What is your opinion about talking about sex with friends outside of your marriage?
I find that being able to compare my experience with that of a trusted close friend helps me feel validated in ways a man simply can't. It also focuses my attention on sex with my husband, and therefore I'm much more interested in actually engaging in sexual activities. I've gotten new ideas to spice up our sex life, and have learned to look at certain issues in new ways, which has helped me relax and enjoy sex more than ever before.
My husband feels incredibly threatened by the idea that would I share info about our sex life with anyone else. He believes that our experiences together should be kept just between us.
I've tried it his way -- and having a gag order placed on me completely kills my sex drive. He is miserable if he knows I am talking to my bff about private things. This puts a serious strain on our relationship. How do we resolve this impasse? For now, we're doing things his way, but I am having a hard time being censored and our relationship is just getting worse.
What do you think? What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom? Where do you put your boundaries about what is and isn't ok to talk about outside of your marriage?
1 year ago