I often wonder what etiquette there is, if any, when you pass someone on the street. Specifically when passing someone of the opposite gender. Do you make eye contact or not? Smile? Say hello?
For reasons I don’t know I find myself averting the eyes of men I pass on the street. I even find myself looking down and completely avoiding even looking at them. I am not sure why I do this. The house I was raised in wasn't one where the male is supreme and my marriage is not like that. Ask my hubby if I defer to him.
Pardon me while I laugh. We are equals (as I feel it should be).
So why do I avert my eyes? I know I don't want to have anyone ask me a question I might not be able to understand or to answer. I do find this is far more common when I'm alone or just with my kids and my husband isn't with us. I never used to have quite such a problem with this.
I don’t understand what it is that compels me to look down or away. People don’t intimidate me, at least I don’t think so. It is more likely for me to do this when passing a man than a woman though.
It doesn't seem to matter if they are taller than me or not. If it's more than one person or not. I even usually wait for a man to address me first (even the dad at school whom I've spoken to numerous times). I can't figure out why I do that.
If it isn’t something I recognize from my upbringing is it because of the media (tv, magazines, books etc)? Do you find yourself avoiding eye contact with someone of the opposite gender on the street? Do you greet someone of the opposite gender first or wait?
I’d love to hear from both men and women!