When did I know my spouse had the IT factor?
I was 18 when I met him.
At that time boys or men or guys were more a tool than anything else. Not a tool as in they bugged me but a tool as in they helped me... hehehe in the best way possible.
Guys for me were more for FREE movies, dinners, rides, clothes, travel, help with homework, and for a feel good make out session every once in a while. I also had a select few guys that were more the brother-friend type that I hung out with all.the.time. but could and would never think of doing anything more with then just be really good friends because that would be like doing MORE with your brother... and that's just wrong (plus I was never their type, as they eventually found out).
I didn't really NOTICE my husband at first. He was just another guy that started to hang around my group of friends. In fact, one day at a football game we both attended he attempted to say HI to me and I had NO idea who he was at first, and as soon as it dawned on me how I knew him (while giving him the nice HI-back-but-I-don't-know-you nod and smile) I still couldn't remember his name.
But that didn't last long. He came around so often that soon he became almost one of the girls. It would be my close girlfriends and I and HIM. My other girlfriend put first "I like him don't touch dibs" on him so I didn't go the "do I like him route". She called him... it was hands off for me.
But soon enough my girlfriend started dating someone else and with some betting late one night my husband and I had our first date planned. The date wasn't anything incredibly spectacular--he was MR. Tuesday in an abnormal string of dates that week (one every day and two on Saturday), but he was the hottest and we never wanted for conversation. One of my worst pet peeves was that usually with the cute guys I always had to keep up the conversation and although I don't mind hearing myself talk, it was still exhausting and boring once I ran out of things to ask and say.
So I knew he was hot, to me anyway and all my girlfriends, so he was good eye candy. We could talk until the wee hours of the morning and I wasn't the only one talking! He was funny--man was and IS he funny with quick wit (AND he laughed at my jokes, or at me, either way he seemed to get me) nothing else brought me quicker to crushing on a guy then quick wit, someone who could REALLY make me laugh out loud! If you have ever read my other blog you would know how into my religion I am... well so is he... and that was a definite turn on.
There is more but this is getting long and I probably lost half of you at paragraph two.
The IT factor came during the first kiss. True Story.
He had everything else, but when I knew I could spend the rest of my life with the guy (because I PROMISE you that marriage was the furthest from my mind) was when he kissed me.
Let me just say, the man can kiss.
And not just kiss, but like forget-what-you-were-saying-or-thinking kind of kiss, like limbs-go-weak kind of kiss, and I could never get enough.
After our first kiss I'll be honest, I never wanted to do much of anything else. I was not an unseasoned kisser. Sure I was a virgin in other aspects (like sex) but I was very practiced in the art of kissing and making out--let me not lie to you, I was a super slut when it came to kissing.
How very vain and selfish of me right? He had everything else but I never thought about spending any more time with him then the other guys until our first kiss. And being the gentleman (or wuss) that he is, he waited to kiss me. It took 3 MONTHS if I remember right!!! He blames it on moving away so we were long distance and he wasn't sure he wanted to lead me on since we were living far away from each other at the time... (rolls eyes) :)
Anyway... the IT factor, he's got it.
What about you guys? When did YOU know your partner had that IT factor? Was it the way they treated you? Was it their minds? What was it?