman's part, that would truly upset me, but it also upsets me to murder without a cause.
In trying to formulate a coherent opinion on this subject, I had to prioritize and ask myself what is more important?
Do the advantages outweigh the disadvantages?
Do the benefits outweigh the risks?
So in prioritizing I decided that..
Life is more important than emotional suffering.
Who am I to decide this?
I am just a 23 year old ingenue with little experience in the real world, but that little experience still taught me the value of life. Once it's taken away, you can never get it back. There's no way to argue this one.
Emotional suffering on the other hand is not necessarily permanent.Obviously all people react and heal from trauma differently.
As a daughter of a victim of rape, I can say that in my little experience I have seen that emotional suffering can heal. There may be leftover scars, but life goes on for these people.
Life however, does not go on for a fetus who is aborted.
I don't think we're going to agree completely on this topic.I respect your opinion even if I don't think it's necessarily right. I see the value in what you are saying. I just see more value in life itself. I enjoyed the intellectual stimulation and am seriously hoping this debate charged the part of my brain that will help me think critically for the practice test I'm about to take.
Seriously, if I don't start studying, I'm going to have to take away some of your rights soon. Don't temp me :-).
For the record; I have not read every single 246 comments.
I would like to make a very clear statement here. The majority of the comments I have read have said or implied that having an abortion will cause pshycological problems afterwards, insane amounts of guilt, pain, etc etc etc.
One thing I want to comment on is that NOT EVERY WOMAN who chooses to have an abortion FOR WHATEVER REASON has problems afterwards.
When a woman makes a fully 100% informed decision to have an abortion, one that she has made and has not listened to ANYONE but herself, has not been pressured or munipulated, she will not have any of the problems that people are saying they will. The women who feel the guilt, the pain, the emotional problems afterwards are those who made the decision to have the abortion but were not 100% set on it. They could have had even the slightest bit of doubt in their mind. That 0.00000001% will forever be there and begin to nag at them.
And yes, I know this for a fact. Not something I have read. Not something that has been told to me. It is something I have experienced myself. It was 9 yrs ago that I had an abortion. I am not going into the story because it's no one here's business. However, never once have I felt any sort of guilt, emotional or mental problems or any type of medical problems afterwards. I made a 100% informed decision.
People can shoot off their opinions, their beliefs, their morals. It's a free country.
The ONLY 2 times that I think abortion is disgusting is when the child could indeed live outside the whomb and possibly live; 20 weeks + (according to research through Google that I JUST DID) and when a woman uses one as a means of "birth control"; Oops I got pregnant lets have a 2nd abortion, 3rd abortion, 4th abortion, 5th abortion, etc.
I think women have the right to choose what is best for THEIR body. No one, not anyone, has the right to make that choice for another. No one, not anyone, has the right to sit there and shove their opinions in the face of people who do not agree with them. And no one, not anyone has the right to try to make someone who has had an abortion feel guilty about their decision.
If my daughter (and I do have one) ever tells me she wants an abortion for whatever reason, I will support her 100% because she is my daughter and I love her, even if I think she's a "bitch teenager" as someone else said (can't find the comment now). If she tells me she does not want an abortion, I will support her 100% because she is my daughter and I love her. I will NEVER push that option on her or take it away from her.
Also, I am commenting as Anonymous because I frankly don't want those of you who are against abortion to email me. It has happened before and is just a waste of my time to sit there and delete the letters of people who "hate me" because of a choice I made years ago.
Anonymous - I don't hate anyone who's had an abortion. I spent years working with women who were post abortive and for me advocating the right to life is all about empowering and uplifting women. I would never dream of hating or ridiculing or judging a post abortive woman.
I have read through all 246 comments, and I didn't see one where anyone referred to a "bitch teenager" but if someone did, that was a dumb thing to say.
Listen, there are several medical, biological, moral, and ethical reasons that a fetus is NOT simply an extension of a mother's body, but if anyone chooses to reject simple fact, I cannot combat that. Even I am not able to rationalize the irrational.
The fact is that while you don't regret your abortion, and I absolutely believe you, the majority of women do. But that's not a reason to outlaw it. The only reason that was brought up is to demonstrate that abortion almost always compounds the trauma of rape, it does not treat it.
The reason to outlaw it in almost every case, and if you read my part of the post you'll see where I made exceptions, is because it is taking a life. Period. I'm sorry if that doesn't sit well with you. I'm sorry if you choose not to recognize that. I'm sorry if that offends you. But it is a simple fact.
I hope that you never come to regret your decision. I wish you nothing but joy and peace in your life and I make no judgment on you, though I absolutely believe the choice you made was a wrong one. I don't feel you had the right to make it because I don't feel that anyone has the right to take a life, whether that life exists inside or outside the womb.
But do I think you're a terrible person or do I hate you or wish you harm because you made the choice? Absolutely not. Best wishes. Thanks for your input.
Mama
I know you are passionate about this. But try to keep your emotions out of it. At a certain stage the fetus is not an individual that presents its own life. It is dependant on the host. Even if you would like to keep the fetus alive you cant do it without violating the rights of the host. In other words you would have to force her to carry to a term in which you could assist the child. Now in my mind that is an infringement on someone's rights. And it aint the fetus. Sorry for being so insensitive. Sometimes logic works that way.
Regardless of whether its dependent on the mother, Tat, it's still a distinct human being that is unique from its mother in every way imaginable. There are many, many scenarios where people are dependent on things for survival, if we took those things away they'd die, but we don't kill them for the sake of convenience. Regardless of where a person lives - inside the womb, in the ICU on life support, in a wheelchair, in a cardboard box underneath the overpass, that person is still a person who is entitled to the basic right to life.
Ok Mama
Here's a scenario for you. Lets say the rights of the fetus(Child) supercede the rights of the host(Mother). So in this new world the mother cannot abort the child before it is viable. In this new world they have determined that the child is viable at 20 weeks. In other words, with some help from science it can survive without its host(mother). It is at this stage a fully independent person with full rights of its own. Its at this moment the mother decides that she has rights also and she wants to give her baby away. She wants to make it a ward of the state. She is prepared to pay for the surgery that will disconnect the child from her life(womb). Kind of like the mother that drops her baby off at the orphanage, albeit a little earlier. Now because of the advances of science it is possible for this to happen. She no longer is a murderer she is just an absent mother. The child now has its basic right to life.
My concern is when our government legislates morality. I don't trust them to get it right. Republican OR Democrat....
Um, what a heated topic. MY OPINION would just be lost in all those given above.
Let's just say I am happy I am past the child bearing years...I did my part, birthed 5 kids.
Tat - That is patently ridiculous. All a fetus needs literally from the moment of conception to become viable is nourishment and time to grow. All a born infant needs in order to become an adult is nourishment and time to grow. Deprive a twenty week old infant of these things and you're a murderer. Deprive a twenty week old fetus of these things and you're within the law? You can't possibly believe that's okay.
What about kids in wheelchairs? Some of them can't live without a catheter and colostomy bag. That's a basic function they can't complete on their own. Should we kill them when it becomes inconvenient to care for them? What about a teenager in a coma? He's got a feeding tube because he can't feed himself. That's a basic function he can't perform himself. Should we kill him when he becomes a nuisance? What about retarded people? Blind people? Deaf people? All of these people are dependent to some degree. Should we be allowed to kill them?
I'll say it again. A fetus is NOT simply a part of a mother's body. Similarly, you are not a car just because you happen to be standing in a garage. This is true medically, biologically, morally, ethically, logically, and literally.
It is, therefore, unacceptable to rob the fetus, at any gestation, of his basic human right to life.
Princess - We legislate with regard to morality ALL THE TIME. That's the basis for MOST of the laws we have on the books. Some examples, which I've given about four hundred times now, though I can't say I blame you for not sifting through two hundred some comments, are drug use, prostitution, theft, rape, murder, slavery, and false imprisonment. The Supreme Court gives states the right to legislate with regard to morality.
If you don't trust either party to do it, leave it to the states to decide. Put it to a popular vote. But that will never happen because everyone with half their brain tied behind their back knows that the public overwhelmingly supports much greater restrictions on abortion, and so the minority who champions the brain sucking of babies rams this nonsense through the courts and leaves us at the mercy of activist judges.
Deprive a twenty week old fetus of these things and you're within the law? You can't possibly believe that's okay.(Mama)
I am in no way suggesting that we deprive the fetus. What I have suggested is that at this stage it is possible to give the nourishment without the mother. Science will take care of it.
Also, I agree with all your examples. But like I said before, they are all viable human beings. They can live without the host(mother). A fetus prior to its viability cannot. There is a big difference. So again, I ask you to keep your emotions in check and not give passionate responses to a logical position.
JoJo: we are at an illegal immigrant stand off.
I could no more force a woman already brutalized to birth that child than I could impose on you a limit to the amount of kids you could have. There is no difference in my mind.
Princess: Bring your Sarcastic assed self over here and let me hug you!
AMEN!
Okay, I misread. Do you have any idea how many childless couples are waiting to adopt? The "every child a wanted child" argument you seem to be alluding to does not even come close to holding up. Furthermore, that woman has a choice before her child is conceived to prevent that from happening. Because she and her partner chose to be irresponsible does not mean an innocent must then pay with his life.
There is no emotion attached to the fact that a fetus is a separate being from its mother. There is nothing emotional about a heart that begins to beat at 18 days gestation. There is nothing emotional about realizing that while only women can be pregnant, they can be pregnant with both male and female babies and a body cannot be male and female at the same time. There is nothing emotional about the fact that the blood type of a fetus often differs from that of its mother, and a body cannot have more than one blood type. A fetus has identifiable patterns of sleep and wakefulness. A body cannot be awake and asleep at the same time. A fetus is genetically unique from the moment of conception. One body does not have two beating hearts, two functioning brains, four lungs, twenty fingers, or four legs, etc.
Babies sometimes die in utero. A body cannot be alive and dead at the same time. These things are not emotional. These things are medical facts.
I have miscarried at six weeks and I have miscarried at sixteen weeks and at various times between. I have held my dead babies in my hands and I've bled so much that my bathroom looks like a murder scene. That might be emotional, Tat. But these were not "products of conception" or "blobs of tissue" or "clumps of cells". Until you have watched a dead body, no matter how small, pass from your wife as her body fails her time and time again in it's most sacred purpose, don't fucking tell me that it's not a life. Until you have felt tiny legs flutter in your belly, don't tell me it's not a life. Until you have laid in a hospital bed for endless weeks, hooked up to tubes and monitors and medications fighting for your clump of cells to live, don't tell me it's not a life. Until you have sacrificed everything so your child has a chance to live outside your womb as well as inside, don't tell me it's not life. That might have just a little tish of emotion tied to it, Tat. I'll admit that. But it's still reality.
Sage, we legislate with regard to morality all the time. You are not being intellectually honest if you can't admit that.
Ok GMthee is a HUGE distinction here in your thoughts on this one.
The legislation you bring up "are drug use, prostitution, theft, rape, murder, slavery, and false imprisonment."
All of these have a common thread....
they take or have the potential to take rights away from a human being. Drug use, A huge % of child abuse is drug related.
Theft: takes someones property
the others are obvious (as were those two just showing my thought line)
Which I am FOR. But those laws are protecting the rights of people. I know you werent addressing what we have already hashed out but see my every time stance "If it doesnt cost me money, if it doesnt take away rights or hurt kids"
To force some one of the 3 I listed in my mind would violate the womans rights. No different than the act itself.
So in JoJo's thoughts it would double dip the woman. She was already violated now the Imperial government of Comrade Obama is going to tell her she must birth, again taking her rights away. The "womans' body in my mind holds up under these three circumstances.
Tell me where I am good with legislating morality. When it doesn't not affect other citizens negatively.
We're not talking about your three distinctions anymore, love. We're talking about abortion in general. And so how can you say that abortion is "the greatest human rights violation in the history of mankind" and then be for it if it doesn't cost you money? The Holocaust didn't cost you money - you for that? Should we round up some other group of people, as long as it's not on your dime of course, and snuff them out?
Abortion doesn't hurt kids? Um, hello? It doesn't take rights away from a human being? Have even fucking met, Sage? Seriously!
Um, I meant have we even fucking met up there. I don't know this Sage who talks out of both sides of his mouth like that.
GM: I was showing my distinction on this part of the issue against JoJo the only hold out.
I said it wasnt right morally BECAUSE it violates my three rules.
You may not believe this, but I get what youre saying at its core. I agree its life. The bigger question is, who gets to determine who's rights are going to be violated? The truth is not all babies will be adopted or even cared for properly because of many different factors. And even if its 1 percent of 1 million abortions it still means 10,000 will have some pretty nasty existence waiting for them. Its not so black and white for some of us. It may be for you, but that is logical considering your experience. Not so logical for daddyfiles or the women who do get raped.
But we're talking in general, Tat, not daddyfiles or rape victims. And in general, one's rights do not supercede the other's. They exist on an equal moral plane. 99% of abortions are done for the sake of convenience. Not because of terminal fetal illness (daddyfiles) or because a woman has been raped. I conceded in my post that when truly medically indicated I am for a woman and her doctor having the option to terminate.
Well, Sage, I was replying to Princess who doesn't think we can legislate with regard to morality, even though that's exactly what we do.
GM right I understand that, I was just using that to again show my take on the 3 issues, it wasn't a rebuttal to your take, yours was spot on.
Sage. Okay then. Thank you. I take back my unladylike language in your direction. ;)
I agree that aborting a viable fetus, conceived with consent is morally repugnant and should be illegal.
Mama
But you dont have the right to pry into "why" someone is doing it. Nor does the state. Thats why its called freedom.
Tat - I have the right to say that taking the life of a human being for any reason is dead wrong. It doesn't matter where that human being happens to be living at the time. NO ONE has the freedom to take the life of another person. That's the point.
wow. fierce debate. but i believe that every has a chance at life, like GM said. I think a baby at 5 days old is a baby. it's not a cell... it's a baby. and killing it, to me, is murder.
rape? tough subject. can she give it up for adoption? and really, is killing a baby the solution to this woman's trauma?
Julia: I don't know if it is the solution, but I believe she should get to choose since it wasnt done with her consent.
She could give it up but who are we to force her to carry it to term?
I don't recall anyone dying and making me Grand Pooba of forcing people to do things they don't want to do because of a situation not of their making.
Julia - It's not a solution to her trauma, no. It's been shown time and time and time again to compound her trauma.
I'm starting to get really confused with whose saying what to who here, but Sage the argument that the woman has a right to do what she wants with her body in terms of pregnancy solely in the case of rape, doesn't seem logical to me.
If you believe the government has a right to forbid abortion for consensual sex despite the rights of the woman's body than how does a rape victim change the consequences of that abortion.
It's killing a fetus regardless of the context.
Will it make the woman feel better emotionally?
Honestly I can't give a proper answer to that. GM brought up multiple studies that proved it won't and other beg to differ. I understand each individual has their own subjective experience.
Either way ones emotional well being should not be a factor in permitting a crime. A Murder no less.
One thing (from many) that I learned from you Sage throughout these political debates is to not make things personal. To not think with your emotions, but to think with logic. So that is exactly what I am try to do.
I am trying to separate the pain of the rape victim from my decision in order to thing rationally on this topic. If I think only about her emotional well being it will prove to be too difficult to debate unbiasedly.
So, I have to look past the trauma, look past the terrible experience, emotions, and pain and think about the right thing to do.
Why is the fetus being punished for his fathers actions?
And not just punished, but forced to die.
JoJo - I do feel like clapping for your right now. Just saying.
okay I know I had a million typos with that. So not like me, but you get the point!
Gucci, I've been clapping for you this whole time :-).
I have the right to say youre dead wrong in your view. Thats one of the joys of freedom. Presently my view is on top.
I get it. You bring up some very excellent ideas, to be sure.
Um, the excellent ideas was directed at JoJo, just so you don't get any ideas, there Tat.
You can say whatever you want, sure. But you're wrong. You cannot justify the taking of innocent life. You cannot logically argue for that stance. You can say it all you want, but you can't back it up. The "right" to kill a human being does. not. exist.
I got it I can cypher!
The difference is that the raped womans situation (forced incest too) is NOT due to something she did. It is not due to her choices. See the only two people who have choices here are the rapist and the people forcing this poor woman to suffer more because she was a victim.
She gets double dipped. Now she not only has to suffer the rape she has to suffer an unwanted AND forced pregnancy, forced upon her by JoJo/Obama/the government.
Tit is fucking pissing me off.
I bet he's a Obama supporting liberal, isn't he? Which makes him super hypocritical.
"I think PRO LIFE people should mind their own fucking business(oops did I say that)"
But aren't a lot of die-hard liberals all about government intervention? I mean, if they weren't, our government wouldn't be headed in the way of socialism at the rapid speed that it currently is. Pro-lifers should mind their own business, but the government should be "allowed" to censor the media, force an entire nation to have health insurance (which I don't think is necessarily bad, but, still, people shouldn't be forced to do so), and make the wealthy pay more taxes to cover the lazy asses of those living off welfare and food stamps instead of getting a real job?
I hate nothing more than a hypocrite...
I dont agree with your assessment of when personhood begins. You can talk until your blue in the face. Until a fetus is viable without its host, for me, it doesnt constitute personhood. It may for you, but that doesnt mean youre right.
Anon
Take a chill pill. Im Canadian.
Well, medical science says I'm right. Biology says I'm right. Basic elementary understanding of science says I'm right.
Anonymous makes an excellent point, quite frankly. Liberals want the government to have their hands deeeeeeep into everything except the right to life? Wow.
Mama
Really, a fetus is a sentient feeling human being at all stages? Science has actually proven that? Wow, I wonder how I missed all that.
Science has proven that it is a life separate from the life of its mother, yes. There are different degrees of thinking and sentient among the living, Tat. The right to life exists for each and every one of them.
Sage, I see what you're saying. I understand the role of the rape victim. I understand the sex was not her choice. Trust me, I get that!
However, like I said before you are thinking from an emotional stand point. You sympathize with the victims pain and don't want her to continue to suffer because it makes you feel better, and therefore disregarding the basic code of ethics becomes acceptable.
You still didn't answer my questions.
Why is the fetus being punished for his father actions?
What about the choices of the fetus?
Did anyone ask him how he felt?
Did anyone ask if he would like to live or not?
Do we neglect the basic right to life for the sake of emotional stability?
Ah but its not capable of life separate of its host at certain stages. So in essence you are saying that a host has to forgoe her own rights for the fetuses rights. Correct?
Nah its straight logic in its purest form.
Here is as simple as I can make it u say punish the fetus.... punish it once, or punish the living viable human twice. And there ya go.
You still didn't answer my questions.
Why is the fetus being punished for his father actions?
Its not the initial victim is getting a choice
What about the choices of the fetus?
They are unable to decide and my stance is that the Obama doesnt get to decide for the fetus in this horrible situation.
Did anyone ask him how he felt?
I never ask how anyone feels, mainly because I dont care.
Did anyone ask if he would like to live or not?
Again, not its decision.
Do we neglect the basic right to life for the sake of emotional stability?
No we forgo the rights of the fetus because that is what is the fairest to victim.
I am saying that the rights of the mother do not trump the rights of the child. I am saying that a person does not have the right to kill another person for any reason. I am saying that the mother has the right to make a choice whether to become pregnant, but once she is pregnant, the deed is done and her right to choose pregnancy is over. There is no such thing as the right to have an abortion. That is a fictitious "right" created originally to ensure the superiority of the aryan race. Its roots are in eugenics. No one has the right to take the life of another human being; that is what I'm saying.
No one has the right to take the life of another human being; that is what I'm saying.(Mama)
I think you are dishonest at best and liar at worst. Coming from a conservative these words reek of disingenuous.
Really. And what about that is dishonest? Please, PLEASE do not even attempt to compare an innocent baby to a murderer on death row or enemy combatants in war. There is absolutely no hope for you, Tat, if you can bring yourself to do something like that.
Mama
Your words sweetie, your words. Maybe keep the emotion out of it and you wont put your foot in your mouth. ;)
You can't tell me what words are dishonest? You can condescend to call me "sweetie" and a "liar" in the same breath but you can't point me toward that dishonesty? I have demonstrated time and time again that my argument is not based in emotion at all, but scientific fact. If you can't tell me what part of my take is dishonest, then I am not the one who has trouble with "foot in mouth", now am I?
No one has the right to take the life of another human being;(Mama)
I will take it at face value. Why do you get to decide which life has more value?
I don't say one life has more value. I say that BOTH lives have equal value.
What about the murderer that wasnt aborted? Or the insurgent that wasnt aborted? Hmmmm, interesting direction this could take.
Tat, I knew you were going to go there, even though I tried to warn you. A murderer is not on the same moral plane as an innocent baby. An enemy combatant in a time of war is not on the same moral plane as an innocent baby. A suicide bomber/terrorist/lynch mob is not on the same moral plane as an innocent baby. To equate them is to show a disgusting amount of contempt for the sanctity of life and quite frankly, anyone who does should be ashamed.
Because I can anticipate your next question, no I would not have aborted Hitler, bin Laden, or any of those guys. They hadn't yet committed any atrocities as fetuses. But I absolutely support the right to kill them after they slaughtered thousands of innocents.
Of course not, even though some murderers become beautiful loving individuals, far be it for me to say they are as equal as the fetus that grows into Ted Bundy.
I never said murderers are beautiful, loving individuals as you well know. You have no way of knowing who will grow up to be Ted Bundy and who will grow up to be Ghandi. You cannot kill someone in advance of what they may or may not do. You cannot punish on the basis of future potential for crime. That is the most ridiculous "argument" I've ever heard in my entire life.
Youre right, lets go back to your black and white world. Youre right, Im wrong. :(
Well, anyone with half a brain knows that, Tat.
You still haven't given me a real example of my supposed dishonesty. Probably because it doesn't exist. But if you still think that, I'm still fascinated to see you prove it.
The reason that thought line doesn't hold water in my mind is because the conception was done with the consent of the parties. There is only one act that could possibly cause that unrequested and with consent.
If the people did not want a child then they shouldn't have participated in the act that caused it.
So in that case the viable fetus or cell blob or whatever it might be should have MORE pull than the two consenting participants. In that case the fetus is innocent and wanted evidently, if it was truly unwanted then the peope would have never done the act.
That is how the rights lay when there is consent.
No one has the right to take the life of another human being;(Mama)
This is the example. This statement from your lips is a lie. It is dishonest because of these other statements you made.
A murderer is not on the same moral plane as an innocent baby. An enemy combatant in a time of war is not on the same moral plane as an innocent baby. A suicide bomber/terrorist/lynch mob is not on the same moral plane as an innocent baby. To equate them is to show a disgusting amount of contempt for the sanctity of life and quite frankly, anyone who does should be ashamed(Mama)
Sage, I don't mean to be rude, but I fail to see the logic behind your responses.
"Its not the initial victim is getting a choice"
1) Just because the initial victim is getting a choice, doesn't mean the fetus is not being punished if the choice is to abort.
"They are unable to decide and my stance is that the Obama doesnt get to decide for the fetus in this horrible situation."
2) You're right that a fetus may not be able to decide, but then why is it not okay to make that decision on a neonate who also doesn't have the brain capability to comprehend that decision?
It's unethical regardless of what
stage of life they're in.
"I never ask how anyone feels, mainly because I dont care."
3) You say you don't ask about anybodys feelings, but you seem to be basing your opinion on how the victim of rape would feel carrying the fetus to term. This seems to be quite the contradiction.
"No we forgo the rights of the fetus because that is what is the fairest to victim."
4) You think it's okay to forgo the rights of an uninvolved living being because that's fair to the victim?
Should victims of abuse be entitled to violate the rights of their children because that's fair. Would you allow someone to abuse their children because they were abused as a child and this is a mechanism for them to release their pain?
The victim in this case was also violated physically and now the children are being forced to suffer the consequences of that because of the criminal actions of the original abuser.
No, child abuse is never acceptable, regardless of a persons individual traumatic experience and history.
So to, punishing a fetus for a crime he did not commit for the sake of playing "fair" for the victims psyche should also be prohibited.
It's not a lie, Tat, because anyone with even the most minute degree of intellectual integrity assumes that I of course mean the life of the baby vs. the convenience of the mother within the context of this conversation. You're grasping at straws because you simply cannot combat my take. It's indisputable. I find that most people who can't argue with my irrefutable points stoop to insults, condescension, and name calling. I'm used to it. It doesn't bother me; on the contrary, it makes me smile because it tells me you know I'm right.
Insults? Moi? calling you a bitch would be an insult. Calling you a liar was a compliment. :)
I dont agree with your ill founded logic. And regardless of how I try to show you otherwise you disregard my examples.
Tat, I disregard your examples because they don't make any sense. It's the height of illogical to equate a fetus in utero with a murderer or terrorist.
It's ridiculous to call me a liar and the site an example of something so wildly out of context my infant could refute it.
Give me something that makes sense and then we'll talk. But so far, you have not made any headway in defeating anything I've said because everything I've said is just simple fact.
It's impossible to combat simple fact. I applaud your efforts, love, but it's not going to happen.
Mama
Im not talking about my little side venture with ya. You dont want to acknowledge my examples of personhood. I get it. You think it starts at conception, I dont. Is there anyway to prove who's right? Not in our lifetime. Youre still a pup, Im sure you will see the gray more clearly in the future.
The general consensus among medical science is that life begins at conception. Whether or not you choose to recognize that is irrelevant.
Ah, I see you still avoid the idea of personhood. You know the one that gives you rights and such. An amoeba is alive. Would you let it drive you down for your massage?
I don't avoid the idea of personhood at all. I have said time and time and time again that a fetus is a baby is a life. Ever read Horton Hears a Who to your kids? "A person's a person, no matter how small." True.
An amoeba is not a human, Tat. Therein lies the difference.
Here's the question. At all stages could you tell the difference?
Tell the difference between an amoeba and a human? Yes. Absolutely.
Really?? Even at the cellular level. Wow, you are good
An amoeba doesn't have a heart beat.
You mean me personally? No. I'm not a geneticist. But there is a quantifiable difference between a human and an amoeba at every single stage of development. A human is always a human. It's never anything else. An amoeba is always an amoeba; it's never anything else. Of course there's a difference.
Gucci Mama
You win. I capitulate. You are the most amazingly stubborn woman I have ever met. You even beat out my wife and she's pretty fuckin stubborn too.
Shit, who am I trying to kid. I lied. Youre still wrong. Bonsoireee
I'm not stubborn; I just know more and argue better than you do. I went to college on a debate scholarship love, and graduated with a degree in political science. It's excessively difficult to best me. Especially when I'm right, which I nearly always am. Night. Thanks for playing.
Well I had an ectopic pregnancy - 8 weeks- that ALMOST KILLED ME when I was 21. The only thing I am thankful for is that I was in a part of the US where the Dr operated immediately to save my life rather than complete paperwork or fill in other required forms.
The fact is that the American medical system caused my ectopic pregnancy to develop to the extent that I needed this surgery. All ectopic pregnancies need to be aborted - there is nothing that they can do to move the baby into the womb. But if any of the 3 doctors I had been to see over the prior 2 months had even considered pregnancy, or had spared the money to run a pregnancy test, my life - and my fertility- could have been saved with a simple pill.
Instead, I had internal bleeding for at least 3 weeks and almost died from internal hemorrhaging. I overdosed on pain meds during this period because I could not cope with the pain - the hospital did not check pregnancy as I was having a normal cycle during the overdose.
I've lost half my fertility. I don't ovulate every month any more. I've had two pregnancies that I've been unable to carry to term. This makes me tear up to talk about as this happened only 2 years ago and the pain is still fresh. I am so thankful that my doctor preformed my abortion and saved my life.
I honestly found Gucci Mother's views very hurtful. She dismissed the real need for abortion to save a mother's life, saying that its only in very rare cases. The fact is that rare cases do happen. And by complicating and restricting access to abortions, people like Gucci Mother make it harder for doctors to act when necessary and needed. In my case, the surgeon told me that I would have died in as little as 2 hours. 2 hours of paperwork, 2 hours of mandatory counseling, 2 hours of the doctor seeking clearance. 1 DEATH due to lack of access to abortion is 1 death too many - and it could have been me!
Trust me, Gucci Mother, my parents used to feel the same way! Then it was me who almost died. Now, I speak out for the 1% "excessively rare" cases, saying that we do exist.
I would really appreciate an apology from Gucci Mother for marginalizing my experience. I have always loved this blog.
-Texan Girl
Texan Girl, did you read what I wrote? I specifically stated right there in the post that I absolutely agree this exception is necessary. I am heartbroken to hear of your experience; if you've read through the comments you know that I am no stranger to multiple miscarriages and excessively high risk pregnancy. If you haven't read it, let me know and I'll tell you about it.
You have it wrong though, not all ectopic pregnancies need to be aborted. Did yours? No question. Absolutely. I wouldn't dream of arguing that. But ectopic pregnancy does not mean tubal pregnancy, it means pregnancy anywhere outside the uterus. There have absolutely been cases of successful full term ectopic pregnancies.
I completely support the need for this medical exception as I said in the original post. What I object to is using this excessively rare medical necessity as justification for abortion on demand at any gestation for any reason.
I'm sorry for the misunderstanding, but I stand by what I said. I really think you misread me. I would never dream of telling you or a woman in your situation that you should do anything other than what you did.
No one has the right to take the life of another human being;(Mama)
Except of course with certain exceptions.
I know, you get to make the rules.
Tat - Did you even read what I wrote in the original post? Seriously.
I'm not sure why my newest comment is not yet showing up. Can someone check for me? I don't want to have to re-write it as it was quite long.
-Texan Girl
Gucci Mother, I think I'm done reading this blog. I just read your comment about how no one gets pregnant as a result of rape again, and I am just nauseous.
"What first needs to be understood is that women almost never get pregnant as a result of rape. It happens between one and three percent of the time. Further, one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage. Still, while nearly impossible, it does happen."
I am just so flabbergasted by your unchristian sentiment. Imagine being a women who is pregnant by rape reading this comment. I guarantee you that these people exist. It would feel the way I felt when I read your original article. I happen to be one of the people who you don't see- one who had to terminate my pregnancy to save my own life. I understand you much better now. You simply marginalize and ignore everyone who is on the fringe and treat us like we don't exist.
I just want to tell you that I exist. My God knows I exist and I am thankful that others fought for my life.
I'm done with this blog now. I used to appreciate the articles but now I am just physically sick and isolated from the blogging community.
-Texan Girl
Texan Girl - Not sure whether you'll read this, but I'll say it anyway. I'm sorry your feelings are hurt, I truly truly am. But you are either really unable to understand my words or you are deliberately misunderstanding them. I stated over and over and over again that these instances are extremely rare, but they DO exist and so we need to know how to handle them. You are not reading my words, you are reading what you want to see so you can be a martyr. It's too bad you have that mentality. I know your pain with regard to miscarriage and high risk pregnancy. I know it better than you realize. I don't marginalize that at all.
You need to read what I'm saying here instead of reading into it something that isn't there because you want to lash out.
You're attacking me yet I have done nothing but agree with you. That's too bad.
We're on the same team, girlie. I support you, I empathize with you, and I want nothing but the best for you.
Well, blogger ate my comment again. Damn!
I'll just post a link for Tit
http://bellsouthpwp.net/m/a/maryb683/marybrown/graphics/8-weeks.jpg
Say that life begins at implantation and if you want proof I got that too I just don't want to post that crap all over again.
I will post a link to the site I found that gives the information on when life begins so you can look and then come back with any questions. http://www.merck.com/mmhe/sec22/ch257/ch257c.html
You will notice I posted a link to merck. That is a well known and medically recognized site. Go ahead and read it a bit.
Texan Girl- I am sorry that you don't want to read this blog because of one opinion. But I won't apologize for Gucci Mama's opinion because I want my contributors to have that freedom to voice their view of things. That is what this blog is all about.
In 300 and something posts that have been posted on this blog, this is the only abortion one. And I do warn people before hand that if they are offended by one post to leave the blog for that day and come back another day because I guarantee you will find something you like then.
What I love about the variety of people that read this blog, is that there is likely one person who relates to an opinion and can voice their experience, like you did with the value of the health of the mother and having to make that difficult decision to either keep the baby or abort. I feel for you and your situation. Our ability to have children is so special and it is horrible to have that taken away from us without any choice. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal experience.
If you do come back to this blog and read through all the comments, you will see that there were those of us that support you and your experience and we understand that in those 3 cases, we believe, there should be a choice.
The choice is difficult and traumatic either way.
But Gucci Mama also has a right to her opinion whether one agrees with it or not.
I would love to see you back here, and even have you contribute if you have something you would like to share.
Shelle
Heather
I agree about when life begins. I mention more about personhood. When do you become a fully realized individual? Im not sure science has the answer to that one. I know I dont.
Shelle and Texan Girl - Just in case for some reason it still isn't clear, Gucci Mama fully supports Texan Girl's right to do exactly as she did in her situation. Gucci Mama stated that specifically about nine hundred thousand times starting with right there in the original post, which Gucci Mama is becoming more and more convinced Texan Girl didn't bother to read.
Gucci Mama is beginning to take offense at this notion that she's some kind of woman hating baby zealot who tosses women over in favor of their fetuses.
So let's be very clear about this. Once and for all.
I, GUCCI MAMA, SUPPORT TEXAN GIRL IN TERMINATING HER LETHAL TUBAL PREGNANCY IN ORDER TO SAVE HER OWN LIFE. I BELIEVE ALL WOMEN HAVE THE RIGHT TO TERMINATE THEIR LETHAL TUBAL PREGNANCIES RATHER THAN BLEED TO DEATH INTERNALLY.
Are we clear yet? Because I've said it repeatedly, but not in all caps until now.
Texan Girl, my whole point, which people deliberately miss so they can spout off their nonsense is that I am sick and tired of this argument being thrown around constantly, as if because this rarity, however tragic it certainly is, happens once in a blue moon, we should never have the discussion of abortion restrictions on the table. The fact is that 99 out of 100 abortions occur for the sake of convenience. Should the 1 out of 100 whose life is in immediate danger because of a lethal tubal or molar pregnancy have the right to take whatever measures necessary to save her life? Yes. For the 900,001st time. But don't make the whole debate about that. That isn't what it's about.
If you can argue with my take logically, bring it on. We'll talk all day and you'll learn something if you're willing to think. But do not put words in my mouth that I did not say because you cannot find anything to pick apart in the perfect ones I did.
wow,.. WOW!
Tit, I believe that personhood begins when the brain begins to function. That begins at 25 days I believe give or take a few. At that point, the neurons are firing in the brain. The brain may not be thinking like you and I do, but it is performing as a brain at that size can naturally perform. So, I suppose that would be when personhood begins for at that time, no matter what science you want to quote, common sense prevails. At that point, you can feel. At the point at which a fetus can feel, personhood is absolute.
So, although I do not believe at any point an abortion for the sake of convenience is ever okay, at that point you can say the fetus is no longer considered a part of it's parent. Scientifically speaking. Personally, I believe the point of implantation is where that becomes true, but science would say otherwise so we will go by science.
I would also like to say that being dependent on someone to live, no matter what the circumstances are, does not make you less of a person. Just as GM has said several times and you choose to misunderstand.
In a perfect world, once a baby is born it wouldn't be dependent on a mother to nurture it. It would pop out and go to work. Like elephants do. Just because the fetus is INSIDE the mother while being nourished does not mean it is less of a person.
You have asked, what about the mothers rights? When do I think we are starting to infringe upon the mothers rights? Now, with the exception of rape incest victims, we give every woman the right to inquire and receive birth control. We give them the right to buy condoms wherever and whenever they want. You can even pick flavors now. No taboo surrounds them anymore. These are two things we fought tooth and nail to have. If you don't use them, and you conceive, you do not have the right to violate another human beings right to life. No matter the size or vulnerability of said human being. It has a heart that pumps blood the same as you, a brain that fires neurons the same as you, and only requires a warm place to stay and a source of nourishment until it can leave your body and become someone elses blessing if you choose not to keep it.
As for "not all babies get adopted", you will find by and large that is hardly the case. It is a very very rare occurence that an infant not be adopted in the US. Even with disabilities babies very rarely go unadopted. There is actually a shortage of babies to be adopted in the US, which is why so many families go to other countries believe it or not. I have done lots of research on this topic.
would also like to say that being dependent on someone to live, no matter what the circumstances are, does not make you less of a person. Just as GM has said several times and you choose to misunderstand(Heather)
I know where you are coming from and no I did not misunderstand what Gucci was saying. I think you have misunderstood what I meant. I was saying that before a certain age the fetus is totally dependant "ONLY" on its mother for survival. After a certain stage this is obviously not true. In such cases either science or another human can ensure its survival.
Wow! 362 comments..I don't have time to read them all, so I'll just chime in with my $0.02!
I am definitely not against abortion. I agree with all the reasons Sage posted, but ultimately, I don't think it's anyones business except said party. It's my body and I will choose to do with it what I wish.
There are plenty of people out there who should not be continually breeding over and over and over again when they cannot care for their offspring. How about people focus on that?
My cousin, my most favorite thing in the whole wide world, was taken away from her mother because the mother could not care for herself or the children it seemed she was constantly pregnant with. My cuz was found in her diaper at 1 1/2 years old walking outside of their trailer by herself while her poor-excuse for a mother slept inside. She was taken away and give to a family member thru foster care. This state is all about reunification. She went back for a while and the state took her out of her mothers home yet again, two black eyes, hair falling out, malnourished. It was heart-breaking. Guess what? Her mother got pregnant, again.
My cousin was lucky, and in her case I'm sure glad her mother didn't get an abortion, but how many other children aren't as lucky?
But back to my original point, no one can tell me what I can or cant' do with my body. Period, the end.
@ Bare essentials
“No one can tell me what I can or can’t do with my own body.”
So only your body matters, but no one else. I see.
What about the fetus’s body?
Does the fetus not have the right to protect his own body or his own life for that matter?
And to justify the demise of a fetus based on the assumption that he may or may not have a poor upbringing has no merit.
Are we as people allowed to determine what defines a valuable quality of life for a person?
Should we destroy the lives of all people who we feel are better off dying anyways because of their medical disabilities, cognitive disabilities, socio economic status etc.,
Maybe we should just go ahead and kill off all the people with blond hair because I personally feel that a brunette has a better quality of life.
Just saying…
Your cousin’s situation is sad and I agree that not all who bear children are adequate parents, but a parents flaws should not be the determining factor in deciding over whether or not a child deserves the right to live.
I would just like to point out, that while not an advocate of abortion (I have three of my own children), I don't think that any person has the right to make the decision for another. What a woman chooses to do, right or wrong, is her decision about her body. No piece of legislation should ever be able to make that decision. And if it is because of morality, your stance on whatever afterlife you choose, then let that woman answer to the higher power that she believes in. It is a personal choice. Not a public one.
So now murder is justified based on personal preferences?
In that case I have a few people on my hit list and the public better stay out of it and mind their own business!
I also don't think the rational behind pro life has anything to do with scoring points with God.
You can respect the right to life without even believing in God.
One doesn't have anything to do with the other.
But back to my original point, no one can tell me what I can or cant' do with my body. Period, the end.(Bare)
I disagree. If it was my sperm that is the other 50% of the equation, then I would expect my rights to be respected.
I'm so behind I just saw this post today and I just had to give my opinion.
I didn't read all 300+ comments but I read a few in the beginning.
I'm on Sage's side, however I think he's pushing the rape issue a little too much because it's really not just about that.
It's a fact that you tell someone not to do something thier going to do it. For example teenagers having sex without condoms and getting pregnant. Everyone tells them not to do it but they do it anyway don't they?
OK, so the same goes for abortion. As of right now abortion is legal and woman are walking into clinics by the dozen every day. That means that they are choosing to abort that child for whatever reason it is.
Take that right away from all these woman and you will still have abortions going on but in illegal and unsafe atmospheres which will ultimately lead to more deaths.
At the end of the day if your opinion is that abortion is wrong then by all means keep that baby. But just because this is your opinion doesn't make YOU right and anyone else WRONG.
You don't like it then don't do it, good for you.
You don't care and want that baby out of you? Thats your problem. You have to live with that, no one else.
I agree with Teresa! (and I'm also very behind, sorry)
It's really not about rape. It's about a woman's right to privacy, and having the right to make decisions about her body, in private with her doctor.
The moral argument will go on forever, and all I can say is "each to her own." I don't think abortion is right but it's also not my place to say. I can only hope that anti-choice people will not cast heartless judgement on a decision that was not theirs to make. What I dislike more than anything is someone on a high horse.
What I agree with Teresa most about is that if you make it illegal, women will do it anyway. Only it will be under unsafe conditions and risk all sorts of other complications.
@Teresa and Lilly.
I love you both, but using the logic that if it’s illegal women will find a means to do it anyway isn’t necessarily a reason to make something legal.
People are going to do drugs regardless, so should we just make that legal too?
Teenagers will drink and drive regardless of the law, so should we make it legal?
People are going to rape regardless, so should we make it legal?
Maybe we should have a hotline that rapists could call before they’re going to attack someone that will provide them the information on how to access free condoms in order to prevent pregnancy and STD’s on the victim. Since the rapist is going to go ahead with rape regardless, we should only take measures to assure he does it in a safe way.
For this reason, many refuse to condone the murder of a fetus just because it is done in a medically safe institution for the female.
I understand the idea behind a woman’s right to her own body, I just don’t understand why only women deserve this right.
Why doesn’t the fetus deserve the right as well?
I also don’t think anti abortion advocates are necessarily casting heartless judgments on those that choose to abort and I don’t think that was the sentiments of any of the people against that option.
The decision on whether or not to abort is understandably an incredibly difficult and emotional decision and I think we all show compassion for anyone that was ever in that situation.
The issue at hand is the ethical parameters surrounding its legality, but no one is placing judgment for having opposing opinions.
@ “To each her own”
This should not apply in regards to destroying the life of a viable being. The fetus is a completely separate entity only using the female’s uterus to grow. It is not part of the female’s body. It has its own body, own heart rate, own limbs, own circulation, own brain, own gender etc.,
The idea that it is part of the female or belongs only to the female is a misconception. I think that people easily overlook the fact that there is a living breathing fetus at hand because they get so caught up in advocating for female rights that suddenly killing a baby is acceptable.
While I’m grateful for all the advances society has made in empowering women with being able to vote, receive an education, own property, not being a slave to their husbands etc., I don’t think that one of these rights should be enabling murder of a separate being just because “it’s my body and I can do what I want with it.”
If we have the "it's my body" mentality then would you approve of a woman aborting her pregnancy at nine months or at term?
If it’s her body and she could do what she wants with it then she should be able to do it anytime in the pregnancy period.
Many pro choice opinions even find that unethical, but to me that’s a huge contradiction if you’re going to use the “my body” excuse as a means to justify abortion.
Jojo
But it is Legal. The issue is some are trying to make illegal based on their morality. If you dont like the law get enough votes to change it. If you cant then obviously this is what the majority wants.
Tit for tat:
I'm not arguing on whether or not it's currently. The argument I was making was that it's legality is just as much corrupt as if we were to allow rape, drinking and driving or other crimes.
What the majority thinks is not necessarily the ethical choice either, so regardless of election outcomes,the wrong choices still get made.
The majority of Germany at one point thought it was okay to kill anyone who was Jewish, black, homosexual, handicapped or gypsy.
Does that make it ethical because the majority approved of it??
sorry, it's whether or not it's currently legal*
I didn't finish my sentence...
The argument I was making was that it's legality is just as much corrupt as if we were to allow rape, drinking and driving or other crimes.(JoJo)
Again, based on your morality.
As far as the Germany example goes, how do you know what the majority thought on all those matters? Afterall its not like Hitler was the leader of a "Free" nation like the states. Or would you like to compare your country and its voting to Germany?
Germany was a democracy before Hitler came along.
Governments come and go. They are never permanent.
While I may not have spoken to every nazi individually, if you study the history there is no question that very few objected to what was going on and the rest fell into the eloquent scapegoat trap led by Hitler or had the same sentiments to begin with.
@ "based on your morality"
If the general consensus is that murder is wrong and illegal, this should be applied to murder of any age group.
It's not an opinion that the fetus is living. This is a fact proved with science and technology.
Therefore, it's difficult to respect a law that's filled with contradictions.
Jojo
Two points:
1st: Though Germany may have been a Democracy prior to Hitler gaining power, it was the furthest thing from it while he ruled. Even if people chose to disagree with the policies he implemented they were either coerced with threats or intimidation or just plain old murdered. The majority of Germans would never have agreed to the wholesale slaughter of millions prior to his gaining power. This lunacy was perpetrated after his arrival. His power was so absolute many of his political rivals ended up in the camps too. A democracy it was not. I hope you dont think your country is comparable to Hitlers Germany.
Point 2:
A fetus by law is not on par with a baby that has survived past its incubatory period. For arguments sake I will grant you that a 22 week old fetus could possibly survive without its mother, so in essence it could be considered a viable human being. But prior to this period it cannot, regardless of medical intervention. Even if you wished it to be on par with a viable baby, it is just not possible. To equate murder with ending the pregnancy at this stage is NOT legally binding. To open the door to this kind of thinking you would then open it up for other ideas. Such as manslaughter(possibly) for the mother who miscarries while riding a rollercoaster at 18 weeks? Do you want to go down that road?
Tit for tat:
That’s my exact point, that Germany WAS a democracy before Hitler came to power, but once he took his dictator position things changed.
Do I think what’s happening in America is even remotely comparable?
No absolutely not, but my point was that things always change.
That’s history for you.
Do you think the Jews especially the many that were part of the affluent culture were able to foresee their fate?
No. They could not fathom such atrocities would occur to them when they were very much a part of a FREE country, fought for Germany in the first world war and were the doctors, lawyers, professors, scientists etc., of the country as well.
Things change all the time. Governments are constantly overthrown by other authorities and war is inevitable. While at this point I’m not comparing Obama to Hitler just yet, it certainly makes me uneasy knowing he’s shitting on our allies while bowing down to the people that want to kill us. I feel like my freedom is slowly being destroyed and it makes me question how this country is currently being run. For now, we still live in a democracy and there is hope that Obama won’t be here for too long.
Now that we’re completely off topic I will continue with the history lesson.
Yes, many were coerced and intimidated into abiding by Hitler’s ruling, but there is no documented evidence that majority of the people felt that way.
The Nazis were quite meticulous at documenting EVERYTHING.
It’s a nice thought and I think it makes people feel better about the human species with that mentality, but it is inaccurate to say that was the case with majority.
I don’t want to go into a whole detailed essay, about the history of anti-Semitism and the Jews, but if you do read up on it, you will realize that it wasn’t such a new concept and that humans throughout history allowed these atrocities to occur. Germany is no different.
Many psychological studies were conducted afterward to try to understand the human psyche and how people could go from being friends with their Jewish neighbors to wanting to see them dead. However, the mentality that it was acceptable was in their heads regardless of what “psychological” pathways may have taken them there.
As far as the abortion debate goes, I’m not arguing on whether a fetus can live outside the woman before 22 weeks gestation. The point is that it’s a living, breathing, heart beating being and that fact gets overlooked.
Whether it can survive outside the uterus is irrelevant when arguing if it’s alive inside of it.
Whether it can survive outside the uterus is irrelevant when arguing if it’s alive inside of it.(Jojo)
When it comes to discussing individuality it does. How can the fetus be solely an individual if it is entirely dependant on the host to survive(at certain stages)? Maybe that should be the determining factor on personhood.
As far as Anti-Semitism goes you need look no further than the two big religions who cause it. Seems Christianity and Islam have the largest share of Haters in their midst.
“Maybe that should be the determining factor on personhood.”
I don’t see how dependency should be the determining factor behind personhood.
Many people are dependent on others to live, but they’re still individuals.
In regards to anti-Semitism, I agree with your point and I’m not arguing over its origins. I was trying to portray how majority of a country can come to a consensus on something obviously unethical. The majorities’ opinions aren’t necessarily the right ones.
"Many people are dependent on others to live, but they’re still individuals."
But they aren't dependant on another person's BODY to live. Also, a fetus acts as a parasite, taking from the mother (the "host" in this analogy) without giving back, and acting as a detriment to the mother (leeching nutrients, by definition, a parasite). Most women accept this as a reasonable sacrifice: I have two children, so I certainly did.
A woman who does not accept these sacrifices as reasonable, however, should not be forced to do so. Plenty of people are reliant on others to live, certainly, but if the caregiver decided to stop providing care, someone else could assume responsibility. If a woman chooses not to be pregnant, no one else can assume care of her fetus.
Also, personhood is a muddy issue, but as for me, a fetus is not a person. You can't claim a fetus on your taxes, you can't see a fetus, you can't touch a fetus, and a fetus can not be a citizen. When does a fetus become a person? To me, it's when the fetus is born, or is viable (meaning that the fetus could be born and would most likely survive). However, I don't think there are many women out there who get to 24 weeks or later and then suddenly decide that they don't want to be pregnant anymore. The majority of abortions happen in the first trimester, well before viability.
“But they aren't dependant on another person's BODY to live.”
Regardless of what or who they are dependent on to live doesn’t change the fact that they are still living and breathing. That is the argument I am making, not how they survive, but their right to survive.
If you’re going to use the argument that the fetus is a parasite and the mother doe not benefit from the relationship then you can use that argument for mothers and their neonates as well. A mother doesn’t gain anything physically from that relationship, only the neonate gains the nurturance and nutrients needed to survive. Many human relationships in this world can be described as parasitic, that doesn’t make killing an acceptable option.
Furthermore, if the nutrients the fetus was utilizing to survive was harming the mother or threatening her life, everyone seemed to agree that in those rare cases, protecting the mothers life is an acceptable option.
However, that is not a common occurrence. The Fetus may be utilizing the woman to survive temporarily, but it generally does not cause life threatening harm to the mother.
“When does a fetus become a person?”
My argument is acknowledging the fact that this fetus is alive. It is breathing and has a beating heart on top of all other factors that make up its life. Your personal opinion on what defines a person is irrelevant. Both science and technology proved otherwise.
If you are hypothetically diagnosed with cancer based on scientific and technological evidence, but you PERSONALLY believe you do not have cancer based on your own ideas and definitions that too is irrelevant.
The fact of the matter is you have cancer whether you think you do or not.
So to, the fetus is alive whether you personally would like you believe it is or not.
You can touch and see a fetus thanks to technology and a fetus can’t become a citizen because it’s location of birth is yet to be established until its delivery.
The majority of abortions happen before what is considered viability because it is currently illegal to do so otherwise, but the argument is if it should be legal regardless of the chronological age of gestation.
Regardless, if you’re using the argument that the fetus is a parasite, shouldn’t the mother be entitled to abortion any time throughout the pregnancy, which means even a nine month woman should be entitled to an abortion with that logic.
"Regardless, if you’re using the argument that the fetus is a parasite, shouldn’t the mother be entitled to abortion any time throughout the pregnancy, which means even a nine month woman should be entitled to an abortion with that logic."
No, because she could give birth past the age of viability.
"So to, the fetus is alive whether you personally would like you believe it is or not."
I never said that the fetus was not alive. A kidney is alive and lives in the human body, that doesn't mean that it's a person.
"The Fetus may be utilizing the woman to survive temporarily, but it generally does not cause life threatening harm to the mother."
And my arguement is that a woman should not have to accept ANY harm to her body, unless she wants to.
"... then you can use that argument for mothers and their neonates as well. A mother doesn’t gain anything physically from that relationship, only the neonate gains the nurturance and nutrients needed to survive."
It's not the same thing. For one, the mother does not have to take care of the neonate. Sure, she'd be classified as a horrible person if she abandoned her sick newborn, but there is a choice there. She has the choice to be there, to care for the baby. If abortion is not an option, there will be no choice for pregnant women.
Outlawing abortion, or restricting access to it, blatantly says that we do not trust women with decisions regarding their own bodies.
“No, because she could give birth past the age of viability.”
Well then in that case your parasite argument has little validity. If you’re going to permit destroying a fetus because it acts as a parasite, this should be applied regardless of the fetus’s chronological age. It’s a parasite despite what you claim to be viable.
What you are mainly arguing is that the female should not have to assume responsibility for the life of a fetus until it is at an age you consider viable enough for someone else to assume the responsibility.
I disagree with this, but the parasite logic can’t work with that idea.
“I never said that the fetus was not alive. A kidney is alive and lives in the human body, that doesn't mean that it's a person.”
Does the kidney have a heartbeat?
“And my arguement is that a woman should not have to accept ANY harm to her body, unless she wants to.”
So as a society we should accept the harm to the fetuses body instead?
Yes, if it’s a matter of self defense and the woman’s life is being threatened, I agree with terminating a pregnancy before 24 weeks. However, this is not common.
“For one, the mother does not have to take care of the neonate. Sure, she'd be classified as a horrible person if she abandoned her sick newborn,”
Uh no that is illegal. If a mother “chooses” to abandon her new born and not care for it or feed it she will be convicted and not just classified as a “horrible person”. That is a crime. It’s called abuse.
“Outlawing abortion, or restricting access to it, blatantly says that we do not trust women with decisions regarding their own bodies.”
On the contrary, if anything it's saying we DO trust them and it’s empowering them to make wise health decisions regarding their bodies in this time rather than having society tell them they can’t handle it because they’re too young or too poor or too immature etc.,
Outlawing abortion has nothing to do with trust for women, but protecting the life of a fetus.
Bringing womens rights into the picture is neglecting the more serious issue at hand.
Women have abortions because they do not want to be pregnant. Giving birth results in the same solution, so I'm not sure why you say that my argument is invalid.
"Uh no that is illegal. If a mother “chooses” to abandon her new born and not care for it or feed it she will be convicted and not just classified as a “horrible person”. That is a crime. It’s called abuse."
She can renounce her rights to the child. That is legal.
"Bringing womens rights into the picture is neglecting the more serious issue at hand."
This quote tells me a lot about your viewpoint. Forcing women to stay pregnant against their wishes violates women's rights to their bodies. Saying that a potential person is more important than a living, breathing woman is saying that women are not important.
"On the contrary, if anything it's saying we DO trust them and it’s empowering them to make wise health decisions regarding their bodies in this time rather than having society tell them they can’t handle it because they’re too young or too poor or too immature etc."
No, it's telling women that THEY are too stupid to make those decisions on their own. Saying that women are having abortions because "society told them to" IS saying that women are incapable of making their own decisions. Women understand what having an abortion means, and when they make the decision to have one, I don't imagine it's because "society" has told them not to. People fall for peer pressure all the time, but most abortions are done before the woman has even told anyone they are pregnant; society has very little to do with making that decision. And I don't know anyone, ever, who's told someone they were pregnant and gotten as a response "well, have you considered an abortion"? THat's not to say that it's never happened, but I do not believe that it is the common response.
Elaina
Thanks. I was trying to make those points too, but you have done it so much more eloquently than I could have. :)
“Women have abortions because they do not want to be pregnant. Giving birth results in the same solution, so I'm not sure why you say that my argument is invalid.”
Not every woman will think with that logic. You may personally think once it’s viable, delivery is the ethical decision after 24 weeks to end the pregnancy, but other women may not choose that direction and would prefer to abort. Therefore, if you consider the fetus to be a parasite at one point in the pregnancy these women can use that logic throughout the pregnancy period and should be able to chose to abort regardless.
Furthermore, it is illegal for a physician to induce a delivery without a medical need, so just because the woman wishes to end the pregnancy after 24 weeks doesn’t mean she has the option to do so, which would make her more inclined to choose abortion if need be. Since the baby is considered a parasite this should pose no problems.
“She can renounce her rights to the child. That is legal.”
Yes she can. I never disagreed with that.
“This quote tells me a lot about your viewpoint. Forcing women to stay pregnant against their wishes violates women's rights to their bodies. Saying that a potential person is more important than a living, breathing woman is saying that women are not important.”
This also tells me a lot about your viewpoint. That it’s absolutely acceptable to kill a baby because the woman has the right to her body.
Apparently the fetus has no right to his body.
The fetus is not a potential life. It is a life. It is very much alive, it just hasn’t been born yet. Killing it because it has yet to be delivered does not justify the act.
I never said the fetuses’ life is more important than the mothers and I already said if the woman’s life was being threatened her life comes first.
However, the fetuses life is more important than the woman’s body . The woman does not have to give up her life to carry a fetus to term. However, the fetus apparently has to give up its life, because the woman has a right to her body.
So yes, a fetus that is alive is more significant to me than a body.
“Society has very little to do with making that decision”
By society I was not referring to individual peers, but to society as a whole. The messages that we are socialized with from childhood based on our surrounding culture. These messages frown upon teen pregnancy, tell mothers they may be inadequate to raise kids depending on their socioeconomic status, and promote establishing a career before child bearing.
Not everyone follows these messages, but they are still there and definitely impact the females thought process.
With that being said, a significant amount of abortions are done by teen and non married individuals. Society’s expectations have everything to do with part of that decision.
If you don't want a kid, don't screw. My point initially was the people who didn't intentionally make a CHOICE to screw should have an out. That is still true, fair and moral.
Want a kid, screw. Don't want a kid, don't screw. I took anatomy and physiology in the front seat of an f-150, I found that female girl women have 3 available orifices and only one causes pregnancy. They also were born equipped with a back and and belly.
There is more than one way to skin a cat.
there ya go.
Damn Sage
I think you aroused my wife. Pretty funny stuff. Very accurate also.
@ JoJo - you make a good point about the fetus having the right as well. Point well taken. I have to mull that one over for awhile. However, my point was more that making abortion illegal isn't going to solve the problem. If anything, it will make it worse. I don't know if legality is the solution (clearly not) but I'd favor some sort of scenario in which it can be performed safely.
I don't think you can compare legalizing rape with abortion. Abortion is a matter of personal choice (sure, not the fetus' choice but essentially it is a matter of personal choice). Abortion is less harmful to society than teen drinking, rape, drunk driving, etc. Abortion is hardly as reckless as rape.
I wasn't saying that pro-lifers are casting heartless judgement on those with different opinions. I was talking about people judging women who actually have an abortion. I do think some people unnecessarily judge women who have abortions, and they tend to be in the pro-life camp. I don't think ALL pro-life people do it. Obviously you don't do it. But I have witnessed many people who have put forth some pretty hateful things. I grew up in a small, heavily Catholic town full of people that judged abortions without even looking at the facts. I have seen so many instances when people criticize women for having abortions because it is not the "Lord's way" or whatever, and the hate and lack of compassion is unbelievable. I was certainly not saying you judge other people with different opinions.
But that's all. Just wanted to clarify.
@ Lilly.
Thanks for clarifying. I knew you weren’t attacking me, I just wanted to explain the sentiments of some of the prolife stances on this particular forum. Yes, I hate it when people bring God into it. I don’t think one has to do with the other and I can understand how that can be highly irritating and a turn off for that matter.
I do on the other hand, find the victim of rape and the victim of abortion to be of comparable terms, obviously not in an emotional sense, but somewhat in a physical sense.
Rape is violating the woman’s body.
Abortion is harming/killing the fetus’s body.
Both victims have no control over the violation.
Though I agree abortion is physically less harmful to society as a whole because it can only cause harm on a fetus, I think the harm it causes to the fetus shouldn’t be overlooked.
@ JoJo - I agree 100%. I don't think the harm to the fetus should be overlooked either. The effects are comparable, but I can't shake the gut sense that the actual act of abortion vs. the act of rape is not comparing apples to apples.
But yeah, I don't know. I have no idea where I stand on abortion. I'm probably pro-choice or whatever, but not in all cases. I especially don't think abortion should be used as birth control, that's for sure. I think too many foolish women who are too stupid keep their legs closed take advantage of it that way. Which is just plain wrong.
But anyway, that was a tangent. This debate is interesting and I'm glad to participate (minus the brain spasms from the 300+ comments).
P.S. if you are reading this it means you are not studying!! Busted!
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