Tuesday, May 11, 2010


Like any relationship things change.

So is the blog.

Well kind of.

When I began this blog my vision was for it to be an outlet for people to write about their relationships. I still want that, but people are shy about it. I've always stressed that it is okay to be anonymous, writing under a pseudonym, but it has morphed into being more about the core contributors and their relationships rather than a community of people sharing stories and giving advice, or just empathizing with each other.

My Core writers are still the base of what holds this blog together and will remain that way. Their honesty and beauty in which they write make the foundation of this blog. But we are still missing our community.

We want to involve you in our clique, where everyday is a gathering of minds and opinions, everyone welcome.

So every so often I am going to write a TOPICS post. This post will have a list of topics that I would love to have addressed with two different opinions.

This is where YOU the reader come into play. I want these topics covered by GUEST CONTRIBUTORS, that means YOU!!!

I need your guys' help and stories. I want to learn from you. Some topics will have already been covered on the blog, some topics will be new, and some topics will come from other posts where I feel we need to delve down further on a subject.

Here's the skinny. Step-by-Step.

First the Topics: (Remember every topic can be related to any relationship, doesn't just have to be a normal married one. Could be parental, siblings, children, friends.)

1. How has blogging, facebook, twitter effected your relationship. I need a "Good for my Relationship" and a "Bad for my relationship" perspective.

2. When raising your children are you a united front or divided? (This could also work for those divorced with children because you still have to parent together).

3. How do you make religion work in your relationship, when you don't have the same religious beliefs? Do you sweep it under the rug or give it a good effort to work together.

4. How do you work through the awkwardness of making a relationship go from online to real life? (This could mean blogging friends or single dating)

5. Who is in control of your finances and how do you stay independent while also working together or do you feel you can't have it both ways, it's either HIS and HER money or OUR money?

6. Does your spouse play music you despise when on a road trip? how do u deal?

7. "Personal grooming" your spouse hates yours or you hate theirs.

8. My partner loves animals, I don't, how do you cope or don't you? Does it effect the relationship?

9. My spouse puts hobbies above me it seems (TV, computer, etc)?

10. My partner can't get enough of me and I could do with out. How do you work through that as a couple? Or do you?

11. Are there things you aren't interested in, in the bedroom, but your spouse is really curious about? Do you deny them or do you give in? How do you deal with that?

12. I or my Spouse is a scheduler and I am not. (That could be a co-worker, boss, friend, etc...)

13. My spouse and I continue to keep our relationship first by doing ________ ? (that could work with family or friends also)

14. The relationships I learned from to get to the "perfect someone" for me--your story.

15. My spouse or I deal with depression. How it effects the relationship. What we do. How we cope or not.

Next what we are going to ask you to do is email us if you would like to Guest Contribute on any of these topics. Let me just reiterate here, we WANT YOU to Guest Contribute, if either of us were any good at begging we would be doing that also!

 Shelle (The Queen Bee Venus Perspective) at blokthoughts@gmail.com. Put in the subject line: GUEST CONTRIBUTOR and then tell us what you want to write about.

Then I will tell you "OKAY the topic is yours" or "Sorry that one is already being covered, don't pass go, don't collect $200.00", or we will just ask you to please please please choose another topic.

Then you will get a calendar invite of the day we would like to post, when we figure out when that will be.

I would prefer that each topic have a MALE and FEMALE perspective but it isn't necessary.

After that, it is up to you to write the post and send it in so that we can get it scheduled.

We do have some boundaries and rules to how explicit you can get with your writing and what choice of words are allowed, but other than that we basically want you to write however it is that represents you and your perspective best.

That's it!

Pick a topic and email us!!!


P.S. I can't believe I forgot. Feel free to send us topic ideas or even a topic that you would like, need, or want to write on. That would be awesome!


heelsnstocking said...

ive sent my rambling thoughts to sage...

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Sweet! Thanks Heels!

Vodka Logic said...

I'm thinking, I'm thinking.

MsH said...

Great topics, how do you want ideas to flow your way. In the comments section or email to realworldvenusmars@gmail.com or blokthoughts@gmail.com

sorry - only been a blogger for a month

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Vodka!!! Good we want you to do that and then write for us! ;)

MsH-email us! :). Blokthoughts@gmail.com is best!

Southern Sage said...

Hells:I got em!

VL: come on now! Get some good stuff workin up in there!

Southern Sage said...

MsH: you can mail me!!! Mail me!


Hush wouldja?????? All belly dancers get my mail! Sheeesh

Laura said...

I have an idea, could one of you email me please..

Southern Sage said...

Laura, your profile is unavailable and I cant reply to your comment via mail.

I guessed at several Laura email addys but it seems I can't guess it either!!!!


send us your addy!

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

YAY! Laura--I know who you are. I got your message.

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Sage--please refrain from scaring anyone away! ;)

Just Jules said...

Is Laura Vodka Logic? That is her blogging name?

Mariah said...

My computer is sick, but I would like to write about #1 How Twitter, Facebook etc. has harmed a certain relationship. I can't email at the moment because of my broken computer. I'd also like to suggest a topic. Teenagers and dating and how / when to step in when you see a relationship turning 'dangerous'

Vodka Logic said...

My gmail address log in diff than my blogger and sometimes I forget to change it and I comment as Laura.. sorry for the confusion.

Vodka Logic said...

BTW Sage, I have had a crush on Clint Eastwood since I saw Play Misty for Me...