Monday, March 15, 2010

What Would You Rather?

Sage had this brilliant idea. And since we had technical difficulties for a post today... I think we will try out this fun or disturbing game of his.

You have probably all played, "Would You Rather"?

Well here it is RWVM style.

All you have to do is in comments... let me know which one you would rather if you had to choose, you can comment anonymously. And you have to choose one or the other!!!

"Would you rather have a partner who cheated on you OR was addicted to drugs"?

Leave your answer in comments!!!

17 comments:

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

I'm going to be first. I'd say Cheated on me... at least he is still in his right mind. Drugs scare me and are hard to get off of.

Evonne said...

If my partner was addicted to drugs, I would do all I could to help him get sober. It's just in my nature to want to help others. But if he did not take the help or continued to relapse, I would leave. But it would be a lot harder for me to leave that type of person than one who cheated on me, because as I said, I have a need to help.

But if I had to choose, I would pick a partner that cheated. If it was a one time thing hopefully we could work through it one way or another. If was a continuing problem, than I would leave and for me, it would be easier to leave this type of person.

tysdaddy said...

I smoke. My wife drinks Pepsi. And we've never cheated. So . . .

MommyLovesStilettos said...

I've had both. They both suck but I think a drug addiction is far worse.

615sWife said...

Arent they the same? I mean someone who is on drugs is cheating on you with something it may not be a man or women but it is taking control over them and so they cant be there for you and if someone cheats on you they are like a drug user because they had to get there fix. Either way, they had to go to something or someone else to make them feel good.

Southern Sage said...

I'll take cheated for $1000.00 Shelle!

Both would be a severe breech of trust but the cheating would I think in most cases have a much narrower path of destruction for everyone (kids, relates etc)

Danielle said...

I am going with cheating too. It would be easier to get out of the relationship with someone that you weren't afraid would get doped up and kill ya!

Anonymous said...

I'll tell you that breaking off a relationship is much easier than a drug addiction. There's more on the line w/drugs, too. Abuse, finances, and other issues. I'll take a cheater any day.

Another Suburban Mom said...

I choose cheating. Cheating any day over drugs.

Chief said...

Cheated on me... I would drop his ass like a hot rock but I still love him and would not wish drug addiction on my worst enemy

People in the Sun said...

Let her cheat, SEE IF I CARE!

If I love someone and she cheats, that means she's now happier. It might offend me, but I'll get over it (even if our relationship doesn't). If she's addicted to drugs, on the other hand, well, there's nothing worse than drug addiction. It destroys the addict and everyone around her.

Anonymous said...

I have kids and we have responsibilities these can still be carried out with a cheater.

Give me a cheater!

Well....not for real... but, you know what I mean.
Just Jules

April said...

Wow, this is a hard question for me to answer. Why? Because my ex cheated AND was addicted to drugs.

They're both equally horrible. Cheating causes you to just about never trust him ever again and the same with drugs.

So, I can't answer this question because I couldn't choose either of them. But if I absolutely HAD to choose, then I'd say cheating. (I guess I just picked on then, didn't I.)

Alex said...

I've been with men who have cheated on me and men who have been addicted to drugs (of all types).

My answer is without hesitation;

If I HAD to choose, I'd rather a man who was addicted to drugs.

When you're cheated on, you lose trust in that person. When it happens multiple times, you begin to lose trust with men in general. You start wondering if the next one is cheating on you too and you start disecting every little thing.

When you're with someone who is addicted to drugs, he's doing this to himself. Period. Unless he comes home under the influence, it's not affecting me (and YES I am speaking out of experience; my exfiance never did drugs around me and I seriously had no clue).

Any way, this is just based soley on my actual experience. I know that not everyone thinks the way I do and therefore will disagree with a few points I've made. But again, this is what I have experienced.

Vi said...

If I was made to chose, drugs over cheating. That's one thing I would never condone in a relationship. Not that I would want to be with a meth addict either! lol. maryjane I can handle.

SheSaid/HeSaid said...

Wow - what a choice!

I would rather have a partner who cheated on me. Coming from a family of alcoholism, I wouldn't wish chemical dependency on my worst nightmare. Plus, when addiction is involved, family and friends are also negatively impacted.

A cheater is just an ass - an addict is in need of help.

Becky said...

Oh sad. I hope I never have to choose but also feel like I can't say one way or the other ... too many scenarios with either.

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