Monday, June 22, 2009

How the word Amaze became something MORE than just a word...

*** I edited out the previous story of why I wrote this post. It isn't necessary to the post. If you would like to read it, you can go HERE.

I remember words and phrases because of how they made me feel. Those words or phrases once ordinary, become something extraordinary and special just to me, and between him and I.

One example of this is the word AMAZE.

When my guy and I were dating it was long distance 95% of our pre-marriage relationship. During that time we had a lot of "incredible" weekends together.

There was never enough time, it was always hard when we parted, and we always had a date set for when we would see each other again. This was also pre-cell phone, so when we parted ways, we parted ways. No texting, no calling on the road, No TWITTER to chronicle our new found love!

It was horrible.

I would get a phone call, usually that night, to tell me he was home and safe so that I could go to bed.

Well one particular weekend it was to late to call, or I had missed his call and had fallen asleep, either way, I woke up the next morning frantic that I hadn't heard from him.

I called his work immediately. It was Monday morning.

MSM: "Hey, I got in so late I decided not to call and wake your whole house up."

Me: "Don't do that again. I don't care who you wake up, even if it's ME, please call when you make it back so I know you're safe, I'd tell you I can't sleep until you call, but then you would know I lie!"

MSM: Laughing he says, "Okay. You want to know something?"

Me: "Yea, what?"

MSM: "You amaze me. Really you do. The whole way home while I was driving, I couldn't stop thinking how amazing you are, and the coolest thing about you is you have NO IDEA...I don't know, I'm just...amazed."

You have to know, My Guy doesn't share his feelings, he doesn't like to say or even write a lot of "mushy" stuff, not that he doesn't feel it, he just says he feels awkward expressing it. So anything sensitive or sentimental pretty much puts me on cloud nine for WEEKS because they are so rare! :)

So that moment is etched in my mind. It really meant something. It was his way of telling me he cared for me beyond a casual fling.

I still can remember the chills and delicious feelings that washed over me as he said those words, that word... amaze.

And to this day I can't hear it or say it without thinking about that phone call.

I claimed it OUR word, kinda like our I LOVE YOU word without saying I LOVE YOU.

Words are powerful things. The feelings that they invoke are AMAZING, yet there is also the flip side to this, they can also bring about negativity and disaster.

So in your relationship now or in relationships past, what is that WORD or PHRASE that brought about a monumental moment or change? Why was it special or why was it monumental?

And guys that trudged through this post... do words or phrases even hold special meaning to you? Can words or phrases bring about monumental change when you think with the logical side of your brain? (that's a good interview question for my guy-hmmmm)

Feel free to share the good or the bad.

Mine was good because I am feeling all HIGH on my guy coming to the airport for me, and I'll be riding this train for awhile... but there have been plenty of the opposite in our 10 1/2 years of being together.

Okay, I'll be around today so I can't wait to hear what you guys have to say! :)



Blogging Mama Andrea said...

Thats so sweet. I don't think I have any words or phrases that bring up anything like that but one that makes us giggle every time is YBRB. We used to live right above the Mason Dixon line so...just think on it awhile.

I think it's little things that I remember most. Like the time this past winter when I was pretty depressed about being here and missing my family and Hubby actually sent me a card in the mail. So one day there it was. Just telling me thanks for all I do and that he loved me.

Of the two of us he's the mushy one and I'm the one who doesn't like to be mushy :)

Emily Anne Leyland ( Art-n-Sewl) said...

That is soooo sweet! Ughhhhh- I so know about the long distance thing. Loved that story girl, it took me back to my early days with hubby.

valerie said...

Your hubby is soo sweet! Mine is kind of like that too. Not too big on expressing mushy stuff so much. They do say that actions speak louder than words sometimes.

♥georgie♥ said...

Okay you are both so lucky to have each other!!! if my husband ever did anything like that i think i would faint...

that is so sweet and romantic

jess said...

I loved both your stories... When my husband and I were dating he had to work out of town quite often. One time, when he was supposed to be gone for a few days, I turned the corner to my house and there was a big red truck just like his. As I passed said big red truck I realized it was him.... As we both exited our cars he had a big bouquet of flowers and said "how is the most beautiful girl in the world?" Needless to say it was a monumental moment for me and we were married 3 months later..

How could I let someone like that slip away???

Devri said...

I love that kind of love!!!

what a sweet post!

IWA (e - va) said...

I love this post!

My word is MORE! Every time he's says the word, I swear I see a twinkle in his eyes and I get butterflies in my stomach all over again!

Its a long story and I won't write a novel here, but to sum it up.. a couple years ago we almost called it quits with our marriage, and then he told me something that changed my whole perspective about him and my life and because of it, I dont think I have ever been happier with my life or our marriage!

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Blogging Mama Andrea-- You are right... his actions are memorable for sure. It's those things I remember when I'm mad or sad or second guessing myself!

Emily-- long distance sucks period. But hindsight, I got to know him in another way that I hate to say, I wouldn't have been able to if we would have seen each other every day.

Valerie--you are right!!! Actions Do speak louder than words, but words are nice and memorable.

Georgie georgie georgie... believe ME, it DOESN'T happen a LOT.

JESS--Good girl, you found a keeper for sure and you're right, that was a no brainer! You are beautiful so it's not like he was lying! :)

Devri--sure sure, but what is YOUR story???

IWA-what a cliff hanger??? MORE is so interesting and now you've made me curious!

But believe it or not, my marriage also has had it's questionable moments to the point where I'm sure him as well as myself were thinking, "It would be so much easier to just give up".

If you ever want to, I'd love for you to share your story here as a guest contributor! Thanks! :)

T said...

I'll have to go with "appreciate" - of course he never says it in the sense of "hey, I really appreciate all the time you put into the PTA meetings" - he manages to convey a lot with his "'preciate ya"...

it started when we were dating, and has never really lost it's ability to make me smile and swoon!

Anonymous said...

First I threw up in my mouth at the description of the amaze.

Second if you have witnessed the absolute spanking I have been doling out at my place you already know my brain ONLY has a logical side.

You want another beer always makes me feel warm and fuzyy though.

Or when the bride says, "noooo just relax and lemme bring you some tea and your food and when ever you are ready I will draw ur bath.

Or when the government says yeah I think we will act like real conservatives and stop acting like azzhats, wait I haven't heard any of them say that lately.

binks said...

Seriously, Shelle, MSM is da bomb!

Unfortunately, the only little secret phrase was from the EX and dead beat, baby daddy. The word was Jelly (don't ask, long story) and now when ever I hear it, I sort of cringe.

Daddy Geek Boy said...

I wish I could think of a word or phrase that has that effect on me.