My guy and I have the WORST communication.
It's something we and when I say we I mean I, want to work on.
But when we argue it is more like brothers and sisters who bicker at each other, but never really solving anything.
My husband is pretty chill... so he let's things build up... when he's mad and finally lets you know he slays you with WORDS attacking the juglar and no holds bar.
I was taught by example that when in an argument jump ship. Get out fast. Well, say what you have to say, put down the other, and THEN jump ship! Once you jump ship they (your spouse) will follow you and plead for you to forgive them and all will be well.
I tried that at the beginning of our marriage. The first time we fought and I was bawling and hysterical and he was a solid rock with NO emotions and a NO CARE attitude... I said the most hurtful things I could, grabbed my keys, and jumped ship.
Ya know what MSM did? He just let me.
He didn't follow, he didn't plead for my forgiveness... nothing.
I spent hours in a car, cold, and mentally weak. Analyzing and go over every word we said together... and in that state of mind I was saying things like, "It's over! I hate him! What did I get myself into!"
But it only took me one night like that to realize that jumping ship was NOT going to work on my guy.
But discussing is out of the question also. When we start to disagree over something that he knows is serious... all of a sudden he gets this overwhelming urge to sleep. He's absolutely EXHAUSTED... rolls eyes.
So we really haven't found a way to solve this issue. There are things that we don't agree on and yet we can't come to terms with agreeing to disagree because they are important issues... things that deal with family and money and careers.
So I'm excited to learn this week from the other contributors and also from you guys that comment and make this blog fun!
What's the best way for YOU guys to discuss important issues?
This commercial helped a TON... I think i might need to find away to install this contraption!
1 year ago