Monday, June 29, 2009

Baby Making

If you read my blog, you would know the new adventure we have started on. We are in the midst of trial of a fertility drug, Clomid.

Now this drug really makes a mess of your...in the bedroom time. At the beginning when I first take the meds, it's HORRIBLE mood swings and grumpiness for me. Then a week of happy. Then it's waiting around for the "Right time" to do....what is necessary!

The issue is....you are on a schedule of when you can and can't ....have relations.

As much fun as it is to know, Monday night I'm going to have .....time with my hubby. I also know that if something is bothering me or I'm mad at him for something....it's going on the back burner until after....things have been done.

My hubby is okay with this.

I'm on the fence. I want to have a baby SOOOOOO bad but at what cost??

My question to you is....do you ever 'push through' for the team, just to keep the peace?

20 comments:

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

I honestly can't say I have. But I'm not trying to be a baby making machine so I empathize with ya Kritta!

But I'm honestly, to be blunt, way selfish in bed.

I can't fake it. But of course there is times that you have to just look at him and say "Go ahead" and you both know and understand that only one person who is MALE is getting anything out of it... ya know what I mean!

But Girl... I say it IS WORTH IT! You want that little baby so bad. The reward will out weigh the cost! :)

I'm crossing my fingers for ya. LUB ya! :)

IWA (e - va) said...
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IWA (e - va) said...

Good Luck Kritta! Im rootin' for you!

Denise said...

Absolutely! If we put it in other perspective, something other than sex, it would become more clear. I don't want to take out the garbage this morning, and because my dear fiance said he was going to before he left for work and didn't, I'm stuck with the job. Not that S.E.X. is something that we should think of being "stuck" with, but the idea is the same. It gets done, because this is a two-part relationship, and the next time I don't feel like doing some "chore" (again, bad thing to think of S.E.X. as a chore) he's going to pick up the slack and get it done.

The point is, you absolutely have to put aside your own selfish desires, or lack of desire, and get the job done. This particular "job" is going to reap so many years of beautiful rewards that you will kick yourself in the rear for even feeling like this in the end. In the grand scheme of things, this is simple and easily overcome. Look at the end result, which is something that obviously makes you happy, and it might turn around your immediate perspective, at least enough to enjoy the moment at hand.

Missty said...

As far as others have said about faking. I just can't I have tried and I usually bust up laughing!! LOL But its not usually a worry for me. ;o)

As far as baby making, I am sorry it has been so hard for you. I think that would be such a difficult thing to have to go through.

My husband just looks at me and I think I am pregnat!


And last as for your question do you ever just "push through" for the team?

Sure, many ways. Thats part of marriage, isn't it? I give, he gives, I take , he takes. I have more patience some days, other days he does.

Good luck with all of this.

T said...

our kids... all 5 of them... weren't hard to create - just hard to get here!

It's worth it... and best of luck to you!

The Crash Test Dummy said...

I have never faked it. But I have definitely gone ahead and done it when I wasn't in the mood. And Usually I get in the mood somewhere along the line. I say YES go for it. Especially when you're trying to make a new baby. I'm so excited for you!

Homer and Queen said...

I have been there honey! It is hard, and then to think that you conceived a child when you were mad at each other!

Even if you are sad, tired, mad, whatever, enjoy the sex!!! I would love to tell you it will be worth it, but I gave birth to satan spawn and just got back from court with He-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named.

Good luck Kritta!

Anjeny said...

Hi Kritta...

I'm like Missty on the baby making, all my hubby has to do is look at me and I blow up like a balloon.

As for your question..yes I've done that a lot. I've never faked it but I've had to just go ahead with it just so he can get his satisfaction but with the promise from him that I will be collecting on it later...as in when I'm in the mood, he'll give it to me, he will drop whatever he's doing to let me have my share.

I think for your cause, any sacrifices you make will be totally worth it in the end. For the sake of creating the baby you want so badly, you should think about the little baby at those times you're mad at him or something is bothering you during your scheduled mating.

I wish you all the best Kritta. You are such a great mom and person, any kid will be fortunate to have you for a mom.

The Crash Test Dummy said...

Hey girl, I didn't know the comments were back on. Last night they were turned off at 122. I am rotflol at that crazy comment box.

You da bomb! You deserve to get pregnant. Especially since you and your hub are so polite about taking turns with positions. ha ha

Southern Sage said...

I fake it all the time!!!
Well not really.
Not ever.

I'm sureeeeeeeeeeeeee my bride is always rarin to go too! I mean we have mirrors here, I see what she sees, how could she not?

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Wait... Side View Mirrors from the dump?... those are thwarted!

They even say, things in this mirror are closer than they appear... or something like that?

THat's just scary...

hehehe...

I second what Denise says...

"The point is, you absolutely have to put aside your own selfish desires, or lack of desire, and get the job done. This particular "job" is going to reap so many years of beautiful rewards that you will kick yourself in the rear for even feeling like this in the end. In the grand scheme of things, this is simple and easily overcome. Look at the end result, which is something that obviously makes you happy, and it might turn around your immediate perspective, at least enough to enjoy the moment at hand."

Kinda love that... you a writer Denise???

springrose said...

When my Hubby and I were going thru this for 4 years, I repeat 4 years, we were put on clomid as well and told we had to do the deed every day untill my period came. At first hubby thought it was the most wonderful thing ever, me not so much. Then by the time my ovulation time came it was just another chore to check off the list of to do's that day. It is so hard, but you have to muddle thru, there is hope. I now have 5 munchkins and one on the way. This after we were starting to consider adoption!!

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Springrose I didn't know that! WOW... what a great story and such a lift me up for Kritta!

Sorry, just read that and thought I'd tell you how cool that is! :)

I can just imagine how it could become a chore... not fun.

The Crash Test Dummy said...

Wow! Springrose. I didn't know that either. That makes your pregnancy even more exciting.

And Sage, MIRRORS TOO! Oh my goodness! ha ha ha ha

Shelle, HA HA HA HA H! You crack me up!

Daddy Geek Boy said...

I'm a guy, so I've rarely found the need to "push through". However, when we were in baby makin' mode, there were a few times when it felt more like a chore than fun. But only a few.

But I think there's something great about knowing when you're going to get some. It can be fun and exciting. If done right, the whole day can be foreplay.

BeautifulWreck said...

I have! :)

As for Clomid. Evil. Just Evil.

Goodluck!

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

But I think there's something great about knowing when you're going to get some. It can be fun and exciting. If done right, the whole day can be foreplay.

So true Daddy Geek Boy... ForePlay all day is SOOOOO great... just the perfect thing to spice up the same ol same routine!

Kritta22 said...

Thanks for all the comments! seriously AWESOME!!

You guys are great!!

And thanks for the support with the baby making! :)

Casey said...

I used three rounds of Chlomid when we were trying to get pregnant with my first but I don't remember the mood swings. It did feel forced though since we had to time everything to the minute. Anything for a kid though, right? You can go back to spontaneity after you get the prize (but then you'll probably be too tired!). Good luck!

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