This week has been devoted to facebook and I hope to not be redundant with this post. As it is with all things in this world, everything can be used for good or evil. I am going to break down my thoughts into a few catagories. However, as a woman of my age,(59) WE are not as involved with facebook as you younger set are. We use it, but I don't think in the same volume as you do.
My sensitive area of facebook has been my reuniting with my current husband. I don't want to go into those details as I posted about that on Real World already, and if you REALLY want to know, go back and read the post from August 26. There have been past comments about infidelity on facebook. It is an issue for sure, but as one person said on a comment, facebook is merely another conduit for such a thing. A really happy, secure marriage needs to be protected and not be "toyed" with. You don't need to even invite past boyfriends, girlfriends back into your life, not really.
However, there are some relationships that have been restored through facebook. Sometimes the cost can be high. Be prepared for that. Not all re-connections are a bad thing. Good Morning America did a piece on that saying that in some past relationships, an imprinting of a sort happened, that when that person was reunited it is pretty powerful. Be careful how you judge those. Most I think, is frivolous flirting that can also lead to danger.
Ok........Next. Have any of you been embarassed through facebook. Have people made a comment about you or "tagged" you in a photo you wish had not been put out there. They didn't ask you....they just put it on their facebook. Should you ask first?
I saw on a facebook page a young lady who was apologizing all over the place for a comment she made about her in-laws that was NOT received well. They were, well Pissed Off at her.
Back in the day....my day....we used to write letters to our family and friends. Letters take a few days or even a week before being received and then more time before you get an answer back. Facebook and this media we have now certainly cures that, we get instant information. But....do I really need to know you have diarrhea. I guess facebook is good for that, because if you put it in a letter what would be the point...you'd be over it by then.
Can facebook be a source for bullying. People can be pretty hurtful. I have a friend who is a coach and he and his staff are berated over and over through comments on facebook. When we get angry, we can instantly facebook about it. Not always a good thing to have that access in the "heat of the moment" when maybe a little time to digest the situation is in order.
So there you have it. Has facebook helped you more then hurt you? Is it taking to much of your time and energy...to respond to someones diarrhea.
Facebook is here to stay. It is a fire we can't put out............my thought is to be careful with how we fuel it.
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