Hi my name is Shelle and I'm a blogger.
That is sometimes what I have felt like since blogging came into my life.
At first blogging was a day to day scrap book for my family members who didn't live near us, only I would blog maybe once a week? Then I started to blog surf (going from one link to the next on different blog pages). I began to find blogs that made me laugh or cry or just plain entertain me and so I tried my first non family post, I just wrote whatever was in my head... and it was HORRIBLE!
But that one post catapulted me into what became an obsession.
And I wish I was kidding.
I spent hours and I mean HOURS of time writing posts, reading blogs, and commenting. If you didn't comment on others posts then people wouldn't comment on yours and to get people to know about you or want to follow you, you not only had to produce good posts but you also had to make good comments! All of which takes times... and that time you are spending reading and commenting takes time away from other responsibilities. Yet I didn't notice it because, selfishly, it made me happy and I was becoming friends with some fantastic people!!!
Then I was introduced to FaceBook. I never really got into that, yet, it was another thing that took some time.
Then came twitter, oh twitter how I love thee. I could put all of my random, stupid, thoughts into 140 words and put them out there for people to read and respond on, only I didn't have to upload photos like on blogging or facebook or spend precious time creating a posts!
But it still took my time. Even after I got a phone that allowed me to be away from my computer!
My wake up call??? My husband sitting me down and telling me I was neglecting him! My husband who we both admittedly say that we have communication problems... SAT ME DOWN to talk to me, and then any time that I would go to get on the computer he would get really negative about it, plus other things had fallen to the wayside like cleaning and laundry and sadly at times my kids. Probably the one thing he said to me that hit home and helped me to back off from my obsession was "your blog friends know more about what you do then I do sometimes I find out about things that you or the kids have done by reading your blog, facebook status, or twitter then by YOU!"--oops! (That's my guy over there, ya blame me for making sure I keep him???)
I had to sit back and think about it and my time spent on this internet world that I had created for myself and realized that it had effected my life. Although it was something that made me happy I was allowing it to be a bad thing in my relationship and because my husband means and IS the most important thing to me in my life it became a problem.
I have sense backed off my blogging. I won't fully give it up because he knows that it does in fact make me happy, but I spend a LOT less time and energy on it. I spend time on the stuff that is boring but has to get done like cleaning and laundry, I spend time harassing my kids, and I spend time loving my husband.
I don't think I'm the only one that has had this problem/addiction. I think there are many of us that have or do. It's like anything, you have to do things in moderation, but sometimes when you are so wrapped up in something you can't see that it becomes a problem because you are to involved. Luckily I have a husband who loves me enough to shake me when I need it.
On the other end. Blogging has introduced me to incredible people, some of whom I have met in real life. It has also helped me realize that I'm normal, that others do silly things to "just get by" while parenting, that my husband is wrong... I AM "normal" when it comes to how often I want sex compared to how often HE wants it :), and that my kids are actually not as out of control as some others, and that they are weird!lol! My blog friends also helped me pull through a difficult death in my family with their words and gifts. And again, blogging has been theraputic and makes me happy. FaceBook has re-introduced me to old friends.
Twitter I'm still obsessed with... come on guys people are funny when they fit their thoughts into a 140 characters, baby steps people, baby steps.
Now I feel naked in front of a crowd by admitting all of that... a bit stupid.
So has blogging or social networking affected your relationship either good or bad? What are your opinions on the matter? You can answer anonymously if you would like.
1 year ago