"To feel better Venusians get together and openly talk about their problems." --pg.31 of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus.
How true is this in YOUR relationship? I'm curious.
With MINE? We are text book.
I LOVE to talk out my problems with a bunch of girlfriends. REALLY! Are you shocked?
Didn't think so.
But I do. Really ladies, isn't it funny how we can solve all the worlds problems and ours in the matter of a few hours while eating lunch?
I find that talking out my problems helps me dissect it so that I can better understand it and solve it.
So I'm a talker. sue me.
My guy, however, has to solve his problems on his own! He doesn't WANT advice, when I try to give it to him he gets defensive... or ignores it, same diff to me.
He doesn't want to sit down and share with me. He bottles it up, and either it eats at him or he solves it.
So when we got married, you can imagine his JOY when after the Honeymoon phase receded and we had our first late night chat where I was frustrated with something and wanted to talk it out, yell, throw tantrums, talk, listen, and talk it out until I, and when I say I, I mean WE, had come to a conclusion.
Yea... didn't work so much.
You can imagine MY joy when I notice that something is wrong and when I ask him, "Hey baby? Is something wrong?" he just tells me "No." and figures that's all he needs to say!!!
So there you go. We fall into the average male/female role when it comes to this, my GUY and I.
What about you guys? Where do you fall? How do YOU solve problems in general and with your relationship?