Wednesday, April 28, 2010

What Would You Rather Wednesday?

What Would You Rather...

Would you rather schedule sex 3-5 times a week (routine sex) consistently, OR have periods of lots of sex multiple times a day (amazing sex) and then periods of long droughts?

Would you rather have your spouse cheat on you but still be IN LOVE with you OR have a spouse that is loyal to you but isn't IN LOVE with you either.



Okay... so tell us, what would you do if you had to choose ONE or the OTHER?

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18 comments:

DCHY said...

Question #1 - experienced both...would rather have spontaneous sex...lends itself to amazing sex. So I pick amazing sex with droughts. LOL

Question #2 - I had a girlfriend cheat on me ONCE and I promptly threw her out. I'd rather have a loyal spouse.

Waking Beauty said...

I would rather have long periods of drought and then heart-pounding, legs shaking, body quivering, completely exhausting sex than have routing sex ANY day.

I would rather have loyal...

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

I think I'm with the others...I could never have sex again. So long droughts are okay with me :)

Wait...waking beauty, leg quivering? Completely exhausting? What is this you say? Hehehehehe.

Hmmmmm I almost would rather be happy and be cheated on rather than be complete strangers not in love and be unhappy!?

I have both and have never been cheated on, so I'm safe to pick that.

it's awesome when I stump myself! :)

Just Jules said...

Alright - I would definitely rather have the spontaneous amazing sex with droughts. I am ok with the droughts and being female can usually "make it rain" :) But I do not like feeling forced into sex.

Honestly and this opinion has changed in my 30's - I would rather have the loved and cheated on. I do not want the loyal and unloved. I could get a roommate - heck another dog if I wanted that. But, I tell my hubby all the time - if you are going to cheat, give me a heads up... maybe we could strike an agreeable arrangement ;)

Just Jules said...

that sounded bad. I don't want to be cheated on. but if he was tempted by the flesh and not the heart - it would be easier to understand.......

Alex said...

I would rather have periods of lots of sex and then periods of long droughts. I actually don't like sex on a regular basis. For me, it then becomes routine and I don't like that in the bedroom. It starts to feel like we are having sex because we have to, and not because we want to.

I would rather my husband cheat on me and be in love with me. I've been cheated on before and it's something I can handle and deal with. I cannot handle being with someone who doesn't love me.

Jules said; "but if he was tempted by the flesh and not the heart - it would be easier to understand."

Please correct me if I'm wrong, but from my experience (in general) men cheat because it's "temptation of the flesh" as Jules put it. Women (in general) cheat because of emotions.

If my husband were to cheat on me, that would be my first thought. Oh, well the lady was hot as hell. For me, that is a lot easier to handle. However, to find out your spouse has had an emotional affair is sometimes a lot more devestating than a sexual affair. At least, in my experience ...

Southern Sage said...

I'd rather lots of sex daily, if its sex with me it is always mind blowing if she allows it to be.

I don't care much about love. I'd rather have a partner that let e hit it whenever I wanted to and if she cheated would be smart and use protection!

Southern Sage said...

Or I'd rather have 7 mind blowing faithful sex partners that always wanted me.

Anjeny said...

For question #1: I've done both too so I would go with the schedule sex.

I'd take the loyal spouse.

Meagan@Megs7827 said...

Am I boring? Scheduled regular sex and the non cheater please.

Beryl said...

oh my hell...what diabolical mind composed these questions???! wow...I'll have to think about these. whoa.

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Beryl---ummmmm.... (shyly raises hand)

Hey! Is that your bra I'm seeing!?!?! ;)

heelsnstocking said...

im all for amazing spontanious sex with a drought! Although 11 months since me and the husband did so im thinking thats now classified as a national disaster and requires a concert to draw attention to it!

Be in love and cheated, love is more than fidelity.

xx

Waking Beauty said...

You know, now I'm rethinking my stance on the love/cheat thing. I don't really know...Jules, Heels and Shelle have spun my head 'round!

Oh, and sexiest Sage, I know you speak only the truth...

Joanna Cake said...

I am in a relationship where there are long period where we don't see each other so invariably the sex is riproaring and goes on for whole weekends sometimes :)

I would hate to have routine sex. That should definitely be an oxymoron!

As to the cheating thing, I dont believe that a man or woman can truly and wholeheartedly love their partner if they cheat on them. And the partner cannot truly and wholeheartedly love the cheater if s/he doesn't fulfil his needs in that area.

However, if the partner is able to overlook the lapses, then I guess that relationship works for them.

It wouldnt for me and a spouse who is loyal to you but isnt in love with you has, by definition, become just a friend

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Yes joanna we know the question is kinda illogical, BUT which one would u choose? The ceater or the loyal one?

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Waking Beauty--dont listen to me!!! I'm thinking about swinging the loyal friend way!!! Stand strong! ;)

Amanda said...

I'd rather have a lot of sex in one day and then not have to have it again for a long time.

As for the other option, I'll pass. You don't love someone if you cheat on them. No matter how people try to rationalize it.

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