During the "dating years" my worst fear was hearing myself described by a guy as "special"... you know, as in - "hey, do you want to go out with my cousin? She's a special girl..." Hello! that's just code for "hey, she's not too easy on the eyes but if you can get past that you'll probably have some good conversation" The only thing worse - "She's got a sweet spirit"... words certain to guarantee excessive facial hair protruding from moles!
Nope, I wanted to hear "man, she's HOT!" (and yes, I know that under that make-up America Ferrera is a fine looking individual...)
Of course, being as I never actually went so far as to eavesdrop on my dates once they'd gone home I have no idea what was being said to roommates. Actually - that's not quite true... you see - ManOfTheHouse and I went out on one date and then a week later his roommate called to invite me to a movie...
Here's where I offer a few excuses for my stupid behavior:
1- I really thought it was a whole group going to the movie
2- I REALLY thought I was paying for myself... up 'til the point I had to put away my money
3- I assumed that (as girls would have done) that this guy had asked M.O.T.H. if he was going to date me again (and received a "no") before stepping in... and this bummed me out.
4- I'd been DYING to see the movie! (c'mon... it was A River Runs Through It... does that make me old?)
Excuses aside - I was dumb enough to accept. So I DO know that this guy described me in less than flattering terms. Perhaps it could have something to do with the fact that I felt uncomfortable the entire date and the guy drove me CrAzY? This guy actually warned M.O.T.H. not to marry me (based on his vast one date experience?) which luckily M.O.T.H. paid no heed to! but that's not the point...
What was my Point???? (sorry, I tend to ramble)
Okay - what are we looking for in a mate? More specifically - if we have that mate - how much effort should be put into maintaining that perfect body that attracted them in the first place.
I did the whole "diet" thing two summers ago - lost 30+ pounds and was... well, "pleased" with the reaction from M.O.T.H. - he appreciated that I was taking care of myself. I got many nice compliments and caresses on the shrinking areas of my body. He never once said "hey baby - get over here NOW because that sense of humor is turning me ON!" (hmmm... would that work too?)
I've had 5 children via C-section and fed them all in the "natural" style as babies... This has not been so kind to "the girls" who are now showing a little wear and tear... WonderBra or Surgery? No, sorry - the answer can't just be to let it all go, because with my height issues I prefer to look like an adult female and not a pre-pubescent teen. I've gotten a few "looks" from friends and family when the surgery option is discussed - but really... I'd seriously consider it if I had the cash.
Speaking of surgery - despite all that dieting (can we say Yo-Yo dieting?) lipo-suction is looking REALLY good to me right now! and maybe a little tummy tuck to rid myself of some excess skin... seriously guys - C-sections suck. A whole "mommy-makeover" (boobs, butt, and bulge) would be welcome (aside from the billing issue).
Here's the question - is it a cop-out? Could I accomplish the same thing with 5 years of exercise and dieting? Women - is this reasonable to consider? Men - is there a turn-off factor to knowing it's not all real?
Post By T - and today T stands for Tantalizing :)