I took this to heart - and I dated... a lot... No, I wasn't slutty - I just liked to go out with different guys... and sometimes I got a little hooked on the flavor of the month - and then realized that it left a bad aftertaste in my mouth.
(okay - I'm going to beat this analogy to death eventually... be prepared!)
based on a recent comment (that was pointed out even MORE recently) I have to wonder...
Sexual Compatibility - is it automatic? Does it take work? I've been asked by friends how on earth I knew that Hub and I would "click" in that area before we got married... and I guess the answer is that we didn't know... but we did click - and the clicking just gets better over time.
I have to say that as far as sex goes I've just had the one flavor and never even had sampler spoons of others (unless by sampler spoons you mean a good make-out session... in which case it's a different story). I've got no major bedroom issues with my hub - it's all good there... but it's certainly gotten better over the years. There are some times that are better than others... based usually on my own health issues - but I don't read much into that. One bad day (night... afternoon... whenever...) does not mean that we're incompatible... anymore than one incredible night with a random hottie would mean that you're meant to be together forever. So for the two of us - practice has made perfect... most of the time...
I mean really - you're a musician and you practice every day you're going to get GOOD... it works for this too :)
I like my chosen flavor - (here's where we could but won't get into adding sprinkles and caramel sauce... I'm at the official edge of my "sexual discussion comfort zone" as it is) and I'll just have to be content with that because I'm not willing to go out sampling.
I had a friend (hey S! I know she's watching for this...) give me a NEW analogy this morning - because I know we've all had enough ice cream for the week... She was a delayed gratification girl also (and no, not lying about it...) and always was told "you wouldn't want a used pair of shoes would you?"... now we DO test drive our cars, and we DO try on our shoes... but when I try on my shoes I check for fit (attraction), I give them a little round the aisles (kissing), and I might even jog a little to see if they have good support (making out)... but I don't need to run a marathon in them to know if they're okay. I can choose to buy or not buy based on the try on... but after running the marathon - they won't take them back at the store...
I'm not living under a rock - I do know that the prevailing "wisdom" of society is that sex is no big deal... I just don't happen to agree. HOWEVER - I'm not here to judge anyone's Moral Standing - seriously. I'm (obviously) not the expert here... what's your take on it? Is Sexual Attraction Automatic? Worth the Work? Over-rated?
Post by T - but today T is for Trying