Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Make Up Sex

I think Make Up Sex is a HOAX!

I don't believe in it... not one bit!

And I don't count regular sex after you've made up from an arguement.

Because I have been led to believe that Make-Up sex is hot, sticky, and unbridled!

An OUTER BODY experience... some friends have even went so far as to tell me that it is some of the best SEX they have ever had!!!

PPPFFFTTT! Lies!

See... we fight, disagree, argue... make-up, hug, kiss... smile.

Then eventually comes the inevitable sex... but nothing out of the ordinary. Not to say that it isn't good or fantastic or great... because I mean it usually is all of that.

But I was expecting that after we made up he would get hot and jump my bones and we would fall to the ground in a tangle of sloppy kisses and discarded clothing... ya know?

So tell me... all lies? Or are we just not making up right??? Any pointers if that is the case?

love,


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45 comments:

Untypically Jia said...

I completely agree with you. A total hoax. Honestly even when we make up, there's often still a few bitter or upset feelings and neither of us is ever in the mood.

Missy said...

I am with you guys. Make up sex is a myth. Usually when DH and I fight he ends up saying some hurtful things, and I don't want to have sex with him for a month. I am just glad we don't fight very much anymore.

Steph said...

Makeup sex is not a myth....

But I will say make up sex was easier to have the OMG experience when we didn't have kids and little ears around. :)

Steph said...

Makeup sex is not a myth....

But I will say make up sex was easier to have the OMG experience when we didn't have kids and little ears around. :)

Aubrey said...

Urban myth. TOTALLY.

valerie said...

LIES! All LIES! We may have made up from our fight but do I want to go have sex with him? Probably not. I'm not mad anymore but, I'm not in the mood to have sex with him either.

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

OKay... so we are normal...because you guys are right! The last thing I want to do is have sex after fighting... even if I have made up with him.

Except for Steph... HELLO GIRL...you need to expound a little??? Give a girl some advice! Or girls... since the rest of us don't have OMGosh make-up sex!!!

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

And calling ALL guys!!! What's your stance on this??? I'm assuming it doesn't matter to you guys right??? Whenever is good with you huh?

Sage? Daddy Geek Boy? Cameron? Mr. Anonymous? Cajoh? Dadshouse? Or any other male lurking around...Any words or advice on this???

SciFi Dad said...

Married sex after children is a myth, let alone make-up sex.

CaJoh said...

If you are going to have sex after an argument what are your feelings toward one another at the time?

I wouldn't want to have sex just because I felt guilty or victorious after an argument. To me that seems forced. I guess people think that the heat of the argument gets one all hot and bothered, but I think the opposite is true. How often to we hear "don't go to bed angry"— why then have sex after an argument? Is this to calm the nerves so that we can sleep.

I tend to cower during arguments and not get closer. Perhaps I should try to get closer so long as I don't get burned.

Southern Sage said...

Well since she learned years ago I was always right we never argue. When we do she is ummmmmm in the season of womanhood so the make up stuff is out!!!
Furthermore, surely by now everyone knows that anytime Big Poppa does the deed its a hot,sticky, unbridled, hair pulling, smackkk slapping, whats my name, eye rolling, breath taking, life changing, who's yo daddy event.

So I guess I have nothing to offer this post.

And on the note at the bottom, I was invited and have a post written but I gotta finalize it. I dunno if you counted me as single with my bride being married and all.
;-)

Daddy Geek Boy said...

Believe it or not, WonderWife™ and I don't fight. So we have never had made up sex. HOWEVER, there have been women from my past with whom I've fought. And yes, there is such a thing as make up sex.

In my experience, the more tumultuous the relationship, the better the make up sex. That said, I'm much happier having the more stable relationship that I have now instead of the make up sex.

Southern Sage said...

also if I thought I would be better at it after fighting we'd fight daily!

Missty said...

I am with you Daddy Geek Boy - we don't fight much less argue either, so the sex department is pretty much great all the time. lol

valerie said...

Sci fi dad-That cracked me up! I've totally felt that way before!

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Sci fi- that is so true! Well not for us, but in most cases.

Sage- rolls eyes... Of course of course...I'm ashamed I even called u out! But per ur second comment...I often wondered that when people told me about make up sex...I most definitely would fight all the time!

Cajoh- I am more like u I think...not that I cower...but I just would rather laugh then fight.

DGB- we fight but not a lot either...more like bicker..
But I think u nailed it by saying it was usually a volatile relationship...which I've never had.

Missty I thought u would say something like that :) I need to meet u guys and take notes..just observe!

Steph...where u at? We all need advice!!! Hehe

Amber Lynae said...

We don't really argue much, but we we do sex is the farthest thing from my mind even after we have made up. In our marriage there is no makeup sex.

dadshouse said...

Makeup sex is a hoax. You shouldn't have sex when you're angry. Go ahead and make up, get in a good mood, THEN have sex.

Alyson (New England Living) said...

When it comes to the idea of make up sex, I'm more of a guy and my husband is more the girl. I'm ready in the heat of the things, but he'd rather talk everything through first. By then, I've cooled down considerably. What's wrong with me?!

ZenMom said...

You know, I've never thought about it before. But I think you're right. We don't fight much. But I can't ever remember having make-up sex of the mythical proportions.

The one that's always seemed even more unrealistic to me is the omg-I'm-so-mad-at-you-right-now-but-I'm-also-so-turned-on sex.

Yeah, I think that only happens in books and movies. And maybe Playboy.

Pfft. If I'm that mad, there's not going to be ANY sex, much less throw-me-on-the-floor-and-rip-my-clothes-off sex.

Steph said...

So sorry to have let you girls down. The make up sex is great when after we have fought and want to make it all right.

It's the sex that you have right then and there, no matter where you are.

Here again, this was all pre-children. Now that we have kids, we're lucky to have sex at night once they are in bed.

mother goose said...

make up sex is the only thing that got us through the first 5 years!! like for real!! YOU ARE DEFINITELY NOT doing make up sex right or you are not fighting hard enough for your hubs to give it to you hard and passionate. EEKS too R rated??

But seriously!!! We don't so much have make up sex now because WE HAVE LEARNED to unbridle those inhibitions and bring them out without the drama!

But seriously, it is all in the frame of mind. WE fought so passionately and hard that making up and loving was equally the same.

toe curling, body freezing, pulse pumping, out of the body experience. Being hot and ready even before he touched me. Having his breath sear through each nerve in my body and his touch just to make me scream TAKE ME NOW!!!

only to collapse breathless and beads of sweat collect near the base of my throat while my chest slowly quits heaving. YUMMY OH YUMMY!!

I better stop reminiscing or I just might have a big O experience by myself! OH and by the way you can have multiple and when that happens the experience is beyond heavenly and practically sinful!!!

I'm telling you the two of you are not fighting HARD ENOUGH! What the heck is this site anyway?? where is this link you brought me too??

The Crash Test Dummy said...

ha ha ha You are so right!

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

HMMMMM... okay, so besides Steph and Mother Goose in her early years of marriage and Daddy Geek Boy when dating...

I'm basically normal?

So How did I find all the friends that have incredible Make-Up sex? Why couldn't I have GNO with normal boring everyday non-existent make up sex girls??? huh? Huh??? HUH???

Southern Sage said...

Because all yourfriends are fa-reeeeeeeeaaaaakkkkkkkkkksssssss

T said...

Freaks - absolutely, Sage is right... they're freaks. (did I just agree with SS? whoa...)

I'll try and pick a fight with MOTH soon to test the theory... but thus far... I'm going with Myth.

Youngblood4ever said...

Not a big "make-up sex" person. When we fight, which really isn't that often, the sex, I would classify as being good, like always. If I am in the mood, it is always good. Maybe we aren't fighting the right way. Do we need to pull hair? Scratch? Tear each other to shreds? Or is that supposed to be part of the make up?

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

OOOHHHH T you agreed with sage??? You're crazy!!! So you must be included in my Fa-Reaky friends??? lol!

Youngblood... very very very good questions... any answers?

Anyone...ANYONE???

This thing on?

mother goose said...

young blood that is part of the fight that turns into the make up! passion my man, passion.

mother goose said...

would it be TMI, if I told ya'll I've gotten rug burns before from flippin off the bed??...i'm just sayin.

mother goose said...

Ummm.... sage I resemble that compliment! thank you thank you very much.... you have NO IDEA!! LOL

Steph said...

Shelle- I wouldn't go so far and say that your friends are freaks, but everyone has their own style of making up, and make up sex is awesome when you can make up that way. There are other ways that I have been known to make up with DH when I have been wrong, and he likes that too.

MGoose- LOL about the rug burns!!

Southern Sage said...

T is soooooooooooooo smart!!!!

Mamma Goosed hubs needs to break the belt out more often it seems!!!!

mother goose said...

sage, didn't your mama teach you it ain't nice to tease??

mother goose said...

ok, peeps, this was fun. NOw I have to go read the scripts before I find myself in hell.

April said...

I can't believe I am agreeing with Sage...sigh....your friends are probably lying as well. Either that or all of your friends have tumultuous relationships.

Southern Sage said...

MG???
Tease?
Hmmmm
I never tease...... ever. What color belt? I travel....

Southern Sage said...

April, good choice nobody has ever agreed with me AND been wrong!!!
It just doesn't happen!

annie valentine said...

First off, make up sex is only better if you've been fighting for a week. Hello, sex is always better after a week.

And I'm always willing to do a post on relationships.

Anjeny said...

Ok..I'm three hundred years late in the response but Shelle, I love the post.

I was thinking that maybe your friends have been relating a make-up sex scene from one of their romance novels or have been watching Mr. & Mrs. Smith too much.

The last thing I want when my hubby pissed me off or we have a fight is for him to even come near me or be anywhere within eyesight so how in the world can we have make-up sex? LOL But for the sake of research, maybe I should try out MG's theory...I've had rug burns, bruises from self corners from sex but those did not come from make-up sex...maybe I just might go up in flame if have that kind of make-up sex MG and Steph commented about...lmao!!

mother goose said...

PEOPLE! It would not be called MAKE UP SEX if you were STILL MAD at him,

makeup sex only comes from AFTER THE HARD FEELINGS ARE GONE!

ICK ICK and double ick if anyone would have sex with their wife/husband and they were still mad at them or harbored feelings, They have a word for that, and Make up sex isn't it.

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Attention attention everyone... MG has a point! It can't be Make-Up sex unless you don't harbor those feelings anymore... because of course you have MADE UP!!! But hot does it get hot sticky and steamy without bouncing off the heat from the argument I wonder???

And MG I think Sage was talking about you when he mentioned my friends are Fa-reaks... and I love it!!! hehehe...RUG BURNS!!! HA! hehehehehe HAHAHAHAHAHA! One of my co-workers came to work and was like, "ppppsssttt.." and then pulled up her ankle length skirt to reveal some of the worst knee burns I've EVER seen!!! Yes I laughed, cause I'm immature like that. Were talking 3rd degree blistering burns. Yes I asked her if they were worth it... she shrugged her shoulders, SHRUGGED! WTFandago???

Steph... my friends are freaks... and it's okay. But you are right, we all do make-up in different ways, but MSM and I hardly ever fight long enough to have a full on shouting match. I can probably count on one hand in the 9 1/2 years we have been married when our fights got like that, so making up like that I guess isn't going to ever happen for me. SIGH!!!

April--I can't believe ANYONE lies!!! hehehe

Sage-- I just rolled my eyes at you FOR real!

Annie--I would LOVE for you to write for us! I'm going to email you asap... I adore your writing!

Anjeny--Amen girl... I hear ya and Amen!

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Kenz said...

I hold a grudge too long to have make up sex! Never had it, don't ever want it!

dontjudge said...

Make up sex is definitely real and for a 20 something there is always something to fight about.

I think we are in two different sex worlds.

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