It isn't that he's negative about everything, though. There's just one subject that constantly come up in our conversation and pretty much everything he said about that subject is negative, and that is our neighbors. Since we've moved to our current residence, we've been having some major issues with our neighbors.
So anyways, because of some of the things that our neighbors have been doing, seems like every time my hub and I are alone and we're talking about something, doesn't matter what the subject is, he always managed to bring it around to our neighbors so practically our conversation would end up on the topic of our neighbors. Most of the time, I'm screaming in head saying..
"I KNOW OUR NEIGHBORS SUCK!! YES, THEY DID AND SAID AWFUL THINGS TO US, I WAS THERE REMEMBER?!! BUT I AM SICK AND TIRED OF TALKING OR LISTENING TO YOU GO ON AND ON ABOUT THEM. NOT EVERY SUBJECT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT IS RELEVANT TO OUR NEIGHBORS, LET IT GO!!!"
I've come to the point where I now have to screen our topic of conversations. If we are going out on a date, and driving to the place of our destination, I usually am the one trying to come up with some safe topics where I was sure it wouldn't circle back to a negative conversation about our neighbors. Of course, it doesn't work all the time. Sometimes he would beat me to the bunch and before I know it, he's going on and on about our neighbor. Sometimes I change the subject when I'm not too lazy(LOL) or I just crawl into my own thoughts and just let him have at it.
And no, it doesn't matter how many times I've told him that there are just things he really can't control and that he needs to just ignore what he can't change and move on with his life.
What about you guys? Which one of you is the negative/positive one in your relationship?
{Shelle, sorry that it took me this long for this post and thanks for your patience.}
