Okay, so we have had a lot of posts where we have talked about keeping our spouse first in our relationship, taking time for each other, remembering that marriage is something you GET to work at...and to stay away from being the POTATO in the marriage.
We (My husband and I) do ALL that as a couple. We go to the movies, the late show, once or twice a week!
At night...I have to have my husband spoon next to me in order to fall asleep (which is completely his fault, because when we were first married I hated it...I couldn't fall asleep...but the guy is persistent and now, when he goes on trips, I'm a complete and utter mess cause I can't sleep--who DOES that to someone they love...HUH? HUH? Just saying, Mr. Anonymous--and NO your length-like-post comments do NOT count as a post!)
So on average... we pay attention to our marriage.
Having said all that AND understanding it.
Here's something REAL about my relationship.
I want ME time.
Seriously, just ME time.
I want to go and kidnap a girl friend and chat, gossip, and laugh the night away.
I've been tempted to get a hotel room for a couple of days and bring a STACK of books, and closet myself in, and READ at my leisure the WHOLE time.
Ya get it?
He's the complete opposite. The guy doesn't really care to hang out with other people that much, (I mean he will--he's great at socializing, one of the things that attracted me to him in the first place--he just doesn't "prefer" it), he is always wanting to hang out with me.
I know ladies...aaahhhhh...I know.
But...a girl needs her girls to agree with everything she says, not a guy who wants to fix everything that is wrong...or a girl just needs her OWN brain to live in HER world for awhile, to contemplate how to solve all of the worlds problems! hehehe
I swear when we were dating the guy was WAY more social and independent and I was wrapped up in him so much that you couldn't find where I started and he ended...but along the way I lost a little bit of who I was. So I started having to make time for myself...
But it seems that the longer we are married...the more he would just rather be a homebody and hang out with me and the kids. It's sweet...
But I think it is good for a couple to be apart. Do things on their own that only THEY enjoy--I'm sorry, but I'm a girl and I enjoy different things then my husband. For instance, I LOVE to read--my husband opens a book, and it is a sure fire way for him to fall asleep.
Maybe I'm justifying my alone time...but I honestly feel that I appreciate him more when we have time apart...
Not time apart because we are fighting, or time apart because we can't handle the stress, but time apart on GOOD terms and because we are fulfilling other things that makes us who we are independent of our spouses.
This isn't a problem in our marriage...he gives me MY time...and occasionally steals time for himself.
But it just got me to wondering...am I alone in the way I feel?
Do you guys steal time for yourselves? How are your spouses? Can you define yourself outside of being so and so's wife/husband? Do you even want to?