How about being a Regular Contributor?

OKay.

I have decided that I want this blog to start rockin it again with postings daily and hot conversations in comments.

But I know it's been my fault and laziness.

February is the month of redemption I say.

SOOOOOOO...

What I want to know is if ANYBODY out there is interested in being a REGULAR CONTRIBUTOR to this blog.

It's volunteer work... the only payment you get is the knowledge that you are helping me out along with whomever reads your posts and learns from them!

You also have to sign your name in blood and stuff... but nothing to big.

If you want to be a regular contributor here at Real World then I'll link you up on the side bar and throw a Meet The BLogger form at you and we will get you rollin on the TOPIC emails I will be sending out again.

I will still ask for Guest Contributors and want them always always.

But I need some consistency and reliability with people who volunteer for a topic and then post it when I schedule it to be posted.

Let me know in comments if you're interested and/or via email @ blokthoughts@gmail.com

I still have these topics that need to be covered if anyone's willing to take them!

2. Money ruined my relationship because...

3. Our love isn't the same since we first met and it is a good thing because...

4. I love my kids but they have come between me, my significant other, and our sex life... (go anywhere from there)

5. My most embarrassing moment with my significant other...

6. My significant other wronged, lied, etc... yet I still love them... (go from there)

7. This one relationship in my life made me a better person because...

8. Common sense vs. book smarts-- HE said, SHE said? Or take it on yourself.

9. I found someone with not only good looks but smart, funny, and the rest of the package, but they don't belong to me...

10. I'm heavy and my spouse is not--it's a big deal/ or/ ISN'T a big deal because...

11. My co-worker sees me more than my significant other and it causes problems in my relationship because...

12. My significant other always makes us late or has to ALWAYS be 10 minutes early...

13. Make up your own topic... please, if you have a suggestion or have something you feel you NEED to talk about, write it in!!!

And, of course, any DEAR YOU letters!

Love all,

Shelle

Topics, Topics, and well... TOPICS!

Let's get right into this... you see a topic you like, either email me at blokthoughts@gmail.com, SUBJECT: TOPICS or comment here and tell me which number you are interested in.

1.  The relationship I have with my daughter differs from the one I have with my son because...

2.  Money ruined my relationship because...

3.  Our love isn't the same since we first met and it is a good thing because...

4. I love my kids but they have come between me, my significant other, and our sex life... (go anywhere from there)

5.  My most embarrassing moment with my significant other...

6.  My significant other wronged, lied, etc... yet I still love them... (go from there)

7.  This one relationship in my life made me a better person because...

8.  Common sense vs. book smarts-- HE said, SHE said? Or take it on yourself.

9.  I found someone with not only good looks but smart, funny, and the rest of the package, but they don't belong to me...

10.  I have a co-worker that drives me crazy because...

11.  My co-worker sees me more than my significant other and it causes problems in my relationship because...

12.  My significant other always makes us late or has to ALWAYS be 10 minutes early...

13.  Make up your own topic... please, if you have a suggestion or have something you feel you NEED to talk about, write it in!!!

So let me know if you want to Guest Contribute!!!

Until October...

Hey everybody!!!

Shelle here.

So I think since I haven't posted anything in this whole month of September that I'm going to take the rest of the month off.

I need to re-group.

Those of you that have volunteered for topics, you will be getting an email from me and a date I'd like you to post.

I'm going to still keep the TOPICS post... below this one up and I still need people to volunteer for topics.  It will slowly decrease in topics as they are taken... like the Facebook one, for instance is taken, so I'm taking that down... there are more but I have to go through emails to make sure which ones are and which ones still need to be taken.

I love those of you who are volunteering to help and tell me to tell you what to write, or if I need some help to let you know and you'll take the topic.  But it's much easier if you'll just choose a topic you have thought of yourself, or choose one on the list below.

If something screams someone's name that I know, then I do hit them up directly, but other than that, I have not time to even think about it!

This site only works if all of you are involved.  It's about learning from each other.  So when I say I'm thankful for your help and that you choose to take your talent and let me use it over here... I really am thankful.  And I have learned so much.

Until October...

Shelle

COME and Write for us!!! Topics Post!!!

So I called out to you guys to help me out with topics.  Thankfully I got some great friends to send me some topics quickly!  I do have some others, but I wanted to save some for the next topics post.

Okay so this is what happens.  You read through these topics.  If there is something you would like to write on then you email me at blokthoughts@gmail.com SUBJECT: Guest Contributor and then tell me which topic you would like to write on.  You can do that or comment below and let me know.  If there is a topic that you would like to have a He Said She said thing with... then let me know what that topic is and who you would like to write it with.

I also have openings always for Group Therapy, where you can just write in a question or problem you have and would like feedback or advice on.

I will take off topics as they get taken or "fill up".  Thanks everyone for all your nice emails and encouragement to keep this rolling.  Means a lot to me. :)


City Mom suggested these:  Thanks!

2. How about the differences between how men and women think?

3. When one spouse loves fitness and the other is a couch potato.

4.The Seasoned Marriage...You still love each other but the sex is a lil too vanilla.

5. How I taught my kids about sex OR (this works) How I discovered my son was not a virgin (tricky mom shares snares)

6. Jack of All Trades (make that Jackie) - I have many skills and hobbies,  but I'm not an expert on any one thing.

7. Mistakes I made raising my kids.  A quick and easy guide for the new parent.

Nitebyrd suggested these-THANKS!:


9. Are you unhappy in your marriage but can't divorce due to financial/health/child issues?

10. What ways have you cut back to save money in this economy?

11. Are you tired of always initiating sex?

12. Does your spouse/SO know that you blog? Why or Why not?

13. How do you deal with a special needs child? And how does it enhance or deter from your other relationships in your family?

14. Are you a romantic married or partnered with a non-romantic?

Thank again everyone for all your help.  I will leave this post up for two days so we have time for people to read and respond to it.

COME AND GUEST CONTRIBUTE!!!

Love,

Shelle

So what I need from you guys... Group Therapy.

Image from HERE

Today is suppose to be Group Therapy.

I need therapy.

I'm out of topics.  Got nothin.

So what I need from you guys today and the next few days is either to THROW out topics either in the comment box or my email address blokthoughts@gmail.com SUBJECT line: RWTOPICS, OR tell me what you are going to write about in comments (with an attached email address) or email me what you want to write about and send me it and I'll publish it if it goes along with the blog.

If you didn't know yet, the person that helped me out with this blog is no longer around--so I'm trying to decide what I want to do next.  If I want to go about it alone, find another helper, or let the blog have a break for a while.

I still have a few things I need to post, a meet the blogger tomorrow and another one.  Elaina's getting to know her post for winning our little contest, and a few things people have sent in.  But then I'm done.

So I'm asking for your help.

If I don't get any... that's okay, I'll just take a break so that I can study up on how I want to continue with this blog.

I sure hope it's doing some good.

Love ya,

Shelle

Can you write? Will you for us? Here are some Topics!

Shelle EDIT: So we don't get everybody wanting one topic, I will be taking down topics that are being chosen and leaving ones that we still need someone to write on.  Thanks!  Also, if you have an idea for your own topic we would love to hear from you that way.  Remember you can write it anonymously and you can just email something you want discussed for Group Therapy!

We loved our Guest Contributors SO much that we want to throw out topics again and we want you guys to volunteer to write on them!!!

So here's the deal.  You read through the topics and if you feel there is one that you would like to write on you leave it in comments or you email me at blokthoughts @ gmail dot com SUBJECT: Guest Contributor RW, and tell us which topic you are interested in.

OR

Leave it in comments.

So PLEASE, if you are interested, PLEASE let us know and come write for us!

HERE are the TOPICS:

1. Are you afraid of the water? How does that filter down to your kids? If so, do you keep your kids away from water, or make sure they can swim? 

2. What's one thing you and your spouse look forward to in the summer? Do you have something that you guys just do to get time together that you can't do in the winter or other seasons?

5. My spouses/partners mistress is their job.  How do you make it work or NOT work?


7.  How has the economy affected your relationship? Good or Bad?


9. How do the kids being home all day in the summer change the family dynamics?

11. What is the one deal breaker in a relationship for you?

12. My spouse is NEVER wrong. Even when proven wrong they will continue to argue how they are right.

***The next ones I list are He said She said topics.  This means that you have a strong take on the topic, like, you see the RIGHT side of it and someone else sees the LEFT side of it.  Email us with which side you would like to write on. Now just because it says He said She said doesn't mean we have to have a he and a she, most importantly we have two opposite views.

HE said SHE said:

A) Privacy in the bathroom. Big deal or not big deal?

B) You found out your spouse is putting away money behind your back.  Okay? or Not Okay?

C)I believe that most "Mental Illnesses" can be overcome without the uses of drugs.  Agree or not Agree.

D) I believe Sex can be used as a tool to get what I want out of a relationship.

H) Are Daddy Bloggers different than Mommy Bloggers besides the fact that they stand up while peeing?

Okay guys!  Let us know in comments and/or emails!

Shelle

COME and GUEST CONTRIBUTE!

Like any relationship things change.

So is the blog.

Well kind of.

When I began this blog my vision was for it to be an outlet for people to write about their relationships. I still want that, but people are shy about it. I've always stressed that it is okay to be anonymous, writing under a pseudonym, but it has morphed into being more about the core contributors and their relationships rather than a community of people sharing stories and giving advice, or just empathizing with each other.

My Core writers are still the base of what holds this blog together and will remain that way. Their honesty and beauty in which they write make the foundation of this blog. But we are still missing our community.

We want to involve you in our clique, where everyday is a gathering of minds and opinions, everyone welcome.

So every so often I am going to write a TOPICS post. This post will have a list of topics that I would love to have addressed with two different opinions.

This is where YOU the reader come into play. I want these topics covered by GUEST CONTRIBUTORS, that means YOU!!!

I need your guys' help and stories. I want to learn from you. Some topics will have already been covered on the blog, some topics will be new, and some topics will come from other posts where I feel we need to delve down further on a subject.

Here's the skinny. Step-by-Step.

First the Topics: (Remember every topic can be related to any relationship, doesn't just have to be a normal married one. Could be parental, siblings, children, friends.)

1. How has blogging, facebook, twitter effected your relationship. I need a "Good for my Relationship" and a "Bad for my relationship" perspective.

2. When raising your children are you a united front or divided? (This could also work for those divorced with children because you still have to parent together).

3. How do you make religion work in your relationship, when you don't have the same religious beliefs? Do you sweep it under the rug or give it a good effort to work together.

4. How do you work through the awkwardness of making a relationship go from online to real life? (This could mean blogging friends or single dating)

5. Who is in control of your finances and how do you stay independent while also working together or do you feel you can't have it both ways, it's either HIS and HER money or OUR money?

6. Does your spouse play music you despise when on a road trip? how do u deal?

7. "Personal grooming" your spouse hates yours or you hate theirs.

8. My partner loves animals, I don't, how do you cope or don't you? Does it effect the relationship?

9. My spouse puts hobbies above me it seems (TV, computer, etc)?

10. My partner can't get enough of me and I could do with out. How do you work through that as a couple? Or do you?

11. Are there things you aren't interested in, in the bedroom, but your spouse is really curious about? Do you deny them or do you give in? How do you deal with that?

12. I or my Spouse is a scheduler and I am not. (That could be a co-worker, boss, friend, etc...)

13. My spouse and I continue to keep our relationship first by doing ________ ? (that could work with family or friends also)

14. The relationships I learned from to get to the "perfect someone" for me--your story.

15. My spouse or I deal with depression. How it effects the relationship. What we do. How we cope or not.

Next what we are going to ask you to do is email us if you would like to Guest Contribute on any of these topics. Let me just reiterate here, we WANT YOU to Guest Contribute, if either of us were any good at begging we would be doing that also!

 Shelle (The Queen Bee Venus Perspective) at blokthoughts@gmail.com. Put in the subject line: GUEST CONTRIBUTOR and then tell us what you want to write about.

Then I will tell you "OKAY the topic is yours" or "Sorry that one is already being covered, don't pass go, don't collect $200.00", or we will just ask you to please please please choose another topic.

Then you will get a calendar invite of the day we would like to post, when we figure out when that will be.

I would prefer that each topic have a MALE and FEMALE perspective but it isn't necessary.

After that, it is up to you to write the post and send it in so that we can get it scheduled.

We do have some boundaries and rules to how explicit you can get with your writing and what choice of words are allowed, but other than that we basically want you to write however it is that represents you and your perspective best.

That's it!

Pick a topic and email us!!!

Shelle

P.S. I can't believe I forgot. Feel free to send us topic ideas or even a topic that you would like, need, or want to write on. That would be awesome!