Words women usually love and men usually hate. Guys are the get in and buy what I need and then get out in under five minutes variety (in my experience). Women will browse, look, browse again and then maybe try it on. Then we need to look some more, after all we might miss something that's even better or an additional 20% off (we are in this to save you money guys!)
Okay not true, if it's 20% off that means depending on how much we save we might also now be able to afford those red sandals we've had our eye on. The great thing is you'll compliment our bargain shopping selves for getting so much for so little.
Have we got you snowed or what?
But my point is really about how we buy what we buy. Are you a sympathy buyer? I am.
A sympathy buyer is a person (my definition anyway) of someone who knows this person who has something to sell (a book, a new super cool toy or product) and I feel like I have to buy it. Because I am supporting another mom/blogger/friend/person I sorta maybe know. It's the same reason little kids selling crap (um stuff) ring my bell. If I have cash it'll end up in their pockets.
When a guy is confronted by the same person?
They say no.
How? How is it guys can simply say no when confronted by Buy This guilt? Is it that I am too invested emotionally? (You know in almost virtual strangers.) Is it a man's more practical manner that allows them to say no?
I have a lot of stuff; books, tokens, things someone I vaguely knew was selling and when confronted with their smiling face I couldn't say no.
I was too afraid of offending someone by saying "No, I don't like XYZ or need QRS". I worry if I say no I've just sent the person into bankruptcy or down a slipping slope into depression because I didn't buy The Thing they are selling.
Does anyone else have this problem? Is your significant other the buyer or the say no person? What about the singles reading this blog? Is it easier to say no when you don't have to justify it to someone else?
I'm curious how I go about saying no so tell me how to say it! (but if you're selling something you can reach me via email).